5.8 母亲的政治与社会力量
5.8 The Political And Social Power Of Motherhood
现代社会对母亲角色的贬低已到了这样的程度:即便是母亲本人,一想到自己只是一个“家庭主妇”或“全职妈妈”,也会产生严重的不安全感和抑郁情绪。“全职妈妈”这个词本身就带有贬义,暗含无力、懦弱、胆怯、彻底依附和受害者的意味。做全职母亲,意味着你要么是被迫陷入这种窘迫的境地,要么更糟,是你自己选择了它。诚然,只要这是你的选择,那一切便都还好——社会会出于尊重选择自由的原则而容忍这一点。在现代人眼中,这一决定唯一的价值就在于:它是自由做出的选择。如果你决定把一生奉献给某件琐碎而无意义的事情,那么这一选择与选择做全职母亲相比,同样具有价值。
Modern society has denigrated the importance of motherhood to such a degree that even mothers develop severe insecurities and depression at the thought of being a “mere housewife” or “just a stay-at-home mom.” The word “stay-at-home mom” itself is a dirty word, and bears connotations of powerlessness, meekness, timidness, abject dependence, and victim-hood. To be a stay-at-home mother means that you have either been coerced into such a destitute position or, even worse, you chose it for yourself. And sure, as long as it was your choice, that is fine — society will tolerate that purely for the sake of freedom of choice. That’s the only value that that decision could have in the eyes of modern people: that it was a decision freely made. If you decided to dedicate your life to something trivial and meaningless, that would be just as valuable as choosing to be a stay-at-home mom.
然而,就母亲这一身份本身而言,在我们这个时代并没有更宏大的意义。诚然,人们承认爱母亲的重要性,但多是出于个人层面的想法:"我总该别对生我养我的人太过分吧。也许母亲节那天我该给她寄张卡片。"除此之外,人们对母亲真正所具有、也理应具有的意义与影响,便很少再有更深的理解了。
Motherhood in itself, however, has no larger significance in our day and age. Sure, people recognize the importance of loving your mom in the personal sense of “I guess I should not be a complete jerk to the person who brought me into this world. Maybe I will send her a card on Mother’s Day.” But beyond that, there is not much more of an understanding of the significance and influence mothers really have and ought to have.
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Consider this quote from a Christian writer:
“是的,我的妻子只是一位母亲。仅仅是。她只是把生命带到这个世界上,她只是塑造、雕琢并养育这些生命。她只是管理、指挥并维持家庭的运转,同时照顾那些完全依赖她的孩子。她只是教导我们的双胞胎如何成为一个真正的人,等他们长大,她还会在各方面培养他们,从道德、礼仪,到字母拼读、个人卫生等等。她只是我们精神上的根基,是我们家庭赖以建立的磐石。她只是对每个人都意味着一切。如果她和她的母亲同伴们在我列举的任何一项任务上失败了,社会就会土崩瓦解。是的,她只是一位母亲。这就好比仰望天空,然后说:‘嘿,那只是太阳而已。’” 这位博主谈论的是感激之情,也就是说,我们应当敬重母亲,不应因为她们之中有些人没有朝九晚五的工作,就认为她们没有为社会做出贡献,或者认为她们懒惰等等。感激是一种很好的信息,但它的另一面是,我们应当理解母亲的巨大影响力。归根结底,她们是按照自己的意愿塑造下一代人类的人。为什么现代性和女权主义不承认其中蕴含的力量?据说,社会中的一切权力都存在于公共领域,存在于商业、政治等领域,而在父权社会中,这些领域是由男性主导的。但这种观点完全忽视了私人领域中权力的运作(即便我们是否能够如此整齐地区分“公共”与“私人”,也尚有疑问)。
“Yes, my wife is JUST a mother. JUST. She JUST brings forth life into the universe, and she JUST shapes and molds and raises those lives. She JUST manages, directs and maintains the workings of the household, while caring for children who JUST rely on her for everything. She JUST teaches our twins how to be human beings, and, as they grow, she will JUST train them in all things, from morals, to manners, to the ABC’s, to hygiene, etc. She is JUST my spiritual foundation and the rock on which our family is built. She is JUST everything to everyone. And society would JUST fall apart at the seams if she, and her fellow moms, failed in any of the tasks I outlined. Yes, she is just a mother. Which is sort of like looking at the sky and saying, ‘Hey, it’s just the sun.’” This blogger is speaking in terms of appreciation, i.e., we should appreciate mothers and not think that just because some of them may not have 9 to 5 jobs, that doesn’t mean they are not contributing to society, are lazy, etc. Appreciation is a good message, but the other aspect of it is that we should understand the sheer influence of mothers. Ultimately, they are the ones molding the next generation of humanity as they see fit. Why do modernity and feminism not recognize the power inherent to that? Supposedly, all the power in society is found in the public sphere, in business, in politics, etc., and these are arenas dominated by men in patriarchal societies. But that view completely disregards the exercise of power in the private sphere (if we can even make such neat distinctions between “public” and “private”).
从这个角度看,女性选择做全职妈妈,就等于重新掌握了一种重要的经济、社会和政治力量——深刻影响社会每一位成员成长的力量,从而塑造世界本身。今天的女性不应因想到为人母而感到不安或沮丧,而应抓住这个机会,以进取的态度去面对。我们通常把智慧、专注、远见、足智多谋和坚韧不拔这些品质与职业生涯联系在一起,例如在初创企业或《财富》500强公司工作。但这些品质同样非常适用于为人母,那么为什么有人坚持认为,大学毕业甚至获得高级学位后选择成为母亲的女性是在“浪费”才能、“放弃职业机会”呢?人们在这个问题上实在是困惑得可悲。
From this perspective, by choosing to be stay-at-home moms, women would be taking back a major source of economic, social, and political power — the power to deeply influence the upbringing of all members of society and thus to shape the world itself. Rather than be insecure or depressed at the thought of motherhood, today’s women should seize the opportunity and be enterprising in their approach. We associate qualities like intelligence, dedication, vision, resourcefulness, and tenacity to professional careers, e.g., working for a start-up or a Fortune 500 company. But these qualities apply in spades to motherhood, so why do people insist that women who go to college or even get advanced degrees and then become mothers are “wasting” their talent and “throwing away professional opportunities”? People are miserably confused.