在伊斯兰教中，自由的观念被责任所取代。这种责任不仅仅是对自己及自身欲望的责任，而是对你的造物主安拉（SWT）的责任。伊斯兰的社会制度涉及男女之间的关系以及他们之间产生的问题，它为稳定和睦的家庭结构确立了明确的准则。正是在这一基础之上，你作为父母与子女之间的关系得以建立，也正是这一基础为社会提供了环境，使你能够确保自己的孩子成长为你所引以为豪的人。

In Islam, the mentality of freedom is replaced by responsibility. This responsibility is not merely towards yourself and your own desires, rather it is the responsibility to Allah (swt) your creator. The Social System of Islam, which deals with the relationship between men and women and the issues that arise between them, defines clear guidelines for a stable and harmonious family structure. It is upon this basis that your relationship as a parent with your child is built, and it is this that provides the environment in society which can enable you to ensure that your child will grow up to be someone you are proud of.

首先，抚养孩子的主要责任落在你们作为父母的身上。安拉(SWT)说：

The primary duty to bring up your child lies on the neck of you as the parent. Allah (swt) says,.

“信道的人们啊！你们应当自救，也要救你们的家属，使他们免受以人和石头为燃料的火狱之刑罚。”（66:6）

“Oh you who believe, save yourselves and your families from the Hellfire, whose fuel is men and stones.” [TMQ 66:6].

这节经文确立了你为子女所抱的志向应当是什么。你首要的关切应当是让他或她获得天堂，并免于地狱之火。只有在此之后，才值得考虑他们应当接受什么样的教育或从事什么样的职业。毕竟，如果你为孩子所定的目标仅仅在于今世的享受与欢愉，那么你就很少为他们的后世生活做好准备，而后世才是你们两人最终的归宿。

This ayah defines what your ambitions for your son or daughter should be. Your primary concern should be that he or she attains the Paradise and is saved from the Hellfire. Only after this is it worth considering what kind of education or career they should pursue. After all, if your aims for your child lie solely in the bounties and pleasures of this life, you will give them little in the way of preparation for the life to come, which is the ultimate destination for both of you.

成功实现这一事业的关键，在于以正确的伊斯兰理解来教育你的孩子。你必须教导他们对真主（SWT）的正信，以及对祂的使者（ﷺ）的信仰，并教导他们如何履行作为穆斯林应尽的义务。而且你必须以这样的方式去做，使他们对自己所做的事情拥有完全的坚定信念。

The essence of achieving success in this endeavour lies in education of your child with the correct Islamic understanding. You must teach them about the true belief in Allah (swt) and His Messenger (saw), and how they should fulfil their obligations as a Muslim. And this you must do in such a way that they have complete conviction in what they are doing.

这包括教导他们伊斯兰信仰（‘aqeedah）的理性论证、礼拜、斋戒、进行da‘wah与jihad的责任、穆斯林的行为规范——总而言之，一切对他们而言是fard（必须履行的）和haram（禁止的）的事务。因为只有当一个人被培养出服从安拉（SWT）的命令与禁令的心态时，他才有希望获得乐园。

This includes teaching them about the rational proofs of the Islamic ‘aqeedah, the prayer, the fasting, the duty of da‘wah and jihad, the conduct of a Muslim - in short, all the things which are fard (obligatory) upon them and haram (forbidden) for them. For it is only when one is inculcated with the mentality of obedience to the commands and prohibitions of Allah (swt) that anyone can hope to attain the Paradise.

你要如何确保这项责任得到履行？首先要做的是审视自己。你是否已经准备好使自己免于火狱？如果还没有，你又怎能指望使你的孩子免于那样的命运？如果你要以伊斯兰（即 deen）的知识来教育你的孩子，你自己就必须先懂得它。其次，若要为孩子树立良好的榜样，你就必须在自己的生活中全面践行伊斯兰。这是你履行父母责任的第一个阶段。

How can you make sure that this duty is fulfilled? The first thing to do is to take a look at yourself. Are you ready to save yourself from the Hellfire? Unless you are, how can you hope to prevent your child from arriving at such a fate? If you are going to educate your child with knowledge of the deen (i.e. Islam), you must know it yourself. And then, if you are to be a good example to your child, you must practice Islam fully in your own life. This is the first stage in fulfilling your responsibility as a parent.

伊本·马哲圣训集记载，先知ﷺ说："你们要教育你们的孩子，并且要把他们教好。"

Ibn Majah narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, “Teach your children and teach them properly.”.

伊本·朱赖日（Ibn Jurayr）传述：先知ﷺ说："你们要命令你们的子女遵守安拉的一切命令，远离安拉的一切禁令，如此你们便可使他们免于火狱。"

Ibn Jurayr narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, “Order your children to abide by all the commands of Allah, and to avoid all the prohibitions, and by that you protect them from the Hellfire.”.

一旦你使孩子对伊斯兰教有了理解和坚定的信念——这是你能给予的最基本、也是最重要的准备——他或她就准备好面对世界所能提供的一切了。

Once you have equipped your child with an understanding and conviction in Islam - the basic and most vital preparation that you could give, he or she will be ready to face all that the world can offer.