什么是“超性者”（extrasexual）？这是我自己造的一个词，但它与当今人们对LGBT问题的困惑密切相关。近期一些科学研究声称，人们是否倾向于不忠，是由生物学决定的。依此推论，我们可以说，不忠的倾向构成了人们天生且不可改变的性取向的一部分。基于此，是否有必要据此将人们划分为身份群体或社群？例如，那些更容易出轨的人是否会自认为“超性者”，而其他人则自认为“内性者”（intrasexual）？是否会出现“超性者骄傲游行”和“超性者权利运动”，要求伊斯兰学校和天主教学校为“另类（读作‘通奸’）生活方式”留出空间，并给予出轨者大声发声的机会？如果这些机构拒绝，是否会被污名化为“超性恐惧症”（extraphobia）？ 我们可以把这一手法套用到任何性行为或性倾向上，从而以“反歧视”的名义，据此去支配和控制宗教机构。事实上，近来像“德行恋童者”（Virtuous Pedophiles）这样的团体，正是沿着完全相同的逻辑进行论证，这表明那些要求承认并接纳LGBT身份的诉求，其实是多么偶然且主观。

What is an extrasexual? Well, it’s a term I made up, but it is very relevant to the LGBT confusion we are seeing today. Recent scientific research claims that people’s inclinations or disinclinations to commit infidelity are biologically hardwired. Given this, we could say that the tendency to be unfaithful constitutes a portion of people’s inherent, immutable sexual orientation. Based on this, would there be a need to categorize people into identity groups or communities based on that? For example, would those with a greater pull to cheat self-identify as “extrasexuals” with everyone else identifying as “intrasexuals”? Would there be “extrasexual pride parades” and an “extrasexual rights movement” that would demand that Islamic and Catholic schools make space for “alternative (read, ‘adulterous’) lifestyles” and give voice to loud and proud cheaters? Would refusal by these institutions then be stigmatized as “extraphobia”?” We can duplicate this maneuver for any given sexual behavior or inclination and thereby dictate to and control religious institutions accordingly, all on the basis of “anti-discrimination.” In fact, in recent times, groups like the Virtuous Pedophiles have argued along these exact lines, which goes to show how contingent and subjective the appeals to recognize and accommodate LGBT identities really are.

现在还没有“外遇性权利”运动，但将来不是没有可能出现。为什么不会？他们与自认为LGBT的人一样，同样有主张被接纳的理由。这个身份群体随后可能会主张：几乎所有宗教，甚至大多数世俗伦理准则都谴责通奸，因此这些都是“反外遇”的，需要进行深刻的自我反省，清除其中的仇恨；政府需要介入，确保所有机构都接纳外遇者的声音，并照顾他们的观点，诸如此类。“这些穆斯林和基督徒凭什么告诉我该怎样生活？！难道他们不知道这就是我的本性，我有追求幸福的权利吗？难道他们不知道，说出轨是罪过，会给人造成多大的心理伤害吗？！这些伤口何时才能愈合？” 所以，确实有人受到同性吸引的困扰，也有人容易产生出轨的欲望。我并不否认这一点，也不否认这些人对涌现出的欲望无法选择。但他们确实可以选择不以此塑造自我身份，不依此来定义自己。我们需要支持人们去管理和克服欲望。说实话，我们每个人都需要在管理欲望方面得到支持，因为这是影响所有人的事情。人正是这样被造的，而这也是今世的核心考验之一。

Right now, there isn’t an extrasexual rights movement, but there could be one day. Why not? They would have as much claim to acceptance as self-identifying LGBT persons. This identity group could then claim that since pretty much every religion and even most secular codes of ethics denounce adultery that they are all extraphobic and need to do some serious soul-searching to expunge their hatred and the government needs to intervene to make sure that all institutions enable extrasexual voices and make sure to accommodate extrasexual perspectives, etc. “How DARE these Muslims and Christians tell ME how to live MY life?! Don’t they know that this is just how I am and I have a RIGHT to happiness? Don’t they know the kind of psychological HARM they are causing by saying that infidelity is sinful?! WHEN WILL THESE WOUNDS HEAL?” So, yes, there are those who suffer from same-sex attraction just like there are those who have a propensity to want to commit infidelity. I am not denying that or denying that those people have no choice in the desires that come to them. BUT they do have a choice not to create an identity out of that and define themselves according to it. We need to support people in managing and combating desires, and in all honesty, we all need support in managing desires because it is something that affects everyone. That is how we were created and that is one of the central tests in this life.