Bolalarga g'amxo'rlik qilish
Looking After Children
45. Bola ham sharaf manbai, ham qo'rqoqlik manbai bo'lishi mumkin.
45. A child is a source of both honour and cowardice
84. Oisha aytdi: "Abu Bakr aytdi: "Allohga qasamki, yer yuzida Umardan ko'ra ko'proq sevadigan odam yo'q." So'ng u chiqib ketdi, keyin qaytib kelib dedi: "Qizim, men qanday qasam ichdim?" Men unga aytgan so'zlarini ayтib berdim. Shunda u dedi: "Bola yuragimizga yaqin bo'lsa ham, u menga yanada aziz."
84. 'A'isha said, "Abu Bakr said, 'By Allah, there is no man on the face of the earth that I love better than 'Umar.' Then he went out and came back and said, 'How did I swear, daughter?' I told him what he had said. Then he said, 'He is dearer to me although one's child is closer (to one's heart).'" .
85. Ibn Abu Nu'm dedi: "Men Ibn 'Umar huzurida edim, shu payt bir kishi undan pashsha qoni haqida so'radi. U so'radi: 'Qayerdansan?' 'Iroq xalqidanman', deb javob berdi. U dedi: 'Mana bu odamga qarang! U pashsha qoni haqida so'raydi, holbuki ular Nabiyning ﷺ nevarasini o'ldirdilar! Men Nabiy ﷺ bu dunyoda ular mening rayhonimdir, deganlarini eshitganman.'"
85. Ibn Abi Nu'm said, "I was with Ibn 'Umar when a man asked him about the blood of gnats. He asked, 'Where are you from?' 'From the people of Iraq,' he replied. He said, 'Look at this man! He asks about the blood of gnats when they murdered the grandson of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace! I heard the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, 'They are my sweet basil in this world.'"
46. Bolani yelkada ko‘tarish
46. Carrying a child on one's shoulders
86. Al-Bara' dedi: "Men Payg'ambarni ﷺ ko'rdim, al-Hasan uning yelkasida edi. U shunday deyayotgan edi: "Ey Alloh, men uni sevaman, sen ham uni sev."
86. Al-Bara' said, "I saw the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, when al-Hasan was on his shoulder. He was saying, 'O Allah, I love him, so love him.'"
47. Bola – quvonch manbai
47. A child is a source of joy
87. Jubayr ibn Nufayr dedi: "Bir kuni biz o'tirgan edik, al-Miqdad ibn al-Aswad oldidan bir kishi o'tdi. U kishi dedi: 'Allohning Elchisini ko'rgan ikki ko'zga baraka bo'lsin ﷺ! Allohga qasamki, men siz ko'rgan narsani ko'rib, siz guvoh bo'lgan narsaga guvoh bo'lishni xohlardim!' Bu al-Miqdadni g'azablantirdi va meni hayratga soldi, chunki u kishi faqat yaxshi gaplarni aytgan edi. Keyin u ularga o'girildi va dedi: 'Allah olib qo'ygan narsani qaytarib chaqirishni bu kishiga nima xohlatdi? U kishi Allohning Elchisini ko'rganida, uning ahvoli qanday bo'lishini o'ylab ko'rmaydimi ﷺ? Allohga qasamki, Allohning Elchisi ﷺ bilan birga ayrim kishilar bo'lganida, Alloh ularni yuzlari bilan do'zaxga tashlagan bo'lardi, chunki ular unga javob bermagan va uni tasdiqlamagan bo'lardilar. Sizlar sizlarni yaratgan Alloh Taologa hamd aytmaysizmi va Rabbingizni faqat bilasizmi hamda Payg'ambaringiz ﷺ olib kelgan narsani tasdiqlaysizmi? Boshqa odamlarda yetarlicha balo ko'rayapsizlar. Allohga qasamki, Allohning Elchisi ﷺ, har qanday Payg'ambar yuborilgan eng og'ir holatda yuborilgan edi — payg'ambarlik zanjiridagi bo'shliq va Johiliyat davrida. Ular dinni butlarga sig'inishdan yaxshiroq deb hisoblamas edilar. U Furqonni olib keldi, uning yordamida haq bilan botilni ajratish mumkin va u ota bilan bolani ham ajratib qo'yishi mumkin. Shunda kishi o'z otasi, farzandi yoki akasini kofir deb biladi. Alloh imon orqali uning qalbining qulfini ochgan, u esa boshqa odamning do'zaxda halok bo'lishini biladi. Shuning uchun uning ko'zi quvonmaydi, chunki u sevgan kishisi do'zaxda bo'lishini biladi. Bu Allohning so'zidir: "Ular: 'Ey Rabbimiz, xotinlarimiz va farzandlarimizdan bizga ko'z quvonchi ber', deydilar." (25:74)'"
87. Jubayr ibn Nufayr said, "One day we were sitting when al-Miqdad ibn al-Aswad when a man passed us. The man said, 'Blessing be to those two eyes which saw the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace. By Allah, I wish that I had seen what you have seen and witnessed what you have witnessed!' This angered al-Miqdad and that surprised me as the man had said nothing but good things. Then he turned to them and said, 'What made the man desire to summon back what Allah has taken away? Does he not realise what his situation would be if he had seen him? By Allah, if certain people had been with the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, Allah would have thrown them on their faces into Hellfire since they would neither have answered nor confirmed him? Do you not praise Allah Almighty since He brought you forth and you only know your Lord and confirm what your Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, brought? You see enough affliction in other people. By Allah, the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, was sent in the harshest state in which any Prophet was ever sent – in a gap (in the line of prophethood) and the time of Ignorance. They did not believe that the deen was better than worshipping idols. He brought the Discrimination by which it is possible to discriminate between the true and false, and which can part a father from his child. Then a man will think of his father, child or brother as an unbeliever. Allah has loosened the locks of his heart by faith and he knows that the other person will be destroyed in the Fire. Therefore his eye is not cool since he knows that the one he loves will be in the Fire. It is what Allah says, "Those who say, 'Our Lord, give us joy in our wives and children." (25:74)'"
48. Do‘st uchun ko‘p boylik va ko‘p farzand tilab duo qiladigan kishi
48. A person who makes supplication that his friend will have a lot of money and many children
88. Anas aytdi: "Bir kuni men Payg'ambar ﷺ ning huzurlariga bordim, u kishi bilan birga faqat men, onam va xolam Umm Hiram bor edik. U zot bizning oldimizga kelib, bizdan so'radi: 'Sizlar bilan birga namoz o'qiymanmi?' Bu farz namozning vaqti emas edi." Bu rivoyatni tinglayotganlardan biri so'radi: "U zot Anasni o'zlariga nisbatan qayerga joylashtirdilar?" Javob berildi: "Uni o'ng tomonlariga joylashtirdilar." Anasdan rivoyat davom etadi: "Keyin u zot biz, uy ahli bilan namoz o'qidilar va bizlar uchun dua qildilar, bu dunyo va oxiratning eng yaxshi ne'matlariga erishishimiz uchun. Onam aytdi: 'Allahning Elchisi, kichik xizmatkoringiz uchun Allohga dua qiling', va u zot Allohdan menga har xil ne'matlarni ato etishni so'radilar. Duolarining oxirida dedilar: 'Ey Alloh, unga ko'p mol-dunyo va ko'p farzand ber hamda unga baraka ato et!'"
88. Anas said, "One day I visited the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and there was only myself, my mother and my aunt, Umm Hiram. When he came to us, he asked us, 'Shall I pray with you?' It was not the time of an obligatory prayer." One of those listening to the person relating this asked, "Where did he put in Anas in relation to him?" The reply was, "He put him to his right." The report from Anas continues, "Then he prayed with us and made supplication for us, the people of the house, that we would have the best of the blessings of this world and the Next. My mother said, 'Messenger of Allah, make supplication to Allah for your little servant,' and he asked Allah to grant me every blessing. At the end of his supplication, he said, 'O Allah, grant him a lot of money and many children and bless him!'"
49. Onalar mehribon bo‘ladi
49. Mothers are merciful
89. Anas ibn Molik aytdi: "Bir ayol Oisha (roziyallohu anho) oldiga keldi va Oisha unga uchta xurmo berdi. U har bir ikki bolasiga bittadan xurmo berdi va o'zi uchun bitta xurmoni qoldirdi. Bolalar ikkita xurmoni yeb bo'lib, so'ngra onalariga qarashdi. U o'zining xurmosini oldi, uni ikkiga bo'lib, har bir bolaga yarmidan berdi". Payg'ambar ﷺ kelganda, Oisha unga bu voqeani aytib berdi. U dedi: "Bundan hayron bo'lyapsizmi? Alloh uning bolasiga bo'lgan mehri tufayli unga rahm qiladi".
89. Anas ibn Malik said, "A woman came to 'A'isha and 'A'isha gave her three dates. She gave each of her two children a date and kept one date for herself. The children ate the two dates and then looked at their mother. She took her date and split in it two and gave each child half of it. The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, came and 'A'isha told him about it. He said, 'Are you surprised at that? Allah will show her mercy because of her mercy towards her child.'"
50. Bolalarni o'pish
50. Kissing Children
90. Oisha aytdi: "Bir badaviy Payg'ambarning huzuriga kelib so'radi: "Siz bolalaringizni o'pasizmi? Biz ularni o'pmaymiz." Payg'ambar ﷺ dedi: "Alloh ulardan rahmni olib qo'yganidan keyin men sizlarning qalbingizga rahm joylay olamanmi?""
90. 'A'isha said, "A bedouin came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and asked, "Do you kiss your children? We do not kiss them.' The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, 'Can I put mercy in your hearts after Allah has removed it from them?'" .
91. Abu Hurayra rivoyat qildi: "Allohning Elchisi ﷺ Hasan ibn Aliyni o‘pdilar, o‘sha paytda al-Aqra’ ibn Hobis at-Tamimiy ular bilan birga o‘tirgan edi. Al-Aqra’ dedi: “Mening o‘nta farzandim bor, lekin ularning birortasini ham hech qachon o‘pmaganman.” Allohning Elchisi ﷺ unga qarab dedilar: “Rahm qilmagan kishiga rahm qilinmas.”"
91. Abu Hurayra said, "The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, kissed Hasan ibn 'Ali while al-Aqra' ibn Habis at-Tamimi was sitting with him. Al-Aqra' observed, 'I have ten children and I have kissed any of them.' The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, looked at him and said, 'Whoever does not show mercy will not be shown mercy.'"
51. Ota-onaning odob o‘rgatishi va farzandi oldidagi burchi
51. The parent teaching adab and his duty towards his child
92. Numayr ibn Aws dedi: "Ular: «To‘g‘ri amal Allohning in’omidir, lekin odob ota-onadan keladi», deb aytar edilar."
92. Numayr ibn Aws said, "They used to say, 'Correct action is a gift from Allah, but adab comes from the parents." .
93. An-Nu'mon ibn Bashir rivoyat qiladi: otasi uni Allohning Elchisi ﷺ huzuriga olib bordi. U dedi: "Allohning Elchisi, men sizga guvohlik beraman, men An-Nu'monga falon narsani berdim" (bu qul edi). Payg'ambar ﷺ so'radilar: "Farzandlaringning har biriga xuddi shunday narsani berdingmi?" U javob berdi: "Yo'q." Shunda u dedi: "Unda menden boshqaga guvohlik ber." So'ngra Payg'ambar ﷺ so'radilar: "Ularning hammasiga bir xil mehr ko'rsatishni istamaysizmi?" U javob berdi: "Albatta, istayman." Shunda u dedi: "Unda bunday qilma."
93. An-Nu'man ibn Bashir said that his father had carried him to the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace. He said, 'Messenger of Allah, I testify to you that I have given an Nu'man such-and-such. (It was a slave). The Prophet asked, "Have you given each of your children the same"?" "No," he replied. He said, "Then testify to someone other than me." Then the Prophet asked, "Do you not want to show equal kindness to all of them?" "Indeed I do," he replied. He said, "Then do not do it."
52. Otaning farzandiga nisbatan mehr-shafqati
52. The dutifulness of a father to his child
94. Ibn 'Umar dedi: "Alloh ularni «yaxshilar» (al-Abrar) deb atagan, chunki ular ota-onalariga va farzandlariga nisbatan yaxshilik (birr) qiladilar. Qanday qilib ota-onangiz oldida burchingiz bo'lsa, farzandingiz oldida ham burchingiz bor."
94. Ibn 'Umar said, "Allah has called them the 'dutiful' (al-Abrar) because they are dutiful (birr) to their parents and children. Just as you have a duty which you owe your parent, so you have a duty which you owe your child."
53. Rahm-shafqat ko'rsatmagan kishiga rahm-shafqat ko'rsatilmaydi
53. Someone who does not show mercy will not be shown mercy
95. Abu Sa'id'dan rivoyat qilinadi: Payg'ambar ﷺ shunday dedilar: "Rahm qilmagan kishiga rahm qilinmas."
95. Abu Sa'id that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, 'Someone who does not show mercy will not be shown mercy." .
96. Jarir ibn 'Abdulloh rivoyat qiladi: "Allohning Elchisi ﷺ aytdilar: "Odamlarga rahm qilmagan kishiga Alloh rahm qilmaydi"."
96. Jarir ibn 'Abdullah said, "The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, 'Allah will not show mercy to someone who does not show mercy to people.".
97. Xuddi 97-ga o'xshash.
97. Same as 97.
98. Oyisha aytdi: "Bir guruh badaviylar Payg'ambarning ﷺ huzuriga kelishdi. Ulardan biri unga dedi: "Allohning Elchisi, siz bolalarni o'pasizmi? Alloh haqqi, biz ularni o'pmaymiz." Allohning Elchisi ﷺ dedi: "Alloh ularning qalbidan rahmni olib tashlagandan keyin men sizlarning qalbingizga rahm solib qo'yishim mumkinmi?"
98. 'A'isha said, "Some bedouins came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace. One of their men said to him, 'Messenger of Allah, do you kiss children? By Allah, we do not kiss them.' The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, 'Can I put mercy in your hearts after Allah has removed it from them?'" .
99. Abu 'Usmon rivoyat qilishicha, Umar bir kishini hokim etib tayinlamoqchi bo'ldi. Hokim dedi: "Mening shuncha-shuncha farzandlarim bor, va men ularning hech birini o'pmaganman." Umar dedi: "Allohu taolo faqat o'z bandalarining eng mehribonlariga rahm qiladi."
99. Abu 'Uthman reported that 'Umar wanted to appoint a man as governor. The governor said, "I have such-and-such a number of children and I have never kissed any of them." 'Umar said, "Allah Almighty will only show mercy to the kindest of His slaves.".
54. Rahm-shafqat yuz qismdan iborat
54. Mercy consists of a hundred parts
100. Abu Hurayra rivoyat qilishicha, Allohning Elchisi ﷺ shunday degan: "Yaratgan Alloh rahmatni yuz qismga bo'lgan. U to'qson to'qqiz qismini o'zida saqlab qolgan, bitta qismini esa yerga tushirgan. Shu yagona qism tufayli jonzotlar bir-biriga rahmli bo'ladi, hatto kuchuk bolasini bosib qo'ymaslik uchun toychoq o'z tuyog'ini bolasidan olib qo'yadi."
100. Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Allah Almighty has divided mercy into one hundred parts. He kept ninety-nine parts and sent down one part to earth. Because of that one single part, creatures are merciful to one another so that even the mare will lift its hooves away from its foal so that it does not trample on it."