Bu dindor yoki dindor emasligingizdan, Xudoga ishonishingiz yoki ishonmasligingizdan qat'i nazar, to'g'ri kelади. Nikohsiz "xavfsiz jinsiy aloqa" degan narsa yo'q. Agar siz bilan birga bo'lgan inson o'rtasida nikoh qog'ozi bo'lmasa, siz o'sha insonning rahmi-shafqatiga muhtojsiz va biror narsa yuz bersa, u tasodifiy bo'ladimi, ataylab qilinganmi yoki yomon niyat bilan bo'ladimi, sizga yordam berish uchun deyarli hech narsa qilib bo'lmaydi. Bu so'zning eng haqiqiy ma'nosida hayot-mamot masalasidir: gap insonni dunyoga keltirish imkoniyati haqida ketyaptimi, hayotni xavf ostiga qo'yadigan kasalliklar yuqishi haqidami yoki jismoniy, ruhiy va jinsiy zo'ravonlikning har qanday boshqa ko'rinishi haqidami, yoki bularning barchasi haqidami, farqi yo'q.

It doesn’t matter if you are religious or not, or if you believe in God or not. There is no such thing as “safe sex” if you are not married. If there is no paper involved between you and whoever you are sleeping with, you are at the mercy of that person and there is very little anyone can do to help you if something happens, be it accidental, deliberate, or malicious. This is a matter of life and death in the most literal sense, whether you are talking about the potential to create life, i.e., a human being, or the contraction of life threatening diseases, or any other kind of possible emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, or all of the above.

Bu avval umumiy bilim edi. Bu avval oddiy sog'lom fikr edi. Ammo hozir buni shunchaki ta'kidlash ham sizni diniy fundamentalist qilib qo'yadi, miyasini o'chirib qo'ygan, inson huquqlarini va jinsiy avtonomiyaning qadrini tushunmaydigan odam sifatida ko'rsatiladi va hokazo, hokazo. Qanday ko'r bo'lish mumkin? Bu odamlarga shunchalik qiyinmi tushunish?

This used to be common knowledge. This used to be common sense. But now, just pointing this out means you’re a religious fundamentalist who has turned off his brain and doesn’t understand human rights and the value of sexual autonomy, and blah blah blah. How blind can you be? Is this really so hard for people to understand?

Biz Musulmonlar, nikohdan oldingi iffat va nikoh masalalarida Islom qonunlariga amal qilamiz, avvalo, Yaratuvchimizni eshitib, Unga itoat etganimiz uchun. Bunda shubha yo‘q. Lekin Uning amrlarida aniq foyda va hikmat borligini tan olib, uning ahamiyatini bizning tartibsiz, teskari dunyomizda qayd etsak, bu bizni “ratsionalist” qiladimi, mu’tazila falsafasini tiriltirmoqchimizmi, degani bo‘ladimi? Qattiqqo‘l aqidaviy ratsionalist bo‘lmasdan turib ham, bu yerda yuz berayotgan ahmoqlikni ko‘rsatib berish mumkin.

As Muslims, yes, we abide by Islamic law when it comes to pre-marital abstinence and marriage, etc., first and foremost because we hear and obey our Creator. No doubt about it. But when we recognize the clear benefit and wisdom in His commands and make note of that in our crazy, topsy turvy world, does that mean we are “rationalists,” trying to revive mu`tazili philosophy, etc.? You don’t have to be a hardcore theological rationalist to point out the stupidity at play here.