Zamonaviy jamiyat ona bo'lishning ahamiyatini shu darajada past baholadiki, hatto onalar ham "oddiy uy bekasi" yoki "faqat uyda o'tiradigan ona" bo'lish fikridan jiddiy noxushlik va tushkunlikka tushadilar. "Uyda o'tiradigan ona" degan iboraning o'zi ham salbiy ma'noga ega bo'lib, ojizlik, bo'shoqlik, qo'rqoqlik, mutlaq qaramlik va qurbonlik kabi tushunchalarni anglatadi. Uyda o'tiradigan ona bo'lish degani, sizni bunday og'ir ahvolga majburlashgan yoki, undan ham yomoni, buni o'zingiz tanlagan degani. Albatta, agar bu tanlov o'zingizniki bo'lsa, bu yaxshi — jamiyat buni erkin tanlov huquqi uchun bardosh beradi. Zamonaviy odamlar nazarida bu qarorning yagona qadri shu: u erkin tanlangan. Agar siz hayotingizni arzimas va mazmunsiz bir narsaga bag'ishlashga qaror qilsangiz, bu ham uyda o'tiradigan ona bo'lishni tanlash kabi qadrli bo'lib hisoblanadi.

Modern society has denigrated the importance of motherhood to such a degree that even mothers develop severe insecurities and depression at the thought of being a “mere housewife” or “just a stay-at-home mom.” The word “stay-at-home mom” itself is a dirty word, and bears connotations of powerlessness, meekness, timidness, abject dependence, and victim-hood. To be a stay-at-home mother means that you have either been coerced into such a destitute position or, even worse, you chose it for yourself. And sure, as long as it was your choice, that is fine — society will tolerate that purely for the sake of freedom of choice. That’s the only value that that decision could have in the eyes of modern people: that it was a decision freely made. If you decided to dedicate your life to something trivial and meaningless, that would be just as valuable as choosing to be a stay-at-home mom.

Ona bo‘lish o‘z-o‘zicha bizning davrimizda kattaroq ahamiyatga ega emas. Albatta, odamlar onani sevishning shaxsiy ma’nosini tan olishadi: “Meni dunyoga keltirgan insonga butunlay battar bo‘lmasligim kerak. Ona kuni bilan unga kartochka yuborarman, ehtimol.” Ammo bundan tashqari, onalarning haqiqatda qanday ta’sirga ega ekanligi va ega bo‘lishi lozim bo‘lgan ahamiyatini tushunish juda kam.

Motherhood in itself, however, has no larger significance in our day and age. Sure, people recognize the importance of loving your mom in the personal sense of “I guess I should not be a complete jerk to the person who brought me into this world. Maybe I will send her a card on Mother’s Day.” But beyond that, there is not much more of an understanding of the significance and influence mothers really have and ought to have.

Iltimos, tarjima qilinadigan matnni yuboring. Hozircha faqat "Consider this quote from a Christian writer:" degan ko'rsatma keldi, shuning uchun uni tarjima qilishim mumkin emas. Matnning o'zini yuboring, men uni o'zbek tiliga tarjima qilaman.

Consider this quote from a Christian writer:

“Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha.” Yes, mening xotinim faqat ona. FAQAT. U hayotni koinotga olib keladi, bu hayotlarni shakllantiradi, qoliplaydi va tarbiyalaydi. U uy xo‘jaligi ishlarini boshqaradi, yo‘naltiradi va yuritadi, shu bilan birga butunlay unga tayanadigan bolalarga g‘amxo‘rlik qiladi. U egizaklarimizga qanday qilib inson bo‘lishni o‘rgatadi va ular ulg‘aygach, ularni axloq, odob, alifbo, gigiyena va boshqa hamma narsaga o‘rgatadi. U mening ruhiy poydevorim va oilamiz qurilgan qoya. U hammaga hamma narsa. Agar u va boshqa onalar men sanab o‘tgan vazifalarning birortasida muvaffaqiyatsizlikka uchrasa, jamiyat tikuvlari yechilib, butunlay parchalanib ketardi. Ha, u shunchaki ona. Bu esa osmonga qarab: “Hoy, bu shunchaki quyosh-ku”, deyishga o‘xshaydi. Bu blogger minnatdorchilik nuqtai nazaridan gapirmoqda, ya’ni onalarni qadrlash kerak va ularning ba’zilari 9 dan 5 gacha ishlamaydi, degani ular jamiyatga hissa qo‘shmayapti yoki dangasa, degani emas. Minnatdorchilik yaxshi xabar, lekin uning yana bir jihati shundaki, biz onalarning ulkan ta’sirini tushunishimiz kerak. Oxir-oqibat, aynan ular inson avlodini o‘zlari xohlagancha shakllantiradi. Nega zamonaviylik va feminizm bu kuchni tan olmaydi? Go‘yoki jamiyatdagi barcha hokimiyat ommaviy sohada, biznesda, siyosatda va boshqa sohalarda mujassam, patriarxal jamiyatlarda esa bu sohalarda erkaklar hukmronlik qiladi. Ammo bu qarash xususiy sohada hokimiyatning amalga oshirilishini butunlay e’tibordan chetda qoldiradi (agar “ommaviy” va “xususiy” o‘rtasida bunday aniq chegara o‘tkazish mumkin bo‘lsa).

“Yes, my wife is JUST a mother. JUST. She JUST brings forth life into the universe, and she JUST shapes and molds and raises those lives. She JUST manages, directs and maintains the workings of the household, while caring for children who JUST rely on her for everything. She JUST teaches our twins how to be human beings, and, as they grow, she will JUST train them in all things, from morals, to manners, to the ABC’s, to hygiene, etc. She is JUST my spiritual foundation and the rock on which our family is built. She is JUST everything to everyone. And society would JUST fall apart at the seams if she, and her fellow moms, failed in any of the tasks I outlined. Yes, she is just a mother. Which is sort of like looking at the sky and saying, ‘Hey, it’s just the sun.’” This blogger is speaking in terms of appreciation, i.e., we should appreciate mothers and not think that just because some of them may not have 9 to 5 jobs, that doesn’t mean they are not contributing to society, are lazy, etc. Appreciation is a good message, but the other aspect of it is that we should understand the sheer influence of mothers. Ultimately, they are the ones molding the next generation of humanity as they see fit. Why do modernity and feminism not recognize the power inherent to that? Supposedly, all the power in society is found in the public sphere, in business, in politics, etc., and these are arenas dominated by men in patriarchal societies. But that view completely disregards the exercise of power in the private sphere (if we can even make such neat distinctions between “public” and “private”).

Shu nuqtai nazardan, uy bekasi bo'lishni tanlagan ayollar jamiyatning barcha a'zolari tarbiyasiga chuqur ta'sir o'tkazish, shu orqali dunyoning o'zini shakllantirish imkoniyatiga ega bo'lgan iqtisodiy, ijtimoiy va siyosiy kuchning muhim manbaini qayta qo'lga kiritgan bo'lar edi. Ona bo'lish haqidagi o'y ayollarni xavotirga yoki tushkunlikka solishi o'rniga, bugungi ayollar bu imkoniyatdan foydalanib, yondashuvida tashabbuskor bo'lishlari kerak. Biz aql-zakovat, sadoqat, tafakkur, topqirlik va matonat kabi fazilatlarni kasbiy faoliyat bilan, masalan, start-up kompaniyada yoki Fortune 500 kompaniyasida ishlash bilan bog'laymiz. Lekin bu fazilatlar ona bo'lishda ham ayni muddao namoyon bo'ladi. Unday bo'lsa, nega odamlar kollejda o'qigan, hatto ilmiy darajaga ega bo'lgan, keyin ona bo'lgan ayollar o'z iste'dodini "isrof qilayotgani" va "kasbiy imkoniyatlardan voz kechayotgani" haqida takrorlashadi? Odamlar ayanchli darajada chalkashib ketgan.

From this perspective, by choosing to be stay-at-home moms, women would be taking back a major source of economic, social, and political power — the power to deeply influence the upbringing of all members of society and thus to shape the world itself. Rather than be insecure or depressed at the thought of motherhood, today’s women should seize the opportunity and be enterprising in their approach. We associate qualities like intelligence, dedication, vision, resourcefulness, and tenacity to professional careers, e.g., working for a start-up or a Fortune 500 company. But these qualities apply in spades to motherhood, so why do people insist that women who go to college or even get advanced degrees and then become mothers are “wasting” their talent and “throwing away professional opportunities”? People are miserably confused.