Have The Best Manners With Your Teacher
Allah clarified in His Book – and He is the Lord of the hearts, and the Knower of the Unseen – that a reminder does not awaken everyone, and it does not benefit all who hear it.
Rather, there are conditions and restrictions to this:
{“Verily, therein is indeed a reminder for he who has a heart or gives ear while he is heedful.”}128
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have Mercy on him) said:
“If you want to benefit from the Qur’an, gather your heart when it is recited, focus your hearing, and act like you are being directly addressed by Allah, as it is an address from Him to you upon the tongue of this Messenger (peace be upon him), as the Exalted Said:
{“Verily, therein is indeed a reminder for he who has a heart or gives ear while he is heedful.”} And this is because gaining the most benefit and effect from something depends on the object causing the effect, the accompanying target that will feel that effect, the conditions necessary for that effect to be felt, and the removal of what that effect is meant to remove.
All of this is found in the above verse in the most clear and concise manner possible:
{“Verily, therein is indeed a reminder…”} referring to everything from the beginning of the surah to this point.
And His Saying {“…for he who has a heart…”} is referring to the target of the affect, meaning the heart that is alive and knows Allah, as Allah Said in another verse:
{“Indeed, it is a reminder and a clear Qur’an to warn he who is alive…”}129
Meaning, has a heart that is alive.
His Saying {“…or gives ear…”} means that he directs his listening and focuses his senses to what is being said to him, and this is from the conditions of being affected by words that are spoken.
His Saying {“…while he is heedful…”} means that he has a heart that is present and not absent. Ibn Qutaybah said: “He listens to the Book of Allah while his heart and comprehension are there, and he is not distracted.” This is an indication of what is meant to be removed by the effect of the Qur’an, which is the distraction and absence of the heart, its inability to understand what is being relayed to it, and its lack of insight and reflection upon it.
So, if the source of the effect is there (the Qur’an), and the target of the effect is there (the heart that is alive), and the conditions of feeling the effect are there (to focus and pay attention), and the removal of the obstacle is there (the distraction of the heart and inability to understand the meaning of what is being said) – with all of these factors are present, the result is achieved (the effect and benefit of the Qur’an and reminder is felt).
So, knowledge is only attained by humbly lending one’s attention and focus. ash-Sha’bi (may Allah have Mercy on him) said: “Zayd bin Thabit prayed a funeral prayer. A mule was then brought for him to ride away on, and Ibn ‘Abbas came and took hold of its reigns to lead him away. So, Zayd said to him: “Let go of it, O cousin of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him).” Ibn ‘Abbas said: “This is how we were commanded to treat the scholars!””130
And the Salaf used to look with the utmost reverence and respect to those they learned from, and this is evident when looking at their manners in attending circles of knowledge, specifically how they would honor their teachers. al-Khatib reported many such narrations:
“al-Mughirah said: “We would honor Ibrahim an-Nakha’i just as one would honor the ruler.” Ayyub said: “A man would sit with al-Hasan for three years and not ask him anything out of awe and respect for him.” Ishaq ash-Shahidi said: “I would see Yahya al-Qattan praying ‘Asr. He would then lean on the base of the mosque’s minaret, and standing in front of him would be ‘Ali bin al-Madini, ash-Shadhakuni, ‘Amr bin ‘Ali, Ahmad bin Hambal, Yahya bin Ma’in, etc. – all asking him about Hadith while they were standing up. This would go on until the Maghrib prayer, and he would not offer any of them to sit, and none of them would sit out of awe and respect of him.” al-Ghulabi said: “Ibn al-Khayyat praised Malik bin Anas, saying:
He gives his answer without reducing his awe * While those asking him have their chins raised; The light of tranquility and the honor of righteous authority * This is how they respect him without him being an authority… And ‘Abd ar-Rahman bin Harmalah al-Aslami said: “Nobody dared to ask Sa’id bin al- Musayyab about anything until he would seek his permission, just as the ruler’s permission is sought for something.””131
“And it is said that ash-Shafi’i (may Allah be Pleased with him) was criticized for his humility to the scholars, and he said:
I humble myself to them, and they honor me * And you will not be honored unless you humble yourself… And Ahmad bin Hambal (may Allah be Pleased with him) said to Khalaf al-Ahmar (may Allah have Mercy on him): “I will not sit except between your hands. We were commanded to be humble to those we learn from.””132
“The seeker of knowledge should submit to his teacher in his affairs, and he should not seek to contradict and oppose him in his opinions and decisions. Rather, he should be with him like the sick is with his doctor – consulting him in what he wants, intending his pleasure, protecting his honor, and gaining nearness to Allah by serving him. He should realize that humility to his shaykh is an honor, and lowering yourself for him raises you.
The student of knowledge should look to his teacher with the eye of awe and respect, as this will help him to benefit from him. Some of the Salaf would give some charity before going to visit their shaykh, saying: “O Allah! Hide the faults of my shaykh from me, and do not prevent me from the blessing of his knowledge.””133
“And ash-Shafi’i (may Allah have Mercy on him) said: “I would turn the pages of my books in front of Malik (may Allah have Mercy on him) in a very soft, quiet way so that he wouldn’t be bothered by its noise, out of respect for him.” And Hamdan al-Asfahani said: “I was with Sharik (may Allah have Mercy on him), and some of the children of the Khalifah al-Mahdi came to him. So, he leaned against the wall, and did not turn to them when they asked him about a hadith. They then came back and forth, asking the same question until they said: “Do you belittle the children of the rulers?” So, Sharik said: “No. However, knowledge is more valuable with Allah than that I give it in such a manner.” So, the men sat down, putting their knees on par with his knees, and he said: “This is how knowledge is to be sought.””134
“And he should not address his shaykh in an informal way, and should not call him from a distance.
And al-Khatib said: “He should not say ‘O teacher!’ or ‘O scholar, what do you think about this? What is your take on this?’ etc. Also, he shouldn’t refer to him by his first name in his absence except by attaching to it a title of respect, such as ‘Shaykh,’ ‘Ustadh,’ or ‘Shaykhuna.’ And he should know the rights of his shaykh upon him, and should not forget his virtue over him, and should put great importance on protecting his honor and repelling any backbiting of him. He should become enraged for his sake, and if he is unable to do this, he should get up and leave any gathering where this is taking place. He should supplicate for his shaykh during his life, and he should tend to his family, children, and friends after his death. He should visit his grave and ask Allah’s Forgiveness for him and give charity on his behalf. He should imitate him in being calm, quiet, and guided, and should imitate his habits in knowledge of the Religion. He should imitate his movements in his regular habits and worship, and adopt his manners. Essentially, he should take him as an example.”135
- Dealing With A Harsh Teacher -
And the student of knowledge should be patient with the harshness of his teacher, and should be soft with him. al-Khatib reported that ash-Shafi’i said: “Two men used to visit al- A’mash. One of them was interested in Hadith, and the other was not. So, one day al-A’mash got mad at the one who was interested in Hadith. The other man said: “If he got mad at me the way he did at you, I wouldn’t come back to him.” So, al-A’mash said: “Therefore, he is an idiot like you. He leaves what will benefit him due to my bad manners.”””136
And ash-Shafi’i (may Allah have Mercy on him) narrated a similar incident from Sufyan bin ‘Uyaynah, where it was said to Sufyan: “These people come to you from all corners of the world, and you get mad at them?! They can all get up and leave you!” He said: “If they did this, they would be idiots, as they leave what will benefit them due to my bad manners.””137
Ibn Jama’ah (may Allah have Mercy on him) said:
“The seeker of knowledge should withstand his teacher’s harshness and bad treatment, and this should not turn him away from him. He should give him the benefit of the doubt when it comes to any bad actions on his part, and should respond to any harshness from his shaykh by apologizing himself, repenting to Allah, seeking His Forgiveness, and placing the blame on himself. This will preserve his love for this shaykh, will protect his heart, and is more beneficial for the student in this life and the next.
Some of the Salaf said: “Whoever is not patient upon the humiliation of learning will spend the rest of his life in the blindness of the ignorant, and whoever is patient upon it will spend this life and the next in a state of honor.” Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be Pleased with him): “I humbled myself as a student. So, I became honorable as a teacher.” Mu’afi bin ‘Imran said: “The one who gets mad at a scholar is like the one who gets mad at the university teacher.””138
ash-Shafi’i said:
Be patient upon the sourness and dryness of knowledge * Because failure in knowledge is in turning away from it; And he who doesn’t taste the sourness of knowledge for an hour * Will swallow the humiliation of ignorance for his whole life; And he who allows knowledge to pass him by in his youth * Will awake to the funeral prayer being prayed for him… And Ibn ‘Abd al-Barr (may Allah have Mercy on him) reported that Ibn Jurayj said: “I did not gain what I gained from ‘Ata’ except with my softness with him,” and Ibn Tawus from his father said: “From the Sunnah is that the scholar be honored.””139
As a seeker of knowledge, beware of arguing with your teacher, as this is evil in its purest form, and is even more evil when done with his teacher and example, and it is the reason for being prevented from much good.
“Maymun bin Mahran said: “Do not argue with one who is more knowledgeable than you, because if you do, he will keep his knowledge from you, and you will not harm him in the least,” and az-Zuhri said: “Salamah used to argue with Ibn ‘Abbas, and was prevented from much knowledge because of this.””140
- The Manners Of Visiting Your Shaykh -
If you find your shaykh sleeping, do not ask to see him. Rather, sit and wait until he wakes up, or leave if you wish.
al-Khatib al-Baghdadi (may Allah have Mercy on him) reported:
“Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be Pleased with him) said: “When the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) died, I said to one of the Ansar: “Come. Let us go ask the Companions of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), as they are plenty in number today.” He said: “I am amazed at you, Ibn ‘Abbas! Do you think they will pay attention to you when the most important of the Companions are amongst them?” So, I left him, and I began to ask the Companions of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) about Hadith. If I heard that a man had a hadith with him, I would go to his door, and if I found him sleeping, I would spread a blanket on the ground in front of his home and wait for him. The wind would blow dirt on me, and he would eventually come out saying: ‘O cousin of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him)! What brings you here? Why didn’t you send for me? I would’ve come to you.’ I would say: “It is more incumbent upon me to come to you,” and I’d ask him about the ahadith of the Prophet (peace be upon him). That Ansari man lived until he saw the people gathering around me and asking me, and he would say: “That young boy was smarter than me!”” And Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be Pleased with him) said: “I found most of the knowledge of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) in this neighborhood of the Ansar. I would wait at the door of one of them, and if I wanted permission to enter, I would’ve gotten it.
However, I wanted him to be pleasant when meeting me.” And Sufyan bin ‘Uyaynah narrated that Abu al-Husayn said: “Ibn ‘Abbas used to go to one of the Companions of the Prophet (peace be upon him), seeking to ask him about Hadith. It would be said to him: ‘He is asleep.’ So, he would lay down in front of his door waiting for him, and it would be said to him: ‘Do you want me to wake him up?’ He would say: “No.” And Ma’mar narrated that az-Zuhri said: “If I came to ‘Urwah’s door, I could’ve entered if I wanted to. However, I would sit outside and wait out of respect for him.””141
Ibn Jama’ah said:
“As a student of knowledge, one shouldn’t enter upon his shaykh without his permission if not in a public circle of knowledge, whether the shaykh is alone or with someone else. If he is granted permission and the shaykh knows who he is, he can enter. If not, he should leave, and he shouldn’t repeat his request for permission to enter. If he doubts whether or not the shaykh knows it was him, he should not request permission to enter more than three times through by either knocking on the door or ringing a bell. If he knocks on the door, let it be in a light, polite manner. He should tap with his fingers the first and second time, then with his knuckles the third time. If he is far from the door, there is no problem in him knocking a bit harder with his knuckles as much as would allow his shaykh to hear, and not any louder. If he grants permission and they are a group who are coming to see him, the best and oldest of them should enter first and greet him. Then, the next best should enter and greet him, and on and on.”142
128 Qaf; 37
129 Ya Sin; 69-70
130 ‘al-Fawa’id’ (p. 5)
131 ‘al-Jami’ li Akhlaq ar-Rawi wa Adab as-Sami’’ (1/184)
132 ‘Tadhkirat as-Sami’ wal-Mutakallim’ (p. 87)
133 ‘Tadhkirat as-Sami’ wal-Mutakallim’ (p. 88)
134 ‘al-Majmu’’ (1/36)
135 ‘Tadhkirat as-Sami’ wal-Mutakallim’ (p. 89)
136 ‘al-Jami’ li Akhlaq ar-Rawi wa Adab as-Sami’’ (1/222)
137 ‘Tadhkirat as-Sami’ wal-Mutakallim’ (p. 90) and ‘al-Jami’ li Akhlaq ar-Rawi wa Adab as-Sami’’ (1/223)
138 ‘Tadhkirat as-Sami’ wal-Mutakallim’ (p. 91)
139 ‘Jami’ Bayan al-‘Ilm wa Fadlih’ (1/171)
140 ‘Jami’ Bayan al-‘Ilm wa Fadlih’ (1/171)
141 ‘al-Jami’ li Akhlaq ar-Rawi wa Adab as-Sami’’ (1/222)
142 ‘Tadhkirat as-Sami’ wal-Mutakallim’ (p. 93)
143 al-Albani declared it authentic in ‘Sahih al-Adab al-Mufrad’ (828)
144 al-Bukhari (6250) and Abu Dawud (5187)
145 al-Bukhari (6241 & 6901) and Muslim (2156)
146 ‘Tadhkirat as-Sami’ wal-Mutakallim’ (p. 95)
147 ‘Tadhkirat as-Sami’ wal-Mutakallim’ (p. 95)
148 ‘Tadhkirat as-Sami’ wal-Mutakallim’ (p. 97)
149 ‘al-Jami’ li Akhlaq ar-Rawi wa Adab as-Sami’’ (1/192)
150 ‘Tadhkirat as-Sami’ wal-Mutakallim’ (p. 101-112)