Abdulloh ibn Mas'ud (roziyallohu anhu) rivoyat qiladi: "Nabiy ﷺ aytdilar: "Kim musibatga uchragan kishiga ta'ziya bildirsa, unga ham xuddi shunga o'xshash ajr beriladi."" 4
On the authority of' Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud (may Allah be pleased with him) that he said, "The Prophet (pbuh) said, "Whoever offers the consolation to the afflicted person, he will be rewarded with the same.” 4
Abu Barzah (Allohning Undan rozi bo‘lsin) rivoyat qilishicha, Nabiy ﷺ Fotimaga (Allohning Undan rozi bo‘lsin) dedilar: “Farzandidan ayrilgan kishini tasalli bersa, u Jannatda burd (ma’lum turdagi kiyim) bilan kiydiriladi.” 5
On the authority of Abu Barzah (may Allah be pleased with him) who said, "The Prophet (pbuh) said to Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with her), "Whoever offers consolation to the person who is bereaved of his/her child, he will be clothed with Burd (certain kind of garment) in Paradise.” 5
Abdulloh ibn Amr ibn al-Os (Allohning rizosi ular ikkalasidan bo'lsin) rivoyat qiladi: "Allohning Elchisi ﷺ qiziga, Fotimaga (Allohning rizosi undan bo'lsin), dedilar: "Ey Fotima, qanday sabab bilan uyingdan chiqding?" U dedi: "Bu uy ahliga bordim, ularning o'liklari uchun Allohdan rahmat tilab, ularga taskin berdim."" 1
On the authority of 'Abdullah Ibn Amr Ibn AI-As (may Allah be pleased with both of them) who said, "The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said to his daughter Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with her), "For what reason did you go out from your house. 0 Fatimah?" she said, "I went to the people of this house and asked Allah to shower his mercy upon their dead and I offered them consolation.” 1
Amr ibn Hazm rivoyat qiladi: "Payg'ambar ﷺ dedilar: "Mo'min biror musibatga uchragan birodariga taskin bersa, Alloh Qiyomat kuni uni O'zining izzat-hurmati libosi bilan kiydiradi."2
On the authority of Amr Ibn Hizam who said, "The Prophet (pbuh) said, "Never does a believer offer his afflicted brother consolation and Allah cloth him out of his Honour on the Day of Judgment.”2
Ta'ziya — marhumning yaqinlariga sabr-toqat berish va ularning qayg'usini yengillashtiradigan, musibatini yengil qiladigan narsalarni eslatish demakdir. Unga yaxshilikka buyurish va yomonlikdan qaytarish kiritilishi tavsiya etiladi. U ham Allohning shu so'ziga kiradi: {Yaxshilik va taqvo yuzasidan bir-biringizga yordam beringlar, gunoh va dushmanlik yuzasidan esa bir-biringizga yordam bermanglar!} (Ma'ida, 2)
Consolation means that to bring patience and mention to the deceased's kin what can relieve their sadness and lighten their calamity. It is recommended that it includes commanding the good and forbidding the evil. It also comes under the saying of Allah, {Help ye one another in righteousness and piety but help ye not one another in sin and rancor! } (AI-Maidah, 2)
Bu masala bo'yicha eng ko'rsatmali oyat — tasalli masalasida.
This is the most indicative verse concerning the matter of consolation.
Ta'ziya bildirish marhumni dafn etishdan oldin ham, keyin ham afzaldir. Shofe'iy mazhabidagi faqihlar aytdilar: uning vaqti jon olingan paytdan boshlanadi va marhumni dafn etgandan keyin uch kun davom etadi. Ba'zi olimlar aytdilar: vafotdan keyin uch kundan so'ng ta'ziya bildirish maqbul emas, chunki ta'ziya musibatga uchragan kishining qalbini tinchlantiradi, bu esa asosan uch kun ichida amalga oshadi va shuning uchun uning qayg'usini qayta uyg'otishga ehtiyoj yo'q. Ko'pchilik olimlarning ham shu fikri bo'lgan. Abu al-Abbos aytdi: uch kundan keyin ta'ziya bildirishda hech qanday noto'g'rilik yo'q, chunki voqea abadiy davom etadi. An-Navaviy (Allohning rahmati unga bo'lsin) dedi: "Kelishilgan fikr shuki, uch kundan keyin ta'ziya bildirilmaydi, faqat ikki holatdan tashqari: ta'ziya bildiruvchi kishi yo'q bo'lsa yoki musibatga uchragan kishi ham yo'q bo'lsa. Ular uch kundan keyin qaytishi kutiladi." Marhumni dafn etgandan keyin ta'ziya bildirish dafn etishdan oldingiga qaraganda yaxshiroqdir, chunki dafn etishdan oldin marhumning yaqinlari uni tayyorlash bilan band bo'ladi, dafn etilgandan keyin esa yolg'izlik kuchayadi. Marhumning yaqinlari tomonidan tashvish ko'rinmagan taqdirda bu qilinishi mumkin.
Consolation is preferable before and after burying the dead. The followers of Ash-Shafi'i said, its time starts from the time when the soul is taken and lasts for three days after burying the dead. Some scholars said, consolation is not preferable after three days of dying, for consolation appeases the heart of the afflicted person and this mostly takes place within three days and therefore there is no need to renew his sadness. This same position was held by the majority of the scholars. Abu Al-Abbass said, there is no wrong to offer consolation after three days since the event lasts forever. An-Nawawi (may Allah bestow mercy upon him) said, "What is agreed upon is that it should not be offered after three days except in two cases: when the one who offers the consolation is absent or the afflicted person was absent as well. And they are expected to return after three days. Offering consolation after burying the dead is better than doing it before burying, for before burying, the people of the dead are engaged with preparing him and alienation is intensified after burying. This may be done if no anxiety appeared on the part of the people of the dead.
Aks holda, ularga tinchlik bag'ishlash uchun taskin berilishi kerak.
Otherwise, consolation should be offered to bring quietness to them.
Shuningdek, ta'ziya qabul qilish uchun ma'lum bir joyga yig'ilish ham makruhdir. Ya'ni, marhumning yaqinlari ma'lum bir joyda to'planmasligi va odamlar ularga ta'ziya bildirish uchun borishmasligi kerak. Ta'ziya bildirish formulasi ma'lum va mashhur. Bu borada aytilishi mumkin bo'lgan eng yaxshi narsa ikki "Sahih" kitobida Usama ibn Zayd (Alloh undan rozi bo'lsin) rivoyat qilgan hadisdir: "Nabiy ﷺ ning qizlaridan biri unga odam yuborib, farzandi o'lim oldida ekanini aytdi. Allohning Elchisi ﷺ o'sha odamga dedi: "Qaytib borib unga ayt: Olgan ham Allohnikidir, bergan ham Allohnikidir, har bir narsaning Allohning huzurida belgilangan muddati bor. Shunday ekan, uni sabr qilishga buyur va Allohdan savob umid qilsin".
It is also reprehensible to gather in a particular place to receive the consolation. This means that the people of the dead should not gather in a certain place and the people go to offer them consolation. The formula of consolation is well known. The best of what can be said in this respect is what is reported in the two Sahihs on the authority of Usamah Ibn Zayed (may Allah be pleased with him) who said that, "One of the daughters of the Prophet (pbuh) sent to him and told him that one of her children is dying. The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said to the man, "Return to her and tell her that, to Allah is what He has taken and to him is what He has given and to everything is an appointed term with Allah. So, order her to be patient and seek the reward from Allah.” 3
An-Nawaviy (Allohning rahmati unga bo'lsin) dedi: "Bu hadis islomning eng keng qamrovli qoidalaridan biri bo'lib, unda ko'plab diniy masalalarni, ya'ni asosiy e'tiqod masalalari, ikkinchi darajali masalalar, go'zal odob-axloq, har xil musibatlar, tashvish va g'amlarga sabr qilish haqida bayon etilgan, shuningdek boshqa ko'plab narsalar haqida so'z boradi."
An-Nawawi (may Allah bestow mercy upon him) said that, "This hadith is one of the most comprehensive rules of Islam which includes many religious matters, whether they are principles, subsidiary matters, good manners, patience towards all kinds of calamities, worries and discusses many other things.
"Allohga tegishlidir, U olgan narsa." Bu shuni anglatadiki, butun olam Uniki. Shuning uchun U sizniki bo'lgan narsani olmaydi, balki Unikiki bo'lgan narsani sizga omonat sifatida beradi. "Unikidir, U bergan narsa." Bu shuni anglatadiki, sizga ato etgan narsa Uning hukmronligidan tashqarida emas, balki Unikidir va U uni xohlaganicha tasarruf etadi. "Allohning huzurida har bir narsaning belgilangan muddati bor." Bu shuni anglatadiki, jonini U olgan, ushbu hayotda o'z muddatini tugatgan kishi uchun qayg'urmasligingiz kerak, chunki uning belgilangan vaqtini kechiktirish yoki oldinga surish mumkin emas. Buning hammasiga ishonch hosil qilgach, sizni duchor qilgan narsaga sabr qilishingiz lozim.
"To Allah is what He has taken." means that the whole world is His. Therefore, He does not take what is yours but what is His as a trust to you." To him is what he has given" means that what he has granted you with is not out of His Sovereignty but it is His and He disposes it as He wills. "To everything there is an appointed term with Allah" means that you should not be anxious for the one whose soul was taken by him, completed his span in this life and it is impossible to delay or precede his appointed time. Upon being sure of all this, you should be patient with what has afflicted you.
Mu'oviya ibn Iyos o'z otasidan (Alloh undan rozi bo'lsin) rivoyat qiladi: bir safar Payg'ambar ﷺ sahobalaridan birini ko'rmadilar va u haqida so'radilar. Sahobalar javob berdilar: "Ey Allohning Rasuli, siz ko'rgan uning o'g'li vafot etgan." Keyin Payg'ambar ﷺ unga duch kelib, o'g'li haqida so'radilar, u esa o'g'lining vafot etganini aytdi. Payg'ambar ﷺ uni taskin berdilar va so'ng dedilar: "Sizga qaysi biri ko'proq sevimli: bu dunyo hayotida o'g'lingiz bilan bahramand bo'lishmi yoki ertaga kelib, o'g'lingizni Jannatning xohlagan eshigini ochish uchun sizdan oldin borgan holda topishmi?" Odam javob berdi: "Ey Allohning Nabiysi, albatta, meni Jannatga oldinroq yuborish va u yerda eshikni menga ochiq topish eng sevimlisidir." Payg'ambar ﷺ dedilar: "Bu sizga berildi." Sahobalar so'radilar: "Bu faqat unga xosmi yoki barcha musulmonlar uchunmi?" Payg'ambar ﷺ javob berdilar: "Barcha musulmonlar uchun."
On the authority of Mu'awiyyah Ibn Iyas from his father (may Allah be pleased with him) who said once the Prophet (pbuh) did not see one of his Companions and he asked about him. The Companions replied, "0 Messenger of Allah, his son who you have seen has died. Thereafter, the Prophet (pbuh) met him and asked him about his son and he told him that he died. The Prophet consoled him then said, "Which of them is most beloved to you, to enjoy this worldly life with your son or to come tomorrow and find that your son preceded you to open whichever of the doors of Paradise you want. The man replied, "0 the Prophet of Allah, of course to advance me to Paradise and find it open for me is most beloved. The Prophet said, this is granted to you. The companions asked, “is it exclusive for him or is it general for all Muslims? The Prophet replied, "For all Muslims.” 1
Abu Hurayra (Allohning rozisi bo'lsin) rivoyat qiladi: "Allohning Elchisi ﷺ Al-Baqi' qabristoniga chiqdilar va bir ayolni qabr oldida yig'layotganini ko'rdilar. U ayolga dedilar: "Ey Allohning bandasi, Allohdan qo'rq va sabr qil". Ayol javob berdi: "Ey Allohning bandasi, agar sen mening boshimga tushgan musibatga uchraganingda, meni kechirgan bo'lar eding!" Payg'ambar ﷺ unga dedilar: "Ey Allohning bandasi, Allohdan qo'rq va sabr qil." Ayol javob berdi: "Ey Allohning bandasi, men sizning gapingizni eshitdim, shuning uchun meni o'z holimga qo'ying." Abu Hurayra dedi: "Payg'ambar ﷺ uni o'z holiga qo'ydilar. Bu manzarani ko'rgan bir kishi bor edi, u shu ayolning oldiga kelib, undan so'radi: u kishi (Payg'ambar ﷺ) senga nima dedi? Ayol unga Payg'ambar ﷺ aytgan gapni va o'zi nima javob berganini aytib berdi. Erkak undan so'radi: sen uni tanidingmi? Ayol javob berdi: "Yo'q, Alloh haqqi." U dedi: "Voy senga! U Allohning Elchisi ﷺ edi." Shunda ayol tezda uning oldiga bordi va yetib borgach dedi: "Ey Allohning Elchisi ﷺ, men sabr qilaman." Payg'ambar ﷺ dedilar: "Sabr musibatning ilk zarbasi vaqtidadir."
On the authority of Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) who said, "The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) went out to AI-Baqr and he saw a woman wailing on a grave. He said to her, "0 the servant of Allah, fear Allah and be patient". She replied, "0 the servant of Allah, if you were afflicted with what I have been, you would excuse me!" The Prophet said to her, "0 servant of Allah, fear Allah and be patient.” She replied, "0 the servant of Allah, I heard what you said, so let me alone. Abu Hurairah said, "The Prophet let her alone and there was a man who witnessed this scene and came to this woman and asked her what did this man (the Prophet) say to her? She told him what he said and with what she replied him. The man asked her did you know him? She replied, "No, By Allah." He said, "Woe to you! He is the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him). Thereupon, she quickly walked towards him until she reached him and said, "0 Messenger of Allah, I will be patient". The Prophet said, "Patience is at the time of the suddenness of the calamity.” 2
Demak, musibat keskin paytda sabr qilish afzalroq, lekin undan keyin tasalli, albatta, o'z o'rnini egallaydi.
This means that the patience is more virtuous at the suddenness of the calamity, but after that, solace, of course, takes place.
Sahihi Muslimda rivoyat qilinadi: "Abu Talhaning o'g'illaridan biri vafot etdi. Uning xotini Umm Salim oila a'zolariga dedi: "Abu Talhaga aytmanglar, qaytib kelganida o'zim aytaman." U erining oldiga kechki ovqat qo'ydi, u ovqatlandi va suv ichdi. Keyin u avvalgiga qaraganda ko'proq ziynatlandi va Abu Talha u bilan jinsiy aloqada bo'ldi."
In Sahih Muslim, it is reported that, "Once one of Abu Talha's sons died. His wife, Umm Salim said to his family, don't tell Abu Talha and I will tell him myself upon returning of Abu Talha, she offered the dinner for him and he ate and drank. Then she made up herself more than she did for him before that and Abu Talha had sexual intercourse with her.
Uning u bilan qanoatlanganini angach, u dedi: "Ey Abu Talha, bir kishilar boshqalarga biror narsa qarz bergan, so'ng ular o'z haqlarini talab qilganda, boshqa odamlarning ularga bu narsani rad etishga haqqi bormi, deb nima deysiz?" U javob berdi: "Yo'q." Umm Sulaym dedi: "O'g'lingizni Allohga qaytarilgan omonat deb biling."
Upon realizing that he satisfied himself from her, she said, 0 Abu Talha, what do you say about some people who lent something to others, then they demanded their right, do other people have the right to deny them this thing? He replied, "No". Umm Salim said, "Deem your son as a trust which returned to Allah.
Abu Talha g'azablanib dedi: "Sen meni qo'yasanmi, men o'zimni sen bilan bulg'agunimcha? Keyin esa o'g'lim haqida gapirding. Allohga qasam, bu menga sabr qildirmaydi." So'ng u Allohning Elchisi ﷺ huzoriga borib, yuz bergan voqea haqida unga aytib berdi. Allohning Elchisi ﷺ dedi: "Alloh ikkovlaringizning kechangizni barakali qilsin."1
Abu Talha got angry and said, do you leave me until I stain myself with you then you told me about my son. This, by Allah will never cause me to be patient. Then he went to the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) and told him about what had happened. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him said, "May Allah bless your night for you both.”1
Boshqa rivoyatda keltirilishicha, "Eng yaxshi va barchani qamrab oluvchi ne'mat sifatida, sabrdan yaxshiroq narsa hech kimga berilmagan."2
In another narration, it is reported that, "With the best and all-embracing good, no one is granted something better than patience.” 2
Ali ibn Abi Talib (Alloh unendan rozi bo‘lsin) Al-Ashas ibn Qaysga shunday dedi: “Sabrga yopishib ol, o‘liklaringni esa Allohning omonatiga qaytgan omonat deb hisobla, aks holda sen hayvonlar qilgan ishni qilgan bo‘lasan.” Bir donishmand musibatga uchragan kishiga yozdi: “Sen musibatga uchragan narsangni yo‘qotding, shuning uchun uning savobi ham seni o‘tkazib yubormasin.” Yana bir kishi aytdi: “Aqlli inson musibatining birinchi kunida qilmoqni, nodon esa musibatining beshinchi kunida qiladigan ishni qiladi.” Ma’lumki, vaqtning o‘tishi musibatga uchragan kishini tasalli beradi va yengillashtiradi. Shu sababli Shar’ iAllohdan keladigan qoidalar) musibat to‘satdan kelganda sabr qilishni buyurgan.
Bir paytlar Ash-Shofi‘iy (Alloh unendan rozi bo‘lsin)ga Abdurrahmon ibn Mahdiy o‘g‘lidan birini yo‘qotganini, uning o‘limidan juda qattiq xafa va tashvishda ekanini aytishdi. Shunda Ash-Shofi‘iy unga xabar yuborib dedi: “Ey birodar, boshqalarni tasalli bergan narsa bilan o‘zingni tasalli ber va boshqalarning qilgan ishidan nafratlanganing kabi o‘zingdan ham nafratlan.”
Ali Ibn Abi Talib (may Allah be pleased with him) said to Al-Ashas Ibn Qays, "Be committed to patience and count your dead as a trust which returned to Allah's keeping, otherwise you are behaving the way the animals do.” A wise man wrote to an afflicted man saying, "You lost what you have been afflicted with, so do not let its compensation i.e., the reward, miss you also." Another man said, "The sane person does on the first day of his calamity what the foolish person does on the fifth day of his calamity." It is well-known that the passing of time consoles and relieves the afflicted person. Therefore the lawgiver ordered the people to be patient on the suddenness of calamity. Once Ash-Shafi'i (may Allah be pleased with him) was told that Abdul-Rahman Ibn Mahdi lost one of his sons and he was very anxious and distressed because of his death. Thereupon, Ash-Shafi'i sent him a message saying, "O my brother console yourself with what you console others with and detest from yourself what you detest from other's doings.
Shuni bilingki, eng og'ir musibat — insonni rohat-farog'atdan va savobdan mahrum qiladigan musibatdir. Bu ikki narsaning va gunoh qilishning birikishi haqida nima deysiz? Shunday ekan, u sizga yaqin bo'lganida, undan uzoqlashib ketmasidan oldin, taqdiringizga shoshiling. Alloh sizga musibat paytida sabr ato etsin va bizga ham, sizga ham buning uchun ajr bersin."
Bir kishi o'z birodarlaridan ba'zilariga o'g'lining vafoti sababli ta'ziya bildirib shunday yozdi: "O'g'il tirik ekan, otasi uchun qayg'u va sinov manbai bo'ladi, lekin vafot etganida otasi uchun duo va rahmat bo'ladi. Shuning uchun o'tkazib yuborganingiz narsa uchun qayg'urmang: siz uning qayg'usi va sinovini o'tkazib yubordingiz, Alloh sizga ato etgan duo va rahmatni esa yo'qotmang."
Be sure that the most grievous calamity is the one which deprives the person the delight and the reward, so what do you say about the combination of these two thing and the doing of a sin? So hasten to your destiny while it is near to you before demanding it while it goes far from you. May Allah grant you patience at times of calamity and reward you and us for it." A man wrote to some of his brothers to console him because of the death of his son saying" "As long as the son is living, he is a source of sadness and trial for his father, but when he dies he becomes a prayer and a mercy for his father. Therefore, don't be sad for what you missed, you missed his sadness and trial and do not lose the prayer and mercy which Allah offers you.
Musa Ibn Al-Mahhdi bolasining o'limi munosabati bilan Ibrohim Ibn Salamani taskin berdi va shunday dedi: "U hayot chog'ida kishiga quvonch bag'ishlagan emasmidi, garchi u musibat va sinov bo'lsa-da? Vafot etganida esa u qayg'u manbaiga aylandi, so'ngra duo va rahmatga aylandi."
Musa Ibn Al-Mahhdi consoled Ibrahim Ibn Salamah on the death of his son saying, "Was not he a source of happiness although he was a calamity and a trial but when he died, he became a source of sadness then he became a prayer and mercy?
Bir kishi boshqasiga taskin berib shunday dedi: "Oxiratda sizga savob bo'ladigan kishi, dunyoviy hayotda sizga quvonch va baxt manbai bo'lgan kishidan yaxshiroqdir."
Shuningdek, rivoyat qilinadiki, Abdulloh ibn Umar (Allohdan unga rozilik bo'lsin) o'g'illaridan birini dafn qildi va qabr oldida kulib yubordi. Undan so'rashdi: "Qabr oldida turgan holda kulasizmi?" U javob berdi: "Shayton meni yengib qo'ydi."
Ibn Jarih (Allohdan unga rozilik bo'lsin) dedi: "Musibat vaqtida sabr qilmaydigan va o'liklarini Allohning himoyasidagi omonat deb bilmaydigan kishi hayvonlar kabi harakat qiladi."
Hamid al-Arroj dedi: "Men Sa'id ibn Jubayrni o'g'liga qarab turib shunday deyayotganini ko'rdim: 'Men senda bir xususiyatni bilaman.' Undan so'rashdi: 'U qanday xususiyat?' U javob berdi: 'U o'ladi va men uni Allohning huzuriga qaytarilgan omonat deb bilaman.'"
A man consoled another saying, "the one who will be a reward for you in the hereafter is better than the one who was a source of your delight and happiness in the worldly life." It is also reported that Abdullah Ibn 'Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) buried one of his sons and laughed at the grave. He was asked do you laugh while you are still standing at the grave? He replied, I was to over come by Satan. Ibn Jarih (may Allah be pleased with him) said, "Whoever is not be patient at the time of calamity and deem his dead as a trust which is in Allah's keeping, he will behave the way the animals do." Hamid AI-Araj said, "I saw Sa'id Ibn Jubair saying to his son and looking at him, I know a particular characteristic of you. He was asked what is it? He replied, "He will die and I will deem him as a trust which is returned to Allah's keeping.
Al-Hasan al-Basriy (Alloh unendan rozi bo‘lsin) rivoyat qilishicha: "Bir kishi o‘g‘lining vafoti sababli juda qayg‘urdi va buni unga shikoyat qildi. Al-Hasan dedi: "O‘g‘ling vafot etishidan oldin sendan uzoqda bo‘lganmi?" Kishi javob berdi: "Ha, uning uzoqda bo‘lishi uning huzurda bo‘lishidan ko‘proq edi." Al-Hasan dedi: "Unda uning uzoqda bo‘lishini abadiy deb bil, bu safar esa sen uchun eng ajrlisi bo‘ladi."
AI-Hasan Al-Basri (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that, "A man was very sad because of the death of his son and he complained this to him. AI-Hasan said, "Was your son absent from you before his death? The man replied, "Yes, his absence was more than his attendance. AI-Hasan said,"So deem his absence forever but this time will be the most rewarding for you.
Odam dedi: "Ey Abu Sa'id, o'g'lim haqidagi xavotirimni bartaraf etding."
The man said, O Abu Sa'id, You appeased my anxiety about my son.
Bir kuni 'Umar ibn 'Abdul-'Aziz kasal bo'lib yotgan o'g'lining oldiga kirdi va dedi: "Ey o'g'lim, ahvoling qanday?" U javob berdi: "Men o'zimni haqiqatda topdim."
'Umar dedi: "Ey o'g'lim, mening tarozimda bo'lishing edi! Sening tarozingda bo'lishim menga ko'proq sevimli. ('Umar gunohlarim o'g'lininikidan ko'p ekanini nazarda tutdi.)" O'g'li javob berdi: "Ey otajon, siz sevgan narsaga erishtirilishim menga, men sevgan narsaga erishtirilishingizdan ko'ra sevimliroqdir."
Bir kuni 'Urvah oyog'ida kasallik paydo bo'lib, uni kesishga majbur bo'ldi. U keksa odam bo'lsa ham, uni o'zi kesdi. U shu kechada odatda qilib yuradigan tez-tez eslash (zikr)ni tark etmadi, balki Allohning shu so'zini tilovat qildi: {Bizga ertalabki taomimizni keltiring, albatta, biz bu safarimizda katta charchoqqa uchradik} (Al-Kahf: 62).
Once 'Umar Ibn 'Abedul-' Aziz entered upon his son while he was ill and said, "0 my son, how are you?" He replied, "I found myself in the truth." 'Umar said, O my son, to be in my scale! It is more beloved for me to be in your scale ('Umar mean that his sins are more than his son's." The son replied, "O my father, to be granted what you love is more beloved to me than to be granted what I love." Once, 'Urwah was attacked by disease in his leg and he was obliged to cut it off and he cut it off himself despite he was an old man. He did not leave out his oft-frequently remembrance which he used to do on this night, but he recited Allah's saying, {Bring as our early meal, truly we have suffered much fatigue at this (stage of) our journey} (AI-Kahf: 62)
U (Allah rozi bo'lsin) ham shunday degan: "Ey Alloh! Agar Sen meni sinovga solgan bo'lsang, haqiqatan meni (bu bilan) qutqarding, va agar biror narsani olib qo'ygan bo'lsang, haqiqatan meni boshqa ko'p narsalardan saqlading. Bitta a'zoni olding va menga boshqa ko'p a'zolarni saqlab qolding, va bitta o'g'ilni olding va menga boshqa ko'pni saqlab qolding."
Shu kecha Banu Abs qabilasidan bir kishi al-Valid ibn Abdulmalik huzuriga kirdi. Al-Valid undan ko'zi haqida so'radi. Odam dedi: "Men bir vodiy cho'qqisida bir kecha o'tkazdim va Banu Abs qabilasidan mendan boyroq kishi bor deb bilmasdim. Keyin bizga sel keldi. Natijada mening barcha mol-mulkim, oilam va bolalarim halok bo'ldi, faqat bir tuya va bir o'g'lim qoldi. Tuya juda o'jar edi va qochib ketdi, men uning ortidan ergashdim. O'g'limni faqat ozgina masofaga qoldirdim va uning yig'isini eshitdim. Men unga qaytdim va uning boshini tuyaning qorni ostida topdim, u uni o'ldirgan edi. Keyin tuyani ushlash uchun ortidan ergashdim, lekin u oyog'i bilan meni tepdi, yuzimni buzib tashladi va ko'zimni ko'r qildi. Shunday qilib men oilamdan, mol-mulkimdan, o'g'limdan va tuyamdan mahrum bo'ldim." Shunda al-Valid dedi: "Bu odamni olib boringlar va Urvaga olib borib ko'rsatinglar, toki u bilan boshqa ko'p kishilar undan ham ko'proq musibatga uchraganini bilsin."
Shuningdek, rivoyat qilinadiki, Usmon (Allah rozi bo'lsin)ga hujum qilinib, urilganda, uning soqoligiga qon oqayotgan holda u shunday degan: "Allohdan boshqa iloh yo'q, Sen poksan. Haqiqatan men o'z-o'ziga zulm qilganlardan edim. Ey Alloh! Ulardan Senga panoh so'rayman va barcha ishlarimda Sendan yordam so'rayman. Ey Alloh! Meni sinovga solgan narsaga sabr berishingni Sendan so'rayman."
He (may Allah be pleased with him) also said, "OAllah! If You afflicted me, you truly relieved me and if you took something, truly you saved me many others. You took one organ and saved for me many others and you took a son and saved me many others. On the same night a man from Banu Abs entered upon Al- Walid Ibn Abd ul-Malik. AI-Walid asked him about his eye. The man said, "I spent one night in the peak of a valley and I didn't know anyone from Bany , Abd who may be more rich than me. Then we were afflicted with a torrent. Consequently, all my property, family and children were destroyed with exception of a camel and a son. The camel was very reluctant and it ran away and I started to follow it. I did not leave my son except for a short distance and I heard his crying. I returned to him and I found his head under its belly and it killed him. Then I followed the camel to catch it, but it kicked me with its foot and it disfigured my face and blinded my eye. Then I became deprived of my family, my property, my son and my camel." Thereupon, AI-Walid said, "Take this man and bring him before 'Urwah so he knows that there are many others who are more afflicted than him." It is also reported that, when 'Uhman (may Allah be pleased with him) was attacked and beaten, he said while blood was flowing upon his beard, "There is no God but Allah, Glory be to you. Truly I was one of those who wronged themselves. O Allah! I seek Your help against them and I seek Your help in all my affairs.O Allah! I ask You to grant me patience on what You afflicted me with.
Al-Mada'iniy dedi: "Sahroda juda go'zal bir ayolni ko'rdim va dedim: "Allohga qasamki, bu ayol albatta juda farovon va boy bo'lsa kerak." U dedi: "Allohga qasamki, bu unday emas, men ko'p azob-uqubat va tashvishlarni boshimdan kechirdim, sizga hikoyamni aytib beraman. Men bir erkakka turmushga chiqqan edim va bizning ikki farzandimiz bor edi. Qurbon hayiti kunida ularning otasi bir qo'y so'yib qo'ydi, bolalar esa o'ynab yurishardi. Katta o'g'il kichik ukasiga dedi: "Otam qo'yni qanday so'yganini senga ko'rsatishni xohlaysanmi?" Kichik o'g'il: "Ha", dedi. Shunda katta o'g'il ukasini so'ydi va uning qon oqayotganini ko'rib juda qo'rqib ketdi hamda tog' tomon qochdi, bo'ri uni yeb qo'ydi. Otasi uni qaytarib olib kelish uchun ortidan ergashdi, lekin sahroda yo'lini yo'qotdi va ochlikdan halok bo'ldi. Men esa yolg'iz qoldim."
Al-Mada'iniy undan so'radi: "Sabring qanday?" U dedi: "Agar sabr menga hamroh bo'lsa, unga amal qilaman, lekin bu yara edi va men tuzaldim."
Ibn Abbos (roziyallohu anhu) rivoyat qiladi: "Men Allohning Elchisi ﷺ ning shunday deganlarini eshitdim: "Kimning ikki o'g'li bo'lib, ular uning hayotida vafot etsa, u Jannatga kiradi." Oisha (roziyallohu anha) so'radi: "Otam va onam sizga fido bo'lsin! Bitta o'g'li bo'lgan kishi-chi?" Allohning Elchisi ﷺ dedilar: "U ham xuddi shunday savobga ega bo'ladi." Oisha davom etdi: "Ummatingizdan hech kimi yo'q bo'lgan kishi-chi?" U zot dedilar: "Men ummatimning oldinga o'tgan kishisiman, ularga mening (vafotim)dan og'irroq musibat yetmagan."
AI-Mada'ni said, "I saw in the desert a very beautiful woman and I said, "By Allah, this woman is surely a very prosperous and rich. She said, "By Allah, this is not true, I suffered many distresses and worries and I will tell you my story. I was married to a man and we had two children. On the day of 'Eidul- Adha (Feast of Sacrifice), their father slaughtered a sheep and they were playing. The elder son said to his younger brother, do you want me to show you how my father slaughtered the sheep? The younger son said, 'Yes'. Then the elder son slaughtered his brother and when he saw his brother bleeding he was very scared and ran away towards the mountain and a wolf devoured him. His father followed him to bring him back, but he lost his way in the desert and he died from hunger and I became lonely. Al-Mada'ni asked her, "How are you with patience?" She said, "If it accompanies me, I will abide by it, but it was a wound and I recovered." On the authority of Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) who said, "I heard the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) saying, "Whoever has two sons and they died in his lifetime, he will enter Paradise. Aishah asked, "May my father and mother be a compensation for you! What about the one who has one son?" The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessing be upon him) said, "He will have the same reward" 'Aishah proceeded, "What about the one who has none of your Ummah?' He said, "I am the forerunner of my Ummah and they were not afflicted with a more grievous calamity than mine (death).” 1
Abu Ubayda (Allohning rozi bo‘lsin undan) otasidan rivoyat qiladi, u shunday degan: "Allohning Elchisi ﷺ aytdilar: "Kimning uchta o‘g‘li bo‘lib, ular uning hayotida balog‘at yoshiga yetmasdan vafot etsa, bu uning uchun Do‘zax olovidan to‘siq bo‘ladi."" Abu ad-Darda, boshqa rivoyatda esa Abu Zarr shunday dedi: "Men ikki o‘g‘lim vafot etganini aytdim." Payg‘ambar ﷺ dedilar: "Ular sizga xuddi shunday savob olib keladi." Ubay ibn Ka'b, Qur'oni Karimni qiroat qiluvchilarning bosh qori, dedi: "Men bitta o‘g‘limni aytdim." Payg‘ambar ﷺ dedilar: "U sizga yana xuddi shunday savob olib keladi, lekin bu balo to‘satdan kelgan paytda bo‘ladi."
One the authority of Abu Ubaidah (may Allah be pleased with him) from his father who said, "The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said, "Whoever has three sons and they died in his lifetime before attaining the age of puberty, they will be a protection for him from the Hell-Fire." Abu AI-Darda, and in another narration Abu Dharr, said, "I introduced two sons. The Prophet said, "They will bring you the same reward. Ubai Ibn Ka'b, the muster of the readers of the Glorious Qur'an said, "I introduced one. " The Prophet (pbuh) said, "He will bring you the same reward, but this is at the time of the suddenness of the calamity.” 2
Vaki' rivoyat qilishicha, dedi: "Ibrohim al-Harbiyning bir o'g'li bor edi, u o'n bir yoshida Qur'oni Karimni yod olgan, fiqh va hadis ilmida chuqur bilimga ega edi. U vafot etdi, men uning otasiga ta'ziya bildirgani bordim. U menga dedi: "Men uning o'lishini orzu qilardim." Men dedim: "Ey Abu Ishoq, olimlar orasida bunday martabaga ega bo'la turib, qanday qilib bunday gapni aytasiz? O'g'lingiz voyaga yetgan, Qur'onni yod olgan va fiqh hamda hadis ilmini bilgan edi." U dedi: "Men tushimda ko'rdim, go'yo Qiyomat kuni bo'lib, juda ko'p bolalar suv solingan piyolalarni ko'tarib, odamlarga suv berish uchun ularning oldiga kelishdi. Kun juda issiq edi, men ulardan biriga dedim: "Menga biroz suv ber." U menga qarab dedi: "Siz mening otamsiz." Men so'radim: "Sen kimsan?" U dedi: "Biz Islom dinida vafot etgan bolalarmiz. Biz otalarimizdan oldin borib, ularga ichish uchun suv berish uchun oldinga o'tdik. Shu sababli men uning o'lishini orzu qilgan edim."
Muslim Abu Hasan orqali rivoyat qilgan: u dedi: "Men Abu Hurayrага dedim: "Bizga vafot etgan yaqinlarimiz haqida qayg'uimizni yengillashtiradigan biror narsa gapirib bering." U dedi: "Ular Jannat bolalaridir. Ular otalari yoki ota-onalari bilan uchrashib, ularning kiyimlaridan yoki qo'llaridan ushlab oladilar va ular Jannatga kirguncha ularni qo'yib yubormaydilar."
On the authority of Waki' who said,"There was a son for Ibrahim AI-Harbi and he was eleven years when he memorized the Glorious Qur'an and was knowledgeable in Fiqh and Hadith. He died and I went to console his father. He said to me," I was longing for his death." I said, O Abu Ishaq, how could you say something like that while you enjoy such a status among the scholars? Your son was grown up, memorized the Qur'an and was knowledgeable in Fiqh and Hadith. He said, I saw in a dream as if we it was the Day of Judgment and there were many children who are carrying cups of water and met the people to give them water. The Day was very hot and I said to one of them, give me some water. He looked at me and said you are my father. I said who are you? He said, we are the children who died in the religion of Islam and we foreran our fathers to give them the water to drink. For this reason I hoped for his death." Muslim reported on the authority of Abu Hasan who said that, "I said to Abu Hurairah talk with us about something that may relieve us from our sadness concerning our dead.” He said, they are the boys of Paradise and they meet their fathers or their parents and catch their clothes or hands and don't leave them until they enter Paradise.” 3
Malik ibn Dinar (Alloh undan rozi bo‘lsin) aytadi: «Hayotimning boshida men har xil o‘yin-kulgu va sharob ichishga berilib ketgan edim. Men bir cho‘ri sotib oldim, u bilan jinsiy aloqada bo‘ldim, u esa bir qizni tug‘di. Men bu qizni haqiqiy ma’noda yaxshi ko‘rardim. U voyaga yetib, yura boshladi».
Malik Ibn Dinar (may Allah be pleased with him) said, " At the be ginning of my life I indulged in every type of amusement and wine drinking. I bought a slave girl and I had a sexual intercourse with her and she gave birth to a girl. I loved the girl in the true sense of the word. She grew up and started to walk.
Har safar men ichmoqchi bo'lganimda, u kelib, qo'llarimning oldida uni quyib berardi. U ikki yoshga to'lganida vafot etdi, men uning o'limidan juda qayg'urdim va g'amgin bo'ldim. Keyin Sha'bon oyining o'n to'rtinchi kechasi bo'lganda uxladim va juda mast edim. Tushimda go'yo Qiyomat kuni bo'lib, men qabrimdan turg'izilganman. So'ng orqamdan bir ajdar ergashib keldi va meni yeyishni xohlardi. Men undan qochdim, lekin u meni tark etmadi. Qanchalik tez yugurgan bo'lsam, u shunchalik shoshilardi va men juda qo'rqardim. Yo'lda men toza va pok kiyimli, ojiz tanali bir cholga duch keldim. Men dedim: "Meni yeyishni va yo'q qilishni xohlayotgan bu tannindan himoya qilishingizni iltijo qilaman." U menga dedi: "Ey o'g'lim, men juda qari odamman va bu tannin bilan yuzma-yuz kurasha olmayman. Lekin o'ta ber va shoshil, Alloh seni undan saqlasin." Men qochdim, u esa menga ergashdi. Men qaynab turgan olov qatlamlariga juda yaqin qolgan edim va ularga yiqilay deb turgandim. Kimdir: "Bu bechora odamni, dushmani yetib kelmasdan oldin qutqaring", deganini eshitdim. Shunda darvozalar ochildi, pardalar ko'tarildi va oy kabi yuzli bolalar meni tomosha qilib turardi. Ular orasida qizim ham bor edi. U meni ko'rib, nur tarozisi pastga tushdi va o'ng qo'li bilan uni urdi, natijada tannin qochib ketdi. U mening tizzamga o'tirdi va dedi: "Ey otajon, {iymon keltirganlarning qalblari Allohning zikriga va nozil bo'lgan haqqa to'liq xoshinlik bilan bo'ysunadigan vaqt hali kelmadimi?} (Al-Hadid: 16)"
Whenever I wanted to drink she came and poured it before my hands. When she was two years old she died and I was very distressed and sad because of her death. Then when it was the fourteenth night of Sha'ban I slept and I was very intoxicated. I saw in my dream as if we are on the Day of Judgment and I was raised from my grave. Then there was a dragon following me and wanted to eat me. I fled from it but it did not leave me alone. The more I ran fast, the more it hurried and I was very fearful. On my way I passed by an old man with a clean and pure clothes and feeble body. I said, I entreat you to protect me from this tannin which want to eat and destroy me. He said to me, O my son I an a very old man and I am not able to face this tannin. But pass and hurry and may Allah protect you against it. I ran away and it. Followed me. I was very near to the layers of the fire while they were boiling and I was about to fall into them. I heard someone saying; rescue this wretched person before his enemy reaches him. Thereupon the gates were open and curtains were pulled up and there were children, with faces like the moon, looking at me. My daughter was amongst them and when she saw me she went down to a scale of light and beat it with her its right hand and consequently the tannin ran away. She sat in my lap and said, O my father, {has not the time arrived for the believers that their hearts in all humility should engage in the remembrance of Allah and of the truth which has been revealed ( to them)} (AI-Haddid: 16)
Men unga dedim: "Ey qizim, sen Buyuk Qur'onni bilasanmi?" U javob berdi: "Biz uni sendan ko'proq bilamiz." Men dedim: "Ey qizim, bu yerda nima qilasan?" U dedi: "Biz vafot etib, Qiyomat kunigacha seni kutib shu yerga qo'yilgan musulmon bolalarmiz." Men undan so'radim: "Ey qizim, meni yo'q qilmoqchi bo'lgan bu ajdar nima?" U dedi: "Ey otajon, bu sening yomon amallaring. Sen uni kuchaytirding, hatto u seni yo'q qilmoqchi bo'ldi." Men so'radim: "Bu ojiz odam kim?" U dedi: "Bu sening yaxshi amallaring. Sen uni zaiflashtirding, shu sababli u sening yomon amallaringga qarshi tura olmay qoldi. Shunday ekan, Allohga tavba qil va halok bo'lganlar qatoriga kirma." Shundan so'ng men uyqudan uyg'onib, o'sha paytdan boshlab Allohga tavba qildim.
I said to her, "O my daughter do you know the Glorious Qur'an? She replied, "We know it more than you, I said, "O my daughter, what do you do here? We are the Muslim children who died and were placed here until the Day of Judgment awaiting you." I asked her, "O my daughter what is this dragon who wants to destroy me? She said, "O my father, this is your odious deeds you strengthened it until it wants to destroy you. I asked her who is this feeble man? She said, "This is your good deeds you weakened it until it was unable to face your odious deeds. So repent to Allah and be not among those who are destroyed." Then I rose from my sleep and I repented to Allah from this time.
Shu sababli, bolalarning, o‘g‘il yoki qiz bo‘lishidan qat’i nazar, kichik yoshlarida vafot etishida bo‘lgan barakani (Alloh ulardan rozi bo‘lsin) o‘ylab ko‘ring. Agar ota-onalar sabr qilsalar, Allohdan ajr-mukofot so‘rasalar va “Alhamdulillah, biz Allohniki va Unga qaytuvchimiz”, deb aytsalar, ular bolalarining savobiga ega bo‘ladilar. Ular uchun esa Alloh va’da qilgan narsa bor, {Ular musibat yetganda: “Biz Allohniki va Unga qaytuvchimiz”, deydilar.} (Al-Baqara: 156)
Therefore, contemplate (may Allah have mercy towards you) the blessing of the death of children, whether male or female, while they are younger. Their parents will have the reward of them if they are patient and seek the compensation from Allah and say, praise be to Allah, to Allah we belong and to him is our return. They, in return, have what Allah has promised them, {Who say, when afflicted with calamity: to Allah we belong.} (AI-Baqarah: 156)
yaʼni, biz va bizning mulkimiz Allohniki bo‘lib, U Zot o‘zi xohlagancha uni tasarruf etishga haqlidir. Va bizning qaytishimiz Uning huzurigadir. Bu har bir narsa yo‘q bo‘lib ketishi va har bir narsa Allohga qaytishi haqidagi e’tiroftir.
i.e. we and our property is for Allah and He has the right to dispose with it as He wills. And to Him is our return." this is an admission that every thing will be destroyed and every thing will return to Allah.
Savban (Allah undan rozi bo'lsin) rivoyat qiladi: "Allohning Elchisi (uning ustiga Allohning salovati va barakotlari bo'lsin) aytdilar: "Hech bir inson balo-musibatga duchor bo'lmaydi, faqat ikki sababdan biri tufayli: yo shu balosiz kechirilmaydigan gunoh tufayli, yo bu balosiz erishib bo'lmaydigan muayyan darajaga erishish uchun."" 1
On the authority of Thawban (may Allah be pleased with him) who said, "The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "Never is a person afflicted with calamity unless it is due to two things, either because of a sin which will not be forgiven except by this calamity or because of a certain status which he will never attain except through this calamity.” 1
Sa'id ibn Jubayr dedi: "Bu ummatga musibat paytida shunday bir narsa berilganki, undan oldingi payg'ambarlar bundan mahrum qilingan, ya'ni {Albatta, biz Allohnikimiz va albatta, biz Unga qaytuvchimiz}." U so'zini davom ettirib dedi: "Agar bu payg'ambarlarga berilgan bo'lganida, u Yoqub (alayhissalom)ga berilgan bo'lardi, u {Yusufga qarab qayg'uradigan dard qanchalik og'ir!} deb aytgan edi" (Yusuf: 84).
Sa'id Ibn Jubair said, "This nation was given something at time of calamity which the Prophets preceding it were deprived of i.e., {To Allah we belong and to Him is our return." He proceeded to say, "If the Prophets were granted with it, it would be given to Jacob (pbuh) who said, "How great is my grief for Yusuf} (Yusuf: 84)
Ummu Salama (Allah undan rozi bo‘lsin) rivoyat qiladi: Men Allah Elchisi ﷺni shunday deganlarini eshitdim: "Biror kishiga musibat yetib, u: "Biz Allahniki va biz Unga qaytuvchimiz. Ey Allah! Musibatimda menga ajr ber va menga undan yaxshisini almashtirib ber", deb aytsa, Allah albatta unga ajr beradi va undan yaxshisini almashtirib beradi." Ummu Salama aytadi: Abu Salama vafot etganida men: "Abu Salamadan yaxshiroq kim bor?" dedim va buni aytdim. Shunda Allah menga (uning o‘rnida) Allah Elchisi ﷺni berdi.
On the authority of Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her) who said, I heard the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) saying, "Never is a person afflicted with a calamity and say, "To Allah we belong and to him is our return. 0 Allah! Reward me in my calamity and compensate me with something better than it, and Allah not reward him and compensate him with something better than it." Umm Salamah said, when Abu Salamah died, I said, who is better than Abu Salamah then I said it and Allah compensated me with the Messenger of Allah (pbuh).” 2
Ash-Shu'biy rivoyat qilishicha, Shurayh dedi: "Qachon menga biror musibat yetsa, Allohga to'rt marta shukr qilaman: Uning meni bundan ham og'irroq musibatga duchor qilmaganiga shukr qilaman, unga sabr berganiga shukr qilaman, mukofot umid qilayotganimni ko'rib chiqishimga yordam berganiga shukr qilaman va uni dinimda qilmaganiga shukr qilaman."
Allohu taolo aytadi: {Ana o'shalar ustiga Rabblaridan salavotlar va rahmat bo'ladi va ana o'shalar to'g'ri yo'lga yo'llanganlardir.} (Al-Baqara: 157)
On the authority of AI-Shu'bi who said, Shuraih said, when I have been afflicted with a calamity. I thank Allah four times, I thank Him that He did not afflict me with something more grievous than it, I thank Him for granting me patience for it. I thank Him that he helped me to review what I hope of reward and I thank Him that he did not make it in my religion. Allah the Almighty said, {They are those on whom (descended) blessings from their Lord, and mercy, and they are the ones that receive guidance.} (AI-Baqarah: 157)
Bu yerda "salavot" rahmat va mag'firat ma'nosini anglatadi. {Aynan ular hidoyatga erishganlar} degani, ular o'z amallari va ishlarini qayta ko'rib chiqishga hidoyat etilganlardir. Shuningdek, ular jannat va mukofotga hidoyat etilganlardir, deyilgan.
Here blessings mean mercy and forgiveness. {They are the ones that receive guidance} means, they are the ones who are guided to review their works and deeds. It is also said that they are the ones who are guided to Paradise and rewards.
Sa'id ibn al-Musayyab rivoyat qilishicha, Umar ibn al-Khattab (Alloh undan rozi bo'lsin) dan.
One the authority of Sa'id Ibn AI-Musayyab from 'Umar Ibn AI Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him)
Bu oyatlar sharhida kim aytgan: {Ular shunday kishilarki, ularga Rabblaridan ne'matlar va rahmat bor}, qanchalik baxtlidirlar. U yana aytgan: {Ular hidoyatga erishganlardir}, bu martabaning qanchalik ulug'ligi.
who said in his comment on, {They are the ones on whom (descended blessings from their Lord, and mercy}, how blessed they are. He said also, {they are the ones that receive guidance.} how blessed is this promotion. 1
Musibatga uchragan kishi, agar u norozilik bildirib, baland ovozda faryod va yig'i solsa, yuzini urса, yoqasini yirtsa, sochini tarang qilib yoyib yuborsa, soqol yoki sochini qirtishlasa, uzsa yoki yulsa, erkak bo'ladimi yoki ayol, u Allohning g'azabini va o'z ustiga la'natni chaqiradi.
As for the person who is afflicted with a calamity and he displayed his dissatisfaction through wailing and bursting in loud lamenting, slapping one's cheeks, ripping one's pockets, dishevelling, shaving, cutting off, or plucking out one's hair. He will invoke Allah's wrath and curse upon himself whether he is a man or a woman.
Shuningdek, rivoyat qilinadiki, musibat vaqtida ikki sonni urish insonni savobdan mahrum qiladi.
It is also reported that beating over one's thighs at the time of calamity deprives the person the reward.
Shuningdek, rivoyat qilinadiki: "Kimga musibat yetib, u yoqasini yirtsa, yuzini urса, cho'ntagini yirtsa yoki sochini yulsa, u o'zining o'qini olib, Allohga qarshi jang qilmoqchi bo'lgan kishiga o'xshaydi." Oldin aytib o'tilganki, Alloh odamlarni ko'zdagi yosh yoki yurakdagi qayg'u uchun azoblamaydi. Balki ularni tillarining qaytargan so'zlari va musibat paytida baland ovozda faryod chekib, yig'lab aytgan gaplari uchun azoblaydi. Oldin aytib o'tilganki, o'lik o'zi uchun qilingan nolalar sababli azob ko'radi. Shunday ekan, agar ayol: "Ey mening ta'minlovchim, ey mening yordamchim yoki meni kiyintirувchi!" deb faryod qilsa, o'sha kishi azob ko'radi va unga aytiladi: "Sen uning ta'minlovchisimi, sen uning yordamchisimi, sen uni kiyintiruvchimisan?" Shu sababli baland ovozda nola qilish joiz emas, chunki u qayg'uni alangalatadi va sabrsizlikni rag'batlantiradi. U shuningdek, Allohning taqdiriga rozi bo'lishga va Allohning amrlariga bo'ysunishga zid keladi.
It is also reported that, "Whoever is afflicted with a calamity and he tears his clothes, slaps his face, rips his pockets or plucks out his hair, he resembles the one who takes his arrow and wants to fight Allah." It is previously mentioned that Allah does not torture the people because of the tears of the eyes or the grief of the heart. Rather He tortures them for the returns of their tongues and what they say at the time of affliction of loud lamenting and crying. It is also previously mentioned that the dead is tortured with what he was lamented with. So, if the woman laments and says O my sustainer, O my helper, or the one who clothes me, the person will be tortured and it will be said to him, are you her sustainer, are you her helper, are you the one who clothes her? Therefore, loud lamenting is not allowed for it enraged the grief and encourages impatience. It "also goes against the satisfaction with Allah's destiny and submitting to Allah's orders.
Solih al-Mariy aytdi: bir payshanba kuni kechqurun men qabrlar orasida edim va uyqu meni bosib ketdi. Tushimda ko'rdimki, go'yo qabrlar yorilib, o'liklar tirilib, ko'plab to'dalar (halqalar) bo'lib o'tirishdi, ularning ustiga qopqoqli tovoqlar tushirildi. Ular orasida barcha turdagi azoblar bilan azoblanayotgan bir yigit bor edi. Men unga borib so'radim: "Ey yigit, bu odamlar orasidan nega sen azoblanyapsan?" U menga dedi: "Ey Solih, sendan iltimos qilaman, men aytadigan gapimni yetkazgin, omonatni ado et va qayg'imdan meni qutqarishda rahmdil bo'l. Uluǵ Alloh seni menga najot keltiruvchi qilsin. Men o'lganimdan keyin onam ko'plab ayollarni yig'di va har kuni meni yig'lab, nola qilib yig'ladi."
Salih AI-Mari said, once one Thursday evening I was among the graves and sleep overcome me. I saw in my dream as if the graves were cracked and the dead were raised and sat in many sessions (circles) and upon them there were covered plates descended. There was amongst them a young man who was tormented with all types of torture. I went to him and asked, O young man, why are you tortured from amongst these people? He said to me, O Salih, I entreat you to transfer what I will say to you and pay the trust arid be merciful to rescue me from my grief, may Allah the Almighty make you the one who will bring me salvation. When I died and my mother gathered many women and lamented and wailed over me every day.
Ularning faryodlari bilan azoblandim, ular aytgan gaplari sababli olov meni har tomondan o‘rab oldi. Alloh u ayolga mening sababli hech qanday yaxshilik bermasin. So‘ng u yig‘lay boshladi, men uning holatiga achinib yig‘lab yubordim. Keyin u dedi: "Ey Solih, onamning oldiga bor", va menga uning joyini aytdi, "Unga ayt: Nega o‘g‘lingni azoblaysan? U meni katta qilgan va balolardan asragan, men o‘lganimdan keyin esa meni azobga tashlagan. Ey onajon, agar mening holimni ko‘rsangiz, bo‘ynimdagi zanjirlarni, oyoqlarimdagi kishanlarni va meni urayotgan azob farishtalarini ko‘rsangiz, menga rahm qilardingiz. Agar faryod va nolish haqida aytayotgan gaplaringizdan voz kechmasangiz, Alloh qiyomat kuni siz bilan men o‘rtamizda hukm qiladi". Solih dedi: "Men qo‘rquv ichida uyg‘ondim va tong vaqtigacha o‘z joyimda qoldim. Tongda men bu qishloqqa bordim va bu yigitning onasining uyiga yetishdan boshqa hech narsa o‘ylamasdim. Men uning haqida so‘radim va uning oldiga yetib bordim".
I was tormented with their wailing and the fire surrounded me from all directions because of what they said. May Allah not reward her with any good because of me. Then he started weeping until I wept due to his state. He then said O Salih go to my mother, and he told me about her place, and say to her, why do you torment your son? She brought me up and protected me against misfortunes and when I died she threw me into the torture. O my mother, if you saw my state, the chains in my neck, the cuffs in my feet, and the angels of torture beating me, you will be merciful towards me. If you do not give up what you say of wailing and lamenting, Allah will judge between you and me on the Day of Judgment. Salih said, I woke up in fear and stayed in my place until the time of dawn. In the morning, I went to this village and I had no concern except to reach the house of the mother of this young man. I asked about her and I reached her.
Uning uyining eshigi qoraygan edi va uy tashqarisidan yig'i-sig'i va faryod ovozi eshitilardi. Men eshikni taqillatdim, bir keksa ayol chiqdi va "Nima istaysiz?" dedi. Men dedim: "Vafot etgan yigitning onasini istayman." U so'radi: "Undan nima istaysiz? U o'z qayg'usi bilan band." Men unga dedim: "Uni chaqiring, chunki men uning o'g'lidan unga xabar olib keldim." U ichkariga kirib, bu haqda aytdi. Ona qora kiyimda chiqdi, uning yuzi tez-tez yig'lab, faryod qilishdan qorayib ketgan edi. U mendan so'radi: "Sen kimsan?"
The door of her house was blackened and the sound of lamenting and wailing was heard from outside of the house. I knocked the door and there came an old woman and said what do you want? I said, I want the mother of the youth who died. She asked what do you want from her? She is engaged with her grief. I said to her summon her for I have a message for her from her son. She entered and told her. The mother came out wearing black clothes and her face was black out of oft wailing and weeping. She asked me who I was?
Men Solih Al-Mariy. Kecha qabristonda edim va o'g'lingiz bilan shunday-shunday voqealar yuz berdi.
I said, I am Salih AI Mari. Yesterday I was at the graves and so and so have happened to me with your son.
Men uni azob ichida ko'rdim va u shunday deb aytardi: "Ey onajon, sen meni tarbiyaladingu, baloyi-ofatlardan asradingu, lekin men o'lganimdan keyin meni azobga tashlab yubording. Agar aytayotgan yig'i-sig'ing va nolalaringdan voz kechmasang, Alloh Qiyomat kuni o'rtamizda hukm qiladi." Bu so'zlarni eshitgach, ona hushidan ketdi.
I saw him tortured and saying, O my mother, you brought me up and protected me against misfortunes and when I died you threw me into the torture. If you do not give up what you say of wailing and lamenting, Allah will judge between you and me on the Day of Judgment. Upon hearing that, she fell unconscious.
U holatiga qaytgach, u achchiq yig'lab dedi: "Ey o'g'lim, u menga juda aziz edi. Agar bilganimda, bunday qilmagan bo'lardim va men Allohga qilgan ishim uchun tavba qilaman." So'ng u uyiga kirdi, kiyimlarini almashtirdi va menga dirhamlarga to'la xurjun berib dedi: "Ey Solih, bu dirhamlarni o'g'lim nomidan sadaqa qilib ber."
When she restored her state, she grievously wept and said Omy son it is so cherished to me and if I knew, I would never do it and I repent to Allah from my doing. Then she entered her house, changed her clothes and gave me a suite filled with Dirhams and said, O Salih, give these Dirhams in charity on behalf of my son.
Solih u bilan xayrlashdi, unga Alloh huzurida duo qildi, so'ng ketdi va dirhamlarni sadaqa qilib berdi. Keyingi payshanba kechasi men odatimdagidek qabristonlarga bordim va uxladim. Tushimda qabristondagi odamlar qabrlaridan turib, doira shaklida o'tirganini ko'rdim va ularning ustiga laganlar tushirildi.
Salih said goodbye to her, supplicated to Allah for her, went away and gave the dirhams in charity. On the night of the next Thursday, I went to the graves as I used to do and I slept. I saw in my dream that the people in the cemetery rose from their graves and sat in circles and upon them the plates were descended.
Yigit juda xursand va ular orasida yoqimli edi, unga bir likopcha keldi va u uni oldi.
The young man was very happy and delightful amongst them and to him there came a plate and he took it.
U menga yaqinlashganda, u menga tomon oldinga yurdi va dedi: "Ey Solih, Alloh senga men uchun eng yaxshi mukofotni bersin. Alloh taolo onam nola qilib yig'lashdan voz kechgani uchun meni azobdan xalos qildi. Sadaqaning savobi ham menga yetib keldi." Solih dedi: "Bu nimalar, deb so'radim." U dedi: "Bular tirik kishilarning o'liklariga hadyalari bo'lib, sadaqa, Qur'on tilovati va duo orqali yuboriladi. Ular har kecha shu tarzda ularga tushib turadi. Aytilishicha, bu falonchining sizga hadyasidir. Shunday ekan, onamning oldiga qayting, unga salom yetkazing va ayting: Alloh sizga men uchun eng yaxshi mukofotni bersin. Men sizning sadaqangizning savobini o'zim uchun oldim, siz esa tez orada biz bilan birga bo'lasiz, shuning uchun o'zingizni tayyorlang."
Solih dedi: "Men uyg'onib, bir necha kundan so'ng bu yigitning onasining uyiga keldim. Uning eshigi oldida tobut turganini ko'rdim. Men so'radim: bu tobut kimning uchun qo'yilgan?"
When he saw me, he advanced towards me and said, O Salih, may Allah reward you in the best way for me, Allah the Almighty relieved me from the torture because my mother gave up wailing and lamenting. The reward of charity also reached me. Sahih said, what are these plates? These are the presents of the living people to their dead, from charity, recitation of the Qur'an and supplication. They descended upon them every night of thus. It is said this is the present of so and so to you. So, return to my mother and send peace upon her and say to her may Allah reward you in the best way for me. I received the reward of your charity on behalf of me and you will join us soon, so prepare yourself. Salih said, "I awake and come to the house of the mother of this youth after some days. I found a bier at its door. I asked for whom this bier is placed?
Ular javob berdilar: yigitning onasi uchun. Men uning ustidan janoza o'qidim, u o'g'li bilan birga shu qabrda dafn etildi. Men ular uchun Allohga duo qildim va ketdim. Biz Allohdan Musulmon holimizda vafot etishimizni, solih kishilar qatoriga qo'shilishimizni va Do'zax olovidan saqlanishimizni so'raymiz, chunki U Karim, Tavba qabul qiluvchi va Rahmli Zotdir.
They replied, for the mother of the youth. I offered prayer upon her and she was buried beside her son in this grave. I supplicated Allah for them and went away. We ask Allah to cause us to die while we are Muslims and join us to the righteous people and protect us from the Fire, for He is Ever-Generous, Ever Relenting and Ever-Merciful.