Eat, Sleep, And Speak As Seldom As Possible
We previously touched upon the fact that the student of knowledge should eat little and from what is halal, “and the way to train oneself to overcome the desire of the stomach is to get used to being satisfied with little. So, one should slowly and gradually reduce his food intake so that he arrives at a moderate level, and the best of affairs are the moderate ones.
He cut himself down to just enough that he is not prevented from worship, and is able to preserve his strength. He should feel neither hungry nor full. Only then will his body become healthy, his aspirations high, and his conscience clear. If he eats any more than this, he will be driven to sleep more, and will have lower intellect.”86
As for your food being halal, this is required of every Muslim, and is even more required of the student of knowledge, as the student of knowledge is the bastion of knowledge of what is halal and haram, and we’ve already touched upon the issue of caution when it comes to food and drink, and how the Prophet (peace be upon him) held back from eating a date that he found on his bed out of fear that it was from the charity, since charity was not permissible for him (peace be upon him).
So, the student of knowledge is too busy to think of food and drink, and the one who sees through the glitter of this life will not be fat. Rather, his passion makes him forget to eat a lot. Here is Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah, who “was never heard asking for food - dinner or supper – no matter how long he remained busy with some matter related to knowledge and action. Rather, he would sometimes be given food that he would leave for a long time before even turning to it, and if he ate from it, would only eat small bits. He would never mention the delights of this world, and would never speak or ask about it. Rather, all of his concern and conversation was in seeking the Hereafter and what could bring him closer to Allah, the Exalted.”87
an-Nu’man bin Bashir narrated that ‘Umar bin al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with them both) was mentioning the poverty that the people had become stricken with, saying: “I saw the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) spend the whole day upset because of hunger, as he could not get even low quality dates with which to fill his stomach.”88
Abu Hurayrah passed by a group of people who were eating a roasted sheep, and they invited him to sit and eat with them. He refused, saying: “The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) left this world without even satisfying his hunger with barley bread.”89
And Anas bin Malik (may Allah be Pleased with him) said: “The Prophet (peace be upon him) never ate his meals at a dining table or in an individual plate, and he never ate thin, well-baked bread until he died.”90
- Sleeping -
As for sleeping: “The student of knowledge should reduce it as much as he can without hurting his body and mind, and he should not sleep more then eight hours a night – one third of his time – and if he is able to sleep less than this, he should.”91
az-Zarnuji (may Allah have Mercy on him) said:
“al-Hasan bin Ziyad began studying at the age of 80, and for forty years, he did not sleep an entire night on his bed, and Muhammad bin al-Hasan ash-Shaybani would not sleep at night.
He would place his books in front of him, and if he became bored of one book, he’d move on to another. He would also place in front of him a container of water that he’d use to keep himself awake, saying: “Sleep comes from heat, and one must repel it with cold water.””92
And Abu Hurayrah narrated that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “When any one of you goes to sleep, Satan ties three knots at the back of his neck, sealing each knot by saying: ‘You have a long night. So, sleep.’ So, if one wakes up and mentions Allah, a knot is loosened. If he performs ablution, two knots are loosened. And if he prays, all the knots will be loosened, and in the morning he will be active and in a good mood.
Otherwise, he will be in a bad mood and sluggish in the morning.”93
And ‘Abdullah bin Mas’ud (may Allah be Pleased with him) narrated that mention was made of a man who slept the whole night till morning. So, the Prophet (peace be upon him)
remarked: “That is a man in whose ears Satan has urinated.”94
And Allah praised the righteous people, referring to them as good-doers because they would sleep very little at night:
{“Verily, the righteous will be in the midst of gardens and springs, taking joy in the things which their Lord has given them. Indeed, they were good-doers. They used to sleep little at night, and in the hours before dawn, they were found asking for Forgiveness, and in their wealth was a right for the beggar and the poor.”}95
Ibn Kathir (may Allah have Mercy on him) said:
“His Saying {“… joy in the things which their Lord has given them…”} means that the righteous, since they are in gardens and delight, are enjoying what their Lord has given them of happiness, delight, and bliss. His Saying {“…Indeed, they were…” } is in regards to the worldly life, and {“…good-doers…”} is like His Saying:
{“Eat and drink in relaxation because of what you did before in days past!”}96
Then, He shows us what good they used to do, Saying: {“…They used to sleep little at night…”} Ibn Jarir at-Tabari said: “Their rest and sleep took up a very small portion of the night.” al-Hasan al-Basri said: “They would spend the night in prayer, and would not sleep except for a short time. Then, when they had some energy, they would make istighfar until dawn.” Qatadah said that al-Ahnaf bin Qays would say: “They would sleep for only a little while,” and then say: “I am not from those described in this verse.” Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be Pleased with him) and Ibrahim an-Nakha’i said: “They would sleep very little.””97
- Silence -
As for reducing your level of speech, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him say what is good or remain silent.”99
an-Nawawi said:
“This means that if one wants to say something, he should to whether what he wants to say is definitely good and praiseworthy, obligatory or encouraged. If so, he should say it. If he doesn’t see that it is good and praiseworthy, he should not say it, whether it is forbidden, disliked, or permissible – they are all the same. In this case, speech which is normally allowed should be avoided out of fear that it can lead to forbidden or disliked speech, and this happens a lot. Based on this hadith, al-Imam ash-Shafi’i (may Allah be Pleased with him) said that if you wish to say something, let him think. If you conclude that there is no harm, speak.
If you conclude that your words will bring about harm, do not speak.”100
Ibn Hajar (may Allah have Mercy on him) said:
“And this is from his (peace be upon him) ability to combine many meanings on few words, as every statement is good, bad, or leaning to one of the two. Included under good speech is everything obligatory or encouraged, and he allowed this speech despite its various types, as well as anything that could lead to it. As for speech that is bad or could lead to what is bad, he commanded us to be quiet if we ever wanted to indulge in it.”101
Ibn ‘Abd al-Barr (may Allah have Mercy on him) said:
“From the tests that the scholar is put through is that he likes to talk more than he likes to listen. Yazid bin Abi Habib said: “Listening is safe and increases one’s knowledge, and the listener is the partner of the speaker. Talking consists of confusion and deception, excess and deficiency. The one who talks awaits fitnah, and the one who listens awaits mercy.” And Abu adh-Dhiyal said: “Learn to be quiet just as you learn to talk, because if talking guides you, being quiet protects you. By being quiet, you attain two characteristics: you are able to take knowledge from those more knowledgeable than you, and you are able to repel the ignorance of those more ignorant than you.” Speaking about good things is a prize and is better than silence, because the best thing that silence has to offer is safety, and by speaking what is good, you actually gain something extra. It was said: “Whoever speaks what is good wins, and whoever remains silent is saved,” and speaking about knowledge-related matters is from the best of actions, and it is of the same level as dhikr and recitation of the Qur’an if it is done to repel ignorance, attain the Pleasure of Allah, and discover the reality of its meanings.”102
Abu Hatim said: “Two men went to seek knowledge. When they became learned, one of them became known as a speaker, and the other came to be known as quiet. So, the speaker wrote to the quiet one:
I never sought to gain anything in life * With something better than my tongue...
So, the quiet one wrote back:
And I never sought to gain anything in life * With something that deserved to be imprisoned more than the tongue…103
- The Sins Of The Tongue -
Ibn Qudamah (may Allah have Mercy on him) said:
“The sins of the tongue are many. They have a certain taste in the heart, and they spring forth from a person’s nature. There is no way to be saved from their danger except to remain silent. Abu ad-Darda’ (may Allah be Pleased with him) said: “Use your ears more than your mouth, as you were given two ears and one mouth so that you’d listen more than you talk,” and Makhlad bin al-Husayn said: “For fifty years, I haven’t spoken a single word that I regret.” As for the sins of the tongue, they are:
• Speaking about what does not concern you:
Know that he who values his time will not waste it in what doesn’t benefit him, and this is a realization that mandates the imprisonment of the tongue from what is of no concern to him. This is because the one who leaves off the remembrance of Allah and instead busies himself with what doesn’t concern him is like the one who is able to buy a gem, and instead buys some mud, and this is the loss of a lifetime.
It was said to Luqman (peace be upon him): “How did you become so wise?” He replied: “I do not ask for what I don’t need, and I don’t speak about what doesn’t concern me.” And it was narrated that Luqman (peace be upon him) entered upon Dawud (peace be upon him) while he was putting together his armor. He was amazed at what he was seeing, and wanted to ask what he was doing. However, his wisdom prevented him from doing so.
When Dawud (peace be upon him) was finished welding his armor, he got up, put it on, and said: “How excellent is this armor for warfare!” Luqman (peace be upon him) said: “Silence is from wisdom, and those who practice it are few.” • Talking about falsehood:
This is when a conversation revolves around talk of sins, such as talking about bars and places where the sinners gather.
The types of falsehood are many, and Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be Pleased with him)
narrated that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Indeed, the slave can speak a single word that will cause him to be thrown into the Fire as far as the distance between the East and the West.”106 Similar to this is when one argues and debates insistently with a person in order to expose his shortcomings, and this is all done out of the desire to be noticed.
So, the person should forbid what is evil with his tongue and clarify what is right. If this is not accepted from him, he should avoid arguing. This is if the issue has to do with religion.
If it is a worldly matter, there is no reason to argue over it. The way to succeed in this is to swallow your pride, which is what drives you to make yourself look good. And what is worse than arguing is fighting and disputing, and we mean here disputing without knowledge.
However, whoever has the right to argue should avoid doing so, as it agitates the heart, inflames anger, creates envy, and results in people attacking each other’s honor.
• Talking with excessive eloquence:
This is when one speaks in too much rhetoric. This does not include the eloquence of a khatib, or that one gives a reminder without being too detailed or hard-to-understand in his speech, because the whole point of such speeches is to move and motivate the hearts with the simplest words possible.
86 ‘Mukhtasar Minhaj al-Qasidin’ (p. 163)
87 ‘Ghayat al-Amani’ (2/173)
88 ‘Sahih Muslim’ (2978)
89 ‘Sahih al-Bukhari’ (5414)
90 ‘Sahih al-Bukhari’ (5415)
91 ‘Tadhkirat as-Sami’ wal-Mutakallim’ (p. 77)
92 ‘Ta’lim al-Muta’allim wa Turuq at-Ta’allum’ (p. 23)
93 al-Bukhari (1142) and Muslim (776)
94 al-Bukhari (3270) and Muslim (774)
95 adh-Dhariyat; 15-19
96 al-Haqqah; 24
97 ‘Tafsir al-Qur’an al-‘Adhim’ (4/233)
98 ‘Taysir al-Karim ar-Rahman’ (8/23)
99 Reported by Ahmad (2/267, 433, and 463), al-Bukhari (6018, 6136, and 6475), Muslim (47), Abu Dawud (5154), at-Tirmidhi (2500), and Ibn Hibban (506 & 516)
100 ‘Sharh Sahih Muslim’ (2/18)
101 ‘Fath al-Bari’ (1/461)
102 ‘Jami’ Bayan al-‘Ilm wa Fadlih’ (1/182)
103 ‘Lubab al-Adab’ (p. 274)
104 ‘Kitab as-Samt wa Adab al-Lisan’ (p. 558)
105 ‘Kitab as-Samt wa Adab al-Lisan’ (p. 206)
106 al-Bukhari (6477) and Muslim (2988)
107 Reported by Muslim (2589), Abu Dawud (4874), and at-Tirmidhi (1934)
108 ‘as-Silsilah as-Sahihah’ (1034) and ‘Sahih al-Jami’’ (7672)
109 al-Hujurat; 12
110 Reported by al-Bukhari (3493, 6058, and 7179), Muslim (2526), Abu Dawud (4872), at-Tirmidhi (2025), Ibn ‘Abd al-Barr in ‘at-Tamhid’ (18/261), and Ibn ‘Asakir in ‘Mu’jam ash-Shuyukh’ (2/1008)
111 ‘Mukhtasar Minhaj al-Qasidin’ (p. 166-179)