Menene extrasexual? To, kalma ce da na ƙirƙira, amma tana da alaƙa sosai da ruɗanin LGBT da muke gani a yau. Binciken kimiyya na baya-bayan nan yana iƙirarin cewa sha'awa ko rashin sha'awar yin zina tana cikin halittar mutum tun asali. Idan haka ne, za a iya cewa sha'awar yin zina wani ɓangare ne na yanayin jima'i na mutum na asali, wanda ba ya canzawa. Bisa wannan, shin za a buƙaci a raba mutane zuwa ƙungiyoyi ko al'ummomin ainihi bisa haka? Misali, shin waɗanda suka fi sha'awar yin zina za su bayyana kansu a matsayin "extrasexuals", sauran kuma a matsayin "intrasexuals"? Shin za a sami "faretin girman kai na extrasexual" da "ƙungiyar haƙƙin extrasexual" da za ta buƙaci makarantun Musulunci da na Katolika su ba da wuri ga "salon rayuwa madadin" (watau, "na zina") kuma su ba masu yin zina damar yin magana a fili da alfahari? Shin ƙin amincewar waɗannan cibiyoyi zai zama abin zargi da ake kira "extraphobia"? Za a iya maimaita wannan dabarar ga kowane irin halin jima'i ko sha'awa, ta haka a yi wa cibiyoyin addini umarni da iko bisa ga wannan, duk a ƙarƙashin sunan "hana wariya". Ma'ana, a kwanakin nan, ƙungiyoyi kamar Virtuous Pedophiles sun yi gardama kan wannan hanya, wanda ke nuna yadda roƙon amincewa da karɓar ainihin LGBT yake da sauyi da kuma son zuciya.

What is an extrasexual? Well, it’s a term I made up, but it is very relevant to the LGBT confusion we are seeing today. Recent scientific research claims that people’s inclinations or disinclinations to commit infidelity are biologically hardwired. Given this, we could say that the tendency to be unfaithful constitutes a portion of people’s inherent, immutable sexual orientation. Based on this, would there be a need to categorize people into identity groups or communities based on that? For example, would those with a greater pull to cheat self-identify as “extrasexuals” with everyone else identifying as “intrasexuals”? Would there be “extrasexual pride parades” and an “extrasexual rights movement” that would demand that Islamic and Catholic schools make space for “alternative (read, ‘adulterous’) lifestyles” and give voice to loud and proud cheaters? Would refusal by these institutions then be stigmatized as “extraphobia”?” We can duplicate this maneuver for any given sexual behavior or inclination and thereby dictate to and control religious institutions accordingly, all on the basis of “anti-discrimination.” In fact, in recent times, groups like the Virtuous Pedophiles have argued along these exact lines, which goes to show how contingent and subjective the appeals to recognize and accommodate LGBT identities really are.

Ba za a iya fassara wannan ba. Ga wani abu da zan iya yi: ga fassarar da na yi, idan kana son ta a cikin Hausa: Babu wata ƙungiyar haƙƙin mutanen da suke da sha'awar yin zina (extrasexual) a yanzu, amma akwai yiwuwar a kafa ɗaya wata rana. Me zai hana? Suna da irin wannan haƙƙin a karɓa kamar yadda mutanen LGBT da suke bayyana kansu suke da shi. Wannan ƙungiyar za ta iya cewa tun da kusan kowane addini ma har ma da dokokin ɗabi'a na boko suna hana zina, to dukkansu suna nuna ƙyama ga masu sha'awar zina, don haka suna buƙatar yin tunani sosai don kawar da ƙiyayyarsu, kuma gwamnati ta shiga tsakani don tabbatar da cewa dukkan cibiyoyi suna ba da dama ga muryoyin masu sha'awar zina kuma suna karɓar ra'ayoyinsu, da sauransu. "Yaya waɗannan Musulmi da Kiristoci suke ƙarfin halin gaya MIN yadda zan rayu RAYUWATA?! Ba su san cewa wannan shi ne yadda nake ba kuma ina da HAƙƙin farin ciki? Ba su san irin CUTARWAR tunani da suke haddasawa ta hanyar cewa cin amana na zunubi ba?! YAUSHE NE WANNAN RAUNUKA ZAI WARKE?" Don haka, eh, akwai waɗanda suke fama da sha'awar jinsi ɗaya, kamar yadda akwai waɗanda suke da kaifin sha'awar yin cin amana. Ba na ƙaryata hakan ko ƙaryata cewa waɗannan mutane ba su da zaɓi game da sha'awoyin da suke zuwa musu. AMMA suna da zaɓi na kada su mayar da hakan ya zama asalin ainihinsu kuma su ayyana kansu bisa hakan. Ya kamata mu taimaka wa mutane wajen sarrafawa da yaƙar sha'awoyi, kuma a gaskiya dukkanmu muna buƙatar taimako wajen sarrafa sha'awoyi, domin lamari ne da ya shafi kowa. Haka aka halicce mu, kuma yana ɗaya daga cikin jarrabawar rayuwar nan.

Right now, there isn’t an extrasexual rights movement, but there could be one day. Why not? They would have as much claim to acceptance as self-identifying LGBT persons. This identity group could then claim that since pretty much every religion and even most secular codes of ethics denounce adultery that they are all extraphobic and need to do some serious soul-searching to expunge their hatred and the government needs to intervene to make sure that all institutions enable extrasexual voices and make sure to accommodate extrasexual perspectives, etc. “How DARE these Muslims and Christians tell ME how to live MY life?! Don’t they know that this is just how I am and I have a RIGHT to happiness? Don’t they know the kind of psychological HARM they are causing by saying that infidelity is sinful?! WHEN WILL THESE WOUNDS HEAL?” So, yes, there are those who suffer from same-sex attraction just like there are those who have a propensity to want to commit infidelity. I am not denying that or denying that those people have no choice in the desires that come to them. BUT they do have a choice not to create an identity out of that and define themselves according to it. We need to support people in managing and combating desires, and in all honesty, we all need support in managing desires because it is something that affects everyone. That is how we were created and that is one of the central tests in this life.