46. أبو أُسَيْد الساعدي دعا النبيَّ ﷺ إلى عُرْسِه، فخدمتهم امرأتُه، وكانت العروس يومئذٍ. قالت: «أتدرون ماذا سقيتُ رسولَ اللهِ ﷺ؟ سقيتُه تمراً منقوعاً في تَوْرٍ من الليل».

46. Abu Usayd as-Sa'idi invited the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, to his wedding. His wife, who was the bride, served them that day. She said, "Do you know what I served the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace? I served him some dates which had been infused in a pot overnight."

747. قال نُعيم بن قعنب: ذهبتُ إلى أبي ذرّ فلم أجده في بيته. سألتُ زوجته: «أين أبو ذرّ؟» قالت: «ذهب يُحضر بعض الحاجات للبيت، وسيعود بعد قليل». جلستُ أنتظره، فجاء ومعه بعيران، أحدهما خلف الآخر، وعلى عنق كلّ بعيرٍ قربةُ ماءٍ. فأنزلها أبو ذرّ. ثم جاء إليّ فقلتُ: «يا أبا ذرّ! ما كان أحدٌ أشتهي لقاءه منك، ولا أكره لقاءه منك!» فقال: «أبوك فداءُ الله! كيف يُجمع بين هذين؟» قلتُ: «في الجاهلية وأدتُ ابنةً لي، وخشيتُ أن ألقاك فتقول: لا توبة لك، ولا مخرج لك. أما أنا فكنتُ أرجو أن تقول: لك توبة، ولك مخرج». قال أبو ذرّ: «أكان ذلك في زمن الجاهلية؟» قلتُ: «نعم». قال: «إنّ الله قد عفا عمّا سبق». ثم قال لامرأته: «أحضري لنا طعامًا». فامتنعت، ثم أمرها مرة أخرى فامتنعت، واستمرّ ذلك حتى ارتفعت أصواتهما في الجدال. فقال أبو ذرّ: «حسنًا إذن! إنهنّ لا يلتفتن إلى ما قاله رسول الله ﷺ!» قال: «وماذا قال رسول الله ﷺ عن النساء؟» قلتُ. فأجاب: «المرأةُ ضلعٌ أعوج، إن حاولتَ تقويمها كسرتها، وإن استمتعتَ بها استمتعتَ بها وفيها عِوَج». فذهبت وأحضرت طعامًا، وهي تتصرف كالحمامة.

747. Nu'aym ibn Qa'nab said, "I went to Abu Dharr and did not find him at home. I asked his wife, 'Where is Abu Dharr?' 'Fetching some things for the house. He will be back presently.' I sat down to wait for him and he came with two camels. One of them was lined up behind the other and each of the camels had a waterskin on its neck. Abu Dharr took them off. Then he came and I said, 'Abu Dharr! There was no man who I desired to meet more than you and there was none that I hated to meet more than you!' He said, 'Your father belongs to Allah! How can these two be joined together?' I replied, 'In the Jahiliyya, a buried a daughter alive and I feared that I would meet you and you would say, "There is no way for you to repent. There is no way out." On the other hand, I used to hope that you would say, 'There is a way for you to repent. There is a way out."' "Abu Dharr asked, 'Was it during the time of the Jahiliyya that you did it?' 'Yes,' I replied. He said, 'Allah has pardoned what was already done.' Then he told his wife, 'Bring us some food.' She refused. Then he ordered again and she refused. This continued until their voices were raised in argument. Abu Dharr said, 'All right then! They (women) do not consider what the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said!' 'What did the Messenger of Allah say about women?' I asked. He replied, 'Woman is a crooked rib. If you try to straighten her out, you will break her. If you coax her gently, there will be love and a sufficient means (of obtaining what you want).' She went and brought a stew, behaving like a dove.

أبو ذر قال: «كُلْ، لا يُفزِعنَّك، فإني صائم». ثم قام يصلي، فجعل يصلي ركعات متتابعة، ثم التفت فأكل. فقلتُ: إنا لله! ما ظننتُ أنك تكذبني! فقال: أبوك لله! ما كذبتُ منذ لقيتُك! فقلتُ: أولم تُخبرني أنك صائم؟ قال: «نعم، صُمتُ ثلاثة أيام من هذا الشهر، فكُتب لي أجرُ شهرٍ كامل، فحلّ لي الأكل».

"Abu Dharr said, 'Eat. Don't let me alarm you. I am fasting.' Then he got up to pray. He began to perform rak'ats in quick succession. Then he turned and ate. I exclaimed, 'We belong to Allah! I never thought that you would lie to me!' He replied, 'Your father belongs to Allah! I have never lied since the moment I met you!' I said, 'Did you not tell me that you were fasting?' 'Yes, he replied, 'I have fasted three days of this month and so the reward for an entire month has been written for me and it is therefore lawful for me to eat.'"

748. رَوَى ثَوْبَانُ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ قَالَ: «أَفْضَلُ الدِّينَارِ دِينَارٌ يُنْفِقُهُ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى عِيَالِهِ، وَدِينَارٌ يُنْفِقُهُ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى أَصْحَابِهِ فِي سَبِيلِ اللهِ، وَدِينَارٌ يُنْفِقُهُ عَلَى دَابَّتِهِ فِي سَبِيلِ اللهِ». قَالَ أَبُو قِلَابَةَ، وَهُوَ أَحَدُ الرُّوَاةِ: بَدَأَ بِالْعِيَالِ، وَأَيُّ رَجُلٍ أَعْظَمُ أَجْرًا مِنْ رَجُلٍ يُنْفِقُ عَلَى صِغَارٍ يُعِفُّهُمُ اللهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ أَوْ يُغْنِيهِمُ اللهُ بِهِ؟ 749. وَرَوَى أَبُو مَسْعُودٍ الْبَدْرِيُّ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ قَالَ: «إِذَا أَنْفَقَ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى أَهْلِهِ نَفَقَةً وَهُوَ يَحْتَسِبُهَا، فَهِيَ لَهُ صَدَقَةٌ». 750. وَقَالَ جَابِرٌ: قَالَ رَجُلٌ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، عِنْدِي دِينَارٌ. فَقَالَ: «أَنْفِقْهُ عَلَى نَفْسِكَ». قَالَ: عِنْدِي آخَرُ. قَالَ: «أَنْفِقْهُ عَلَى وَلَدِكَ». قَالَ: عِنْدِي آخَرُ. قَالَ: «أَنْفِقْهُ عَلَى خَادِمِكَ». قَالَ: عِنْدِي آخَرُ. قَالَ: «أَنْتَ أَبْصَرُ بِهِ». أَوْ قَالَ: «تَصَدَّقْ بِهِ». 751. وَرَوَى أَبُو هُرَيْرَةَ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ قَالَ: «الدَّنَانِيرُ أَرْبَعَةٌ: دِينَارٌ تَصَدَّقْتَ بِهِ عَلَى مِسْكِينٍ، وَدِينَارٌ أَعْتَقْتَ بِهِ رَقَبَةً، وَدِينَارٌ أَنْفَقْتَهُ فِي سَبِيلِ اللهِ، وَدِينَارٌ أَنْفَقْتَهُ عَلَى أَهْلِكَ، وَأَفْضَلُهَا الدِّينَارُ الَّذِي أَنْفَقْتَهُ عَلَى أَهْلِكَ».

748. Thawban reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "The best dinar a man spends is the dinar which he spends on his family, the dinar which he spends on his companions in the Way of Allah, and the dinar which he spends on his riding animal in the Way of Allah." One of the transmitters, Abu Qilaba, said, He began with the family, Who has a greater reward that the man who spends on small children until such time that Allah Almighty makes them able to support themselves." 749. Abu Mas'ud al-Badri reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "When someone spends something on his family and reckons its reward to be with Allah, then it is sadaqa for him." 750. Jabir said, "A man said, 'Messenger of Allah, I have a dinar.' He said, 'Spend it on yourself.' The man said, 'I have another.' He said, 'Spend it on your servant (or he said, 'on your child').' The man said, 'I have another.' He said, 'Use it in the Way of Allah, but that is the least form of sadaqa.'" 751. Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "There are four dinars: a dinar which you give to a poor person, a dinar you give to free a slave, a dinar you spend in the Way of Allah, and a dinar which you spend on your family. The best of them is the dinar which you spend on your family."

752. روى سعد بن أبي وقاص أن النبي ﷺ قال له: «إنك لن تنفق نفقة تبتغي بها وجه الله إلا أُجرت عليها، حتى ما تجعل في في امرأتك».

752. Sa'd ibn Abi Waqqas transmitted that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said to him, "You do not spend anything by which you desire the face of Allah Almighty but that you art rewarded for it, even what you place in your wife's mouth."

753. عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ: «يَنْزِلُ رَبُّنَا تَبَارَكَ وَتَعَالَى كُلَّ لَيْلَةٍ إِلَى السَّمَاءِ الدُّنْيَا حِينَ يَبْقَى ثُلُثُ اللَّيْلِ الآخِرُ، فَيَقُولُ: مَنْ يَدْعُونِي فَأَسْتَجِيبَ لَهُ؟ مَنْ يَسْأَلُنِي فَأُعْطِيَهُ؟ مَنْ يَسْتَغْفِرُنِي فَأَغْفِرَ لَهُ؟»

753. Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Our Lord, the Blessed and Exalted, descends to the lowest heaven every night when a third of the night remains. He says, 'Who is calling on Me so that I can answer him? Who is asking Me for something so that I can give to him? "Who is asking Me for forgiveness so that I can forgive him?'"