Al'ummar zamani ta raina muhimmancin uwa har ta kai ga cewa ko uwaye kansu suna shiga cikin matsanancin rashin kwarin gwiwa da bakin ciki idan suka yi tunanin zama "kawai matar gida" ko "uwa mai zaman gida kawai." Kalmar "uwa mai zaman gida" kanta kalma ce ta raini, kuma tana dauke da ma'anoni na rashin iko, rauni, jin kunya, dogaro mara iyaka, da zama wanda ake cutarwa. Zama uwa mai zaman gida yana nufin ko dai an tilasta maka shiga wannan mummunan hali, ko kuma, abin da ya fi muni, ka zabi hakan da kanka. To, muddin zabinka ne, hakan yana da kyau — al'umma za ta lamunce hakan kawai saboda 'yancin zabi. Wannan ita ce kadai daraja da wannan shawara za ta iya da ita a idanun mutanen zamani: cewa an yanke ta ne da radin kai. Idan ka yanke shawarar sadaukar da rayuwarka ga wani abu mara muhimmanci kuma marar ma'ana, hakan zai zama kamar yadda zabar zama uwa mai zaman gida yake da daraja.

Modern society has denigrated the importance of motherhood to such a degree that even mothers develop severe insecurities and depression at the thought of being a “mere housewife” or “just a stay-at-home mom.” The word “stay-at-home mom” itself is a dirty word, and bears connotations of powerlessness, meekness, timidness, abject dependence, and victim-hood. To be a stay-at-home mother means that you have either been coerced into such a destitute position or, even worse, you chose it for yourself. And sure, as long as it was your choice, that is fine — society will tolerate that purely for the sake of freedom of choice. That’s the only value that that decision could have in the eyes of modern people: that it was a decision freely made. If you decided to dedicate your life to something trivial and meaningless, that would be just as valuable as choosing to be a stay-at-home mom.

Duk da haka, uwa a kanta ba ta da wata babbar ma'ana a zamaninmu. Tabbas, mutane sun san muhimmancin son mahaifiyarka a ma'anar kai na mutum cewa: "Ina ganin ya kamata in daina zama mara kunya ga wadda ta haife ni a duniya. Watakila zan aika mata da kati a Ranar Uwa." Amma fiye da haka, babu wata fahimta mai zurfi ta muhimmancin da tasirin uwaye ke da shi da kuma abin da ya kamata su samu.

Motherhood in itself, however, has no larger significance in our day and age. Sure, people recognize the importance of loving your mom in the personal sense of “I guess I should not be a complete jerk to the person who brought me into this world. Maybe I will send her a card on Mother’s Day.” But beyond that, there is not much more of an understanding of the significance and influence mothers really have and ought to have.

Ban ga wata magana ba. Don Allah ka tura rubutun da kake son in fassara zuwa Hausa, sai in fassara shi.

Consider this quote from a Christian writer:

"Eh, matata ta ce kawai uwa ce. KAWAI. Ita ke kawo rai cikin duniya, kuma ita ke tsara, ta siffanta, ta kuma reno wadannan rayuka, KAWAI. Ita ke tafiyar da gudanar da harkokin gida, tana kuma kula da 'ya'yan da suke dogara da ita a kan komai, KAWAI. Ita ke koyar da tagwayenmu yadda za su zama mutane na gari, kuma yayin da suke girma, za ta horar da su a kan komai, tun daga dabi'u, zuwa ladabi, zuwa haruffa, zuwa tsafta, da sauransu. Ita ce tushen ruhaniyata da dutsen da iyalinmu ya ginu a kansa. Ita ce komai ga kowa. Kuma al'umma za ta rushe gaba daya idan ita, da sauran uwaye, suka gaza a cikin kowane daga cikin ayyukan da na lissafa. Eh, ita uwa ce kawai. Wannan ya yi kama da kallon sama ka ce, 'Yauwa, rana ce kawai.'" Wannan marubucin yana magana ne cikin yabo, wato, ya kamata mu girmama uwaye, kuma kada mu dauka cewa saboda wasunsu ba su da aikin 9 zuwa 5 hakan na nufin ba sa bada gudummawa ga al'umma, ko cewa suna da kasala, da sauransu. Girmamawa sako ne mai kyau, amma bangare na biyu shi ne ya kamata mu fahimci girman tasirin uwaye. A karshe, su ne ke tsara ƙarnin bil'adama na gaba yadda suka ga dama. To me ya sa zamani da mata masu neman 'yanci ba sa gane karfin da ke tattare da hakan? Ana ganin cewa duk karfin al'umma yana cikin fagen jama'a, a kasuwanci, a siyasa, da sauransu, kuma wadannan fagage maza ne suka fi rinjaye a cikinsu a al'ummomin da maza ke jagoranta. Amma wannan ra'ayi gaba daya yana watsi da yadda ake amfani da iko a fagen na sirri (idan ma za a iya raba "jama'a" da "na sirri" a bayyane haka).

“Yes, my wife is JUST a mother. JUST. She JUST brings forth life into the universe, and she JUST shapes and molds and raises those lives. She JUST manages, directs and maintains the workings of the household, while caring for children who JUST rely on her for everything. She JUST teaches our twins how to be human beings, and, as they grow, she will JUST train them in all things, from morals, to manners, to the ABC’s, to hygiene, etc. She is JUST my spiritual foundation and the rock on which our family is built. She is JUST everything to everyone. And society would JUST fall apart at the seams if she, and her fellow moms, failed in any of the tasks I outlined. Yes, she is just a mother. Which is sort of like looking at the sky and saying, ‘Hey, it’s just the sun.’” This blogger is speaking in terms of appreciation, i.e., we should appreciate mothers and not think that just because some of them may not have 9 to 5 jobs, that doesn’t mean they are not contributing to society, are lazy, etc. Appreciation is a good message, but the other aspect of it is that we should understand the sheer influence of mothers. Ultimately, they are the ones molding the next generation of humanity as they see fit. Why do modernity and feminism not recognize the power inherent to that? Supposedly, all the power in society is found in the public sphere, in business, in politics, etc., and these are arenas dominated by men in patriarchal societies. But that view completely disregards the exercise of power in the private sphere (if we can even make such neat distinctions between “public” and “private”).

Daga wannan fuskar, ta hanyar zaɓar zama uwayen gida, mata za su dawo da wani muhimmin tushe na tattalin arziki, zamantakewa da siyasa — ikon yin tasiri sosai a kan tarbiyyar dukkan membobin al'umma, don haka su siffanta duniya kanta. Maimakon mata su ji rauni ko damuwa a tunanin uwaye, ya kamata mata a yau su yi amfani da wannan dama su kuma nuna ƙwazo da kirkira a hanyarsu. Muna danganta halaye kamar basira, sadaukarwa, hangen nesa, iya warware matsaloli da juriya da ayyukan sana'a, misali aiki a wani sabon kamfani ko babban kamfani na Fortune 500. Amma waɗannan halaye sun fi dacewa da uwaye, to me ya sa mutane ke nace cewa matan da suka yi karatun jami'a ko ma suka sami manyan digiri sannan suka zama uwaye suna "ɓata" basirarsu da "watsar da damar sana'a"? Mutane suna cikin ruɗani mai ban takaici.

From this perspective, by choosing to be stay-at-home moms, women would be taking back a major source of economic, social, and political power — the power to deeply influence the upbringing of all members of society and thus to shape the world itself. Rather than be insecure or depressed at the thought of motherhood, today’s women should seize the opportunity and be enterprising in their approach. We associate qualities like intelligence, dedication, vision, resourcefulness, and tenacity to professional careers, e.g., working for a start-up or a Fortune 500 company. But these qualities apply in spades to motherhood, so why do people insist that women who go to college or even get advanced degrees and then become mothers are “wasting” their talent and “throwing away professional opportunities”? People are miserably confused.