قال الله تعالى: {وَاللَّاتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلَا تَبْغُوا عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلًا إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيًّا كَبِيرًا} (النساء: 34)

Allah, Most High says, {As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them first. Next refuse to share their beds and lastly beat them (lightly). If they return to obedience, seek not means against them (of annoyance); for Allah is Most High, great (above you all).} (An-Nisa': 34)

قال النبي ﷺ: «إذا دعا الرجلُ امرأتَه إلى فراشه فأبَت أن تجيء، فبات غضبانَ عليها، لعنتها الملائكةُ حتى تُصبِح». 1

The Prophet (pbuh) said, “When a man calls his wife to his bed and she does not come, if he spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning.” 1

وفي روايةٍ أخرى عند البخاري ومسلم: «إذا لم تبِتِ المرأةُ في فراشِ زوجِها فأبَتْ عليهِ، لعنتها الملائكةُ حتى تصبحَ» ... Note: this is the wording of the original text's hadith; however, the source as given says: "When a woman does not spend the night in her husband's bed, and refuses him then He who is in heaven (i.e. Allah) remains displeased with her, till her husband has reconciled with her." Translation: وفي روايةٍ أخرى عند البخاري ومسلم: «إذا باتت المرأةُ مهاجِرةً فراشَ زوجِها، فلم تُجِبْهُ، لم يزَلِ الذي في السماءِ ساخطًا عليها حتى يرضى عنها زوجُها».

Another version from Al-Bukhari and Muslim is, “When a woman does not spend the night in her husband's bed, and refuses him then He who is in heaven (i.e. Allah) remains displeased with her, till her husband has reconciled with her.” 2

جابر رضي الله عنه روى قال: «ثَلَاثَةٌ لَا تُقْبَلُ لَهُمْ صَلَاةٌ، وَلَا يَصْعَدُ لَهُمْ عَمَلٌ صَالِحٌ إِلَى السَّمَاءِ: عَبْدٌ آبِقٌ حَتَّى يَرْجِعَ إِلَى مَوْلَاهُ فَيَضَعَ يَدَهُ فِي يَدِهِ، وَامْرَأَةٌ بَاتَ زَوْجُهَا عَلَيْهَا سَاخِطًا حَتَّى يَرْضَى، وَسَكْرَانُ حَتَّى يَصْحُوَ». 3

Jabir (may Allah be pleased with him) related, "There are three people whose prayers will not be accepted by Allah, nor do any good deed of theirs risen up to heaven: a fleeing slave until he returns to his master and helps him, a woman whose husband is angry with her until he is pleased with her, and a drunkard until he becomes conscious.” 3

قال النبي ﷺ: «أول ما تُحاسَب عليه المرأةُ يومَ القيامة صلاتُها وعلاقتُها بزوجها». [4]

The Prophet (pbuh) said, "The first things a woman is called to account for on the Day of Judgment are her prayers and her (relations with her) husband.” 4

قال النبيّ ﷺ: «لا يحلّ للمرأة أن تصوم وزوجُها حاضرٌ إلا بإذنه، ولا تأذن في بيته إلا بإذنه». 5

The Prophet (pbuh) said, "It is not lawful for a woman to fast (voluntarily) when her husband is present, except by his permission nor permit anyone into his house except with his permission.” 5

قال النبي ﷺ: «لو كان يصلح أن يسجد أحدٌ لأحدٍ لأمرتُ المرأةَ أن تسجد لزوجها». [6]

The Prophet (pbuh) said, "Had it been permissible that a person prostrate himself before another, I would have ordered that a wife prostrate herself before her husband.” 6

قالت عمّةُ حُصين بن محصن لرسول الله ﷺ عن زوجها، فقال لها ﷺ: «انظري أين أنتِ منه، فإنه جنّتُكِ ونارُكِ». 7

Hussain Ibn Muhsan's aunt mentioned her husband to the Prophet (pbuh) who said, "Evaluate yourself concerning your husband for he is you Paradise or Hell-Fire.” 7

قال النبي ﷺ: «لا ينظر الله إلى امرأة لا تشكر زوجها وهي لا تستغني عنه».

The Prophet (pbuh) said, "Allah will not look at a woman who is ungrateful to her husband, while she is unable to do without him.” 1

قال النبي ﷺ: «مَن خرجت من بيت زوجها بغير إذنه، لعنتها الملائكة حتى ترجع أو تتوب».2

The Prophet (pbuh) said, "Whoever leaves her husband's house (without his permission), the angels curse her until she returns or repents.”2

قال النبي ﷺ: «أيُّما امرأةٍ ماتت وزوجُها عنها راضٍ دخلت الجنة» [3]

The Prophet (pbuh) said, "If a woman dies while her husband was pleased with her, she will enter paradise.” 3

وعليه، يجب على المرأة أن تستجيب لزوجها في كل وقت ومكان، إلا إذا كان لديها عذر شرعي، كالحيض ونحوه.

Thus, it is obligatory for a woman to respond to her husband anytime and anywhere unless she has a legal excuse, menstruation or the like.

قال النبي ﷺ: «إذا دعا الرجلُ امرأتَه لحاجته، فلتأتِه وإن كانت على التنور»

The Prophet (pbuh) said, "When a man sends for his wife for the satisfaction of his need, she should go to him even if she may be occupied in baking bread (cooking food).” 4

يَحْرُمُ الاقترابُ من المرأةِ في وقتِ حيضِها كما قال الله تعالى:

It is unlawful to approach a woman during the time of her menstruation as stated by Allah:

{اعْتَزِلُوا النِّسَاءَ فِي الْمَحِيضِ وَلَا تَقْرَبُوهُنَّ حَتَّىٰ يَطْهُرْنَ} (البقرۃ: ۲۲۲)

{Keep away from women in their curses, and do not approach them until they are clean} (Al-Baqarah: 222)

قال النبيُّ ﷺ: «مَن أتى حائضًا فقد كفر بما أُنزل على محمدٍ ﷺ». 5

The Prophet said, "Whoever has intercourse with a woman during her period has disbelieved in what has been revealed upon Muhammad.” 5

مَنْ أَتَى حَائِضًا أَوْ امْرَأَةً فِي دُبُرِهَا فَقَدْ بَرِئَ مِمَّا أُنْزِلَ عَلَى مُحَمَّدٍ ﷺ Note: the Arabic above is a faithful rendering of the hadith wording; however, since the user's text ends with the citation "6" and the original says "accursed," the closer translation is: مَلْعُونٌ مَنْ أَتَى امْرَأَةً فِي حَيْضِهَا أَوْ أَتَاهَا فِي دُبُرِهَا 6

"He who has intercourse with a woman during her period or sodomizes her is accursed.” 6

وهذا ينطبق أيضًا على النفاس.

This also applies to post natal bleeding.

ينبغي للمرأة أن تستحضر أن هناك حقوقًا لزوجها عليها ينبغي لها أن تراعيها. فلا تنفق من ماله، ولا تفعل شيئًا دون إذنه. كما لا ينبغي لها أن تسبّه أو تنفّره منها.

A woman should keep in mind that there are some rights towards her husband she should observe. She should not spend of his money, or do anything without permission. She also should not revile or disgust him.

قال الأصمعي: مررتُ بباديةٍ فلقيتُ امرأةً جميلةً وكان لها زوجٌ قبيحٌ، فسألتها: كيف قبلتِ به زوجًا؟ فقالت: أعطني أذنك! لعلّه أحسنَ العلاقةَ مع الله، فجعلني ثوابًا له، ولعلّي عصيتُ الله، فجعله عقوبةً لي.

Al-Asma'i recounted, once I was passing by a desert and as met a very beautiful woman who had an ugly husband. I asked her, how did you accept him a husband? She said, give me your ear! He might have kept a good relation with Allah and thus He made me a reward to him. On the other hand, I might have disobeyed Allah and thus he made him my punishment.

قالت عائشةؓ: "يا معشر النساء، لو تعلمن بحق أزواجكن لكانت المرأة منكن تمسح التراب عن نعل زوجها بخدها". وقال النبي ﷺ: "إن زوجتك من الحور العين، إذا آذاك زوجك دنت منه، فوضعت يدها في يده، وقالت: لا أذوق غمضاً حتى ترضى". 7

'Aishah said, "O women, had you known your husbands' rights, any woman among you would have wiped dust from her husband's shoes on her face" The Prophet (pbuh) said, "Your heavenly wife is the kind who, when her husband hurts comes close to her husband, puts her hand in his and says, I'll never sleep until you are pleased.” 7

ويجب على المرأة أيضاً أن تكون: مخلصة لزوجها، وأن تغضّ بصرها عنه، وأن تلزم الصمت عند كلامه، وأن تقوم له إذا جاء أو خرج، وأن تعرض نفسها عليه إذا نام، وأن تتطيّب، وأن تستاك، وأن تتزيّن له إذا صاحبها، وأن تترك ما يُؤذيه في حضوره، كالسبّ والشتم، وفي غيبته، كالخيانة في الفراش أو المال أو البيت، وأن تُكرم أهله وأقاربه، وأن ترضى بما يأتي به وإن كان قليلاً.

A woman should also be: loyal before her husband, lower her gaze before him, keep silent when he speaks, stand when he comes, or leaves, offer herself when he sleeps, perfume herself, brush her teeth (with Siwak), be adorned in his accompany, leave aside what annoys him in his presence like slandering or in absence like treachery in bed, property or home, honor his family and kinsmen, and be content of what he brings however little.

على المرأة التي تخاف الله أن تبذل جهدها في طاعة الله وطاعة زوجها، وأن تسعى إلى رضاه، لأنه هو جنتها أو نارها. قال النبي ﷺ: «أيُّما امرأةٍ ماتت وزوجُها عنها راضٍ دخلت الجنة». وقال ﷺ: «إذا صلّت المرأةُ خمسَها، وصامت شهرَها، وأطاعت زوجَها، دخلت من أيِّ أبوابِ الجنةِ شاءت».1

A woman who fears Allah should do her best to obey Allah and her husband and seek his pleasures because he himself is her paradise or hell fire. The Prophet said, "If a woman dies while her husband was pleased with her, she will enter paradise.” "If a woman performs the five (prayers), fasts the month (of Ramadan) and obeys her husband, she will enter paradise from any gate she wants.”1

قال النبي ﷺ: «تستغفر للمرأة المطيعة لزوجها ما دام راضياً عنها الطيورُ في السماء، والحيتانُ في الماء، والملائكةُ في السماء، والشمسُ والقمرُ. وإن المرأةَ إذا عصت زوجَها تعرّضت للعنة الله والملائكة والناس أجمعين. وإذا عبست المرأةُ في وجه زوجها كان غضبُ الله عليها حتى تُرضيه وتُضحكه. وإذا خرجت المرأةُ من بيت زوجها بغير إذنه لعنتها الملائكةُ حتى ترجع أو تتوب». [2]

The Prophet (pbuh) said, "Birds in the sky, whales in the water, angels in the heaven, the sun and the moon will all ask Allah to forgive women who obey their husbands so long as they are pleased with them. If a woman disobeys her husband she entails the curse of Allah, the angels and all people. If a woman makes her husband frown, Allah's wrath is upon her until she makes him laugh and pleased. If a woman leaves her husband's house without his permission, the angels curse her until she returns or repents.” 2

قال النبي ﷺ: «أربع نسوة في الجنة: العفيفة المطيعة لله ولزوجها، الصابرة، القانعة، الحيية، الولود، التي تحفظ مال زوجها ونفسها في غيبته، وتضبط لسانها في حضرته. والأرملة التي تكرّس حياتها لأولادها ولا تتزوج خشية أن يضيعوا. أما النساء الأربع اللواتي في النار فهن: المرأة السليطة اللسان البذيئة على زوجها، التي لا تحفظ نفسها في غيبته، وتؤذيه بلسانها في حضرته».

The Prophet (pbuh) said, "There are four women in Paradise and they are: a chaste and an obedient one to Allah and her husband, patient, content, coy, and reproductive who guards her husband's property and herself in his absence and holds her tongue in his presence. A widow who devotes her life for her children and does not marry lest they fail. As for the four women of Hell –fire.” "The woman who has a shrew tongue and is vulgar towards her husband, who does not guard herself in his absence and injures him with her tongue in his presences.

الَّتِي تُكَلِّفُ زَوْجَهَا مَا لَا يُطِيقُ، وَالَّتِي تُظْهِرُ نَفْسَهَا لِلرِّجَالِ وَتَخْرُجُ مِنَ الْأَبْوَابِ مُتَبَرِّجَةً بِجَمَالِهَا، وَالَّتِي لَا تَهْتَمُّ إِلَّا بِالطَّعَامِ وَالشَّرَابِ وَالنَّوْمِ، وَلَا تَحْرِصُ عَلَى الصَّلَاةِ وَلَا عَلَى طَاعَةِ اللهِ وَطَاعَةِ زَوْجِهَا، وَفَوْقَ ذَلِكَ تَخْرُجُ مِنْ بَيْتِ زَوْجِهَا دُونَ إِذْنِهِ، فَهَذِهِ الْمَرْأَةُ مَلْعُونَةٌ عِنْدَ أَهْلِ النَّارِ حَتَّى تَتُوبَ إِلَى اللهِ. [ ٣ ]

The one who charges her husband burdens greater than he can bear. The one who shows herself to men and goes out doors displaying her beauty. The one who does not concern herself except with food, drink and sleep. Further she is not eager to pray or to obey Allah and her husband, such a woman who in addition to that, leaves her husband's home without his permission is accursed by the people of fire until she repents to Allah.” 3

وقال أيضاً: «لقد اطّلعتُ على النار فإذا أكثر أهلها النساء، وذلك لأنهن لا يطعن الله ورسوله دائماً ويعصين أزواجهن، ويُبدين زينتهن لغير أزواجهن.» 4

He also said, "Having had a look at the fire, I found that most of its people are women. This is because, they do not always obey Allah, his Messenger and their husband's and display their beauty to other than their husbands.” 4

المرأة عورة، فإذا خرجت استشرفها الشيطان۔ 5

"A woman is Awrah. Whenever she goes outdoors, Satan receives her.” 5

كلما كانت المرأة أقرب إلى الله، طال مكوثها في بيتها.

The closer a woman is to Allah, the longer she stays in her home.

قال النبيّ ﷺ: «المرأةُ عورةٌ، فإذا خرجتْ استشرفَها الشيطانُ، وأقربُ ما تكونُ من وجهِ ربِّها وهي في قَعْرِ بيتِها». وقال ﷺ: «إذا خرجتِ المرأةُ من بيتِها فلا تخرجْ إلّا بإذنِ زوجِها».

The Prophet said, "A woman is privacy. Thus, hold her at home. Because, if she is about to go out door, and her kinsmen ask where are you going? She says, 'I'll visit a patient, or I'll attend a funeral. Satan keeps on tempting her until she leaves the house. Thus, if a woman seeks Allah's pleasure, it is better to her to stay home, worship Allah and obey her husband.” 1

قال علي لزوجته فاطمة (رضي الله عنهما): "يا فاطمة، ما خير شيء للمرأة؟" فأجابت: "ألا تَرَى الرجالَ ولا يَرَوْنها". وقال علي أيضاً: "أما تغارين! إذ تُركتِ نساؤكم يمشين بين الرجال ويرى بعضهن بعضاً!" ذات مرة كانت عائشة وحفصة جالستين عند النبي ﷺ، فجاء ابن أم مكتوم، وكان أعمى.

Ali said to his wife, Patimah (may Allah be pleased with them both), "O Patimah, what is the best thing for a woman? She answered, "not to see men or be seem by them". Ali also said, "Do you not grow jealous! When you let your wives walk among men and see each other!" Once' Aishah and Hafsa were sitting with the Prophet (pbuh) when fun Umm Maktum who was blind came there.

قال النبي ﷺ: «احتجبوا منه». قالوا: يا رسول الله، أليس أعمى لا يبصرنا؟ فقال النبي ﷺ: «أفعمياوان أنتما؟ ألستما تبصرانه؟»

"The Prophet (pbuh) said, "Cover yourselves from him." They replied, "We submit, O Messenger of Allah! Is he not blind and cannot see to recognize us. On this the Prophet (pbuh) said, But you are not blind and can see him.” 2

فَلا يَجُوزُ لِلرِّجَالِ وَلا لِلنِّسَاءِ أَنْ يَنْظُرَ بَعْضُهُمْ إِلَى بَعْضٍ إِلاَّ لِضَرُورَةٍ. وَقَدْ كَانَتْ امْرَأَةٌ تُبْدِي زِينَتَهَا إِذَا خَرَجَتْ إِلَى الطَّرِيقِ، فَلَمَّا مَاتَتْ رَأَاهَا أَقَارِبُهَا فِي الْمَنَامِ وَاقِفَةً بَيْنَ يَدَيِ اللهِ تَعَالَى وَعَلَيْهَا ثِيَابٌ شَفَّافَةٌ، ثُمَّ هَبَّتِ الرِّيحُ فَكَشَفَتْهَا.

Thus, both men and women should not look at each other except because of necessity. Once there was a woman who used to display her beauty when she went outdoors. After her death, her kinsmen saw her in a dream standing before Allah dressed in transparent clothes. Then the wind blew and exposed her.

وعليه، ردّها الله وقال: خذوها إلى النار، لأنها كانت تُظهر جمالها للناس.

Accordingly, Allah rejected her and said take her leftward to the Hell-Fire since she was displaying her beauty to the world.

قال علي بن أبي طالب رضي الله عنه: "جئتُ إلى النبي ﷺ مع فاطمة، فلاحظنا أنه يبكي بكاءً شديدًا. فقلت: "بأبي أنت وأمي يا رسول الله، لماذا تبكي؟" فقال: "يا علي، في ليلة الإسراء حين عُرج بي إلى السماء، رأيتُ بعض نساء أمتي يعذَّبن بأنواع من العذاب، فبكيتُ لشدة عذابهن. رأيتُ امرأةً معلقةً بشعرها ودماغها يغلي. وأخرى معلقةً بلسانها، وسائلٌ يغلي يُصبّ في فمها. وأخرى رجلاها مربوطتان إلى ثدييها، ويداها إلى جبهتها، وأخرى معلقةً بثدييها. وأخرى رأسها كرأس خنزير وجسدها كجسد حمار، وتعاني ألوانًا لا تُحصى من العذاب، وأخرى على صورة كلب، والنار تدخل من فمها حتى تخرج من دبرها، والملائكة يضربونها بسياط من نار." فلما سمعت فاطمة ذلك قالت: يا حبيبي ويا قرة عيني، ماذا كانوا يفعلون حتى يُعذَّبوا هذا العذاب؟ فقال النبي ﷺ: يا بنيتي، أما المرأة المعلقة بشعرها، فكانت لا تستر شعرها عن الرجال. والمرأة المعلقة بلسانها، فكانت تؤذي زوجها. والمعلقة بثدييها، فكانت تُرضع أولادها من غير زوجها. والمرأة التي رجلاها مربوطتان إلى ثدييها ويداها إلى جبهتها، وتُعذَّب بالحيات والعقارب، فكانت لا تغتسل من الجنابة والحيض، وتتهاون بالصلاة. والمرأة التي رأسها كرأس خنزير وجسدها كجسد حمار، فكانت نمامة كذابة. وأما الأخيرة، فكانت تمنّ على من تتصدق عليه وتحسد. يا بنيتي، ويلٌ لمن عصت زوجها."

Ali Ibn Abi Talib (may Allah be pleased with him) said, "1 came to the Prophet accompanied with Fatimah but We noticed him weeping vehemently. I said, "I sacrifice you with my father and mother, Messenger of Allah. Why do you weep?" He said, "0 Ali, in the night Journey (Isra) when I was taken up to the sky, I saw some women of my nation suffering some types of torture. Therefore, I wept because of their sever tortures. I saw a woman who was hanging from her hair and her brain was boiling. Another Woman was hanging from her tongue and a boiling fluid was being poured into her mouth. Another woman whose legs were tied to her breasts and her hands to her forehead and another who was hanging from her breasts. Another whose head was like a pig's and body like a donkey and suffered million types of torture, and another woman who had the shape of a dog while the fire pierced her month until it left her body from the anus and the angels were also Scourging her with lashes of fire. Upon hearing that, Fatimah asked. O darling and the pleasure of my eyes, what were they doing to Suffer such torture? Then the Prophet said; O daughter, as for the woman who was hanged from hair, she would not cover her hair from men. The woman who was hanged from her tongue used to bring harm to her husband; the one who was hanged from her breasts cumulated her husband's bed. The woman whose legs were tied to her breasts and hands to forehead and suffering from serpents and scorpions would not clean her body from major impurity or menstruation, and neglected prayer. The woman whose head was like a pig's and had a donkey’s body was a talebearer and lair. As for the last one, she used to remind recipients of her charity to them and was envious. O daughter, woe to her who disobeys her husband.” 1

عن معاذ بن جبل رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسول الله ﷺ: «ما من امرأة تؤذي زوجها في الدنيا إلا قالت زوجته من الحور العين: لا تؤذيه، قاتلك الله، فإنما هو عندك دخيل يوشك أن يفارقك إلينا».

Muadh Ibn Jabal (may Allah be pleased with him) related that the Prophet (pbuh) said, "Whenever a woman causes annoyance and torture to her husband in this world, his mate from among the hour is of Paradise says to her: may Allah ruin thee, do not cause your husband annoyance, for, he is only your guest, and will soon leave thee to join us in Paradise.” 2

وبالمثل، يُؤمَر الزوج بأن يعامل زوجته بلطف ورفق. وينبغي له أن يصبر إن أساءت إليه. والنفقة والكسوة وحسن المعاملة واجبة على الرجل لزوجته. قال الله تعالى: {وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ} (النساء: 19)

Similarly, a husband is commanded to treat his wife kindly and tenderly. He should also be patient if she mistreats him. Food, clothes and kind treatment are also binding for a man to give to his wife. Allah the Almighty says, {But consort with them in kindness} (An-Nisa': 19)

قال النبي ﷺ: «أَلَا وَاسْتَوْصُوا بِالنِّسَاءِ خَيْرًا، فَإِنَّهُنَّ عَوَانٌ عِنْدَكُمْ، لَيْسَ تَمْلِكُونَ مِنْهُنَّ شَيْئًا غَيْرَ ذَلِكَ، إِلَّا أَنْ يَأْتِينَ بِفَاحِشَةٍ مُبَيِّنَةٍ، فَإِنْ فَعَلْنَ فَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ، وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ ضَرْبًا غَيْرَ مُبَرِّحٍ، فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلَا تَبْغُوا عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلًا. أَلَا إِنَّ لَكُمْ عَلَى نِسَائِكُمْ حَقًّا، وَلِنِسَائِكُمْ عَلَيْكُمْ حَقًّا، فَأَمَّا حَقُّكُمْ عَلَى نِسَائِكُمْ فَلَا يُوطِئْنَ فُرُشَكُمْ مَنْ تَكْرَهُونَ، وَلَا يَأْذَنَّ فِي بُيُوتِكُمْ لِمَنْ تَكْرَهُونَ». [3]

The Prophet (pbuh) said, "Listen! Treat women kindly, they are like prisoners in you hands. Beyond this do not use anything from them. If they are guilty of flagrant misbehaviors, you can remove them from your beds and beat them but do not inflict upon them any severe punishment. Then, if they obey you, you do not have recourse to anything else against them. Listen! You have your rights upon your wives and they have their rights upon you. Your right is that they shall not allow anyone you dislike to trample your bed and do not permit them to enter your home.” 3

قال النبي ﷺ: «خَيْرُكُمْ خَيْرُكُمْ لأَهْلِهِ، وَأَنَا خَيْرُكُمْ لأَهْلِي». 4

The Prophet (pbuh) said, "The best of you is whoever treats his wife kindly.” 4

كان النبي ﷺ يعامل النساء برفقٍ شديد. وقال ﷺ: «مَنْ صبر على سوء خُلُقِ زوجته، أعطاه الله أجرًا عظيمًا كأجر أيوب على بلائه. وكذلك إذا صبرت المرأةُ على سوء خُلُقِ زوجها، أعطاها الله أجرًا عظيمًا كأجر آسيةَ بنتِ مزاحم امرأةِ فرعون.» ٥

The Prophet (pbuh) used to treat women very tenderly. He (pbuh) said, "Whoever remains patient with regards to the misbehavior of his wife, Allah will give him a reward as great as Ayub's for his affliction. Likewise, if a woman keeps patient with regards to the misbehavior of her husband, Allah will give her a reward as great as 'Aishah's Bint Muzahim, (the Pharaoh's wife).” 5

روي أنّ رجلاً جاء يوماً إلى عمر ليشكو إليه سوء خُلُق زوجته، فبينما كان ينتظره عند الباب سمع امرأة عمر تكلّمه بكلام فاحش، وكان عمر ساكتاً لا يردّ عليها. فرجع الرجل وقال في نفسه: "إذا كان هذا حال عمر، وهو الحازم، وأمير المؤمنين، فما حالي أنا؟" ثم خرج عمر فرأى الرجل منصرفاً، فناداه وقال: "ما حاجتك؟" فقال الرجل: "يا أمير المؤمنين، جئت أشكو سوء خُلُق زوجتي وفحشها معي، فلما سمعتُ زوجتك رجعتُ وقلتُ: فما حالي أنا؟" فقال عمر: "يا أخي، إني أصبر على سوء خُلُقها لِحقوقٍ لها عليّ: فهي تطبخ طعامي، وتخبز خبزي، وتغسل ثيابي، وتُرضع أولادي، وتُغنيني عن الحرام."

Once, there was a man who came to 'Umar to complain about the misbehavior of his wife. While he was waiting for 'Umar by the door, he heard 'Umar's wife speaking to him indecently but 'Umar was keeping silent. Thereupon, the man went back and said, "If this is the case of 'Umar who was decisive and he was also the Commander of the Believers what about me?" Then 'Umar went out and noticed him leaving. He called him and said, "What do you want?" The man said, "O Commander of the Believers, I came to complain about my wife's misconduct and her indecency towards me but when I heard your wife I went back and said what about me?" 'Umar then said, "O brother, I endured her misbehavior for some rights upon me to her: she cooked my food, bakes my bread, washes my clothes and suckles my babies.

ولا يُلزمها مثل هذا العمل. وإنّي أنفر من الحرام بسببها.

She is not required to do such work. Furthermore, my heart is repelled from the unlawful because of her.

فَصَبَرْتُ عَلَيْهَا. فَقَالَ الرَّجُلُ: "وَزَوْجَتِي كَذَلِكَ يَا أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ". فَقَالَ عُمَرُ: "فَكَذَلِكَ فَاصْبِرْ عَلَيْهَا، فَإِنَّمَا نَحْنُ فِي عُمْرٍ قَصِيرٍ."

Thereby, I endured her. “So is my wife, Commander of the Believers" the man said. Then, 'Umar said, "Thus you should endure her. It is a short life we live in."