Hebu tuangalie mambo yangekuwa tofauti vipi chini ya Uislamu:

Let us look at how things would be different under Islam :

Huu ndio wakati ambapo unajikuta ukiwa na udhibiti mkubwa zaidi juu ya maisha ya mtoto wako. Yeye anakutegemea kabisa kwa msaada na mwongozo. Uislamu unampa mtoto wako haki juu yako ambazo lazima uzitekeleze. Haki hizo ni pamoja na:

This is the period when you find yourself most in control of your child’s life. He or she is entirely dependent upon you for support and guidance. Islam gives your child rights over you that you must fulfil. These include :

Kuchagua mama/baba mzuri:

Choosing a good mother/father :

Hata kabla watoto wako hawajachukuliwa mimba, wajibu wako kwao tayari umeanza. ’Aisha alisimulia kwamba Mtume ﷺ alisema, "Chagueni mama anayefaa kwa mbegu yenu, na oeni mwanamke mwema." Al-Hakim.

Even before your children are conceived, your duty towards them has already begun. ‘A’isha narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, “Choose the correct mother for your seed, and get married to a good woman.” Al-Hakim.

2. Kutoa chakula, makazi na mavazi:

2. Providing food, shelter and clothing :

Hili ni wajibu wako kama mzazi. Abu Daud amesimulia kuwa Mtume ﷺ alisema: "Inatosha kuwa dhambi kwa mtu kwamba anawapuuza wale ambao yeye ana jukumu nao."

This is your duty as a parent. Abu Daud narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, “It is enough sin for a person that he ignores those whom he is responsible for.”.

Kuwafundisha dini:

Teaching them the deen :

Imepokewa kutoka kwa Ibn ‘Abbas kwamba Mtume ﷺ alisema: “Fanyeni kazi kwa kutii amri za Allah na jiepusheni na makatazo ya Allah, na waamrisheni watoto wenu wazingatie amri za Allah na kujiepusha na makatazo ya Allah, kwa hilo mtajikinga nyinyi wenyewe na wao na Moto wa Jahannam.” Ibn Jurayr.

Ibn ‘Abbas narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, “Act upon the obedience to Allah and avoid the prohibitions of Allah, and order your children to abide by the commandments of Allah and to avoid the prohibitions of Allah, and by that you protect yourself and them from the Hellfire.” Ibn Jurayr.

Unapotekeleza majukumu yako kwa masuala haya, hutimizi tu wajibu wako kwa mtoto wako, bali pia yanakuwa chanzo kikubwa cha thawabu kwako katika maisha ya Akhera.

When you take care of these issues, you not only fulfil your responsibilities to your child, but they are a source of great reward for you in the life to come.

Hapa ndipo matatizo halisi yanapoanzia. Mtoto wako anakuza akili yake mwenyewe, na kwa mara ya kwanza anaanza kufanya mambo ambayo huenda hukumwomba afanye.

This is when the real problems start. Your child develops a mind of his or her own, and for the first time starts to do things that you did not necessarily ask them to do.

Lakini ukiwalinganisha vijana wa Magharibi na vijana waliolelewa na mazingira ya Mfumo wa Kijamii wa Kiislamu, utaona kwamba mengi ya hofu zako yanatoweka. Hapa ndipo wajibu wao kama wana au mabinti unapojidhihirisha wazi:

But if you compare youth in the West to youth who have been cultured by the environment of the Islamic Social System, you will find that most of your fears are allayed. Here their duties as a son or daughter become apparent :

1. Kutochumbiana:

1. No Dating :

Vyombo vya habari vinawachorea vijana picha kwamba, ikiwa hawana mpenzi wa kiume au wa kike, lazima kuna kitu kibaya kwao. Katika Uislamu, ikiwa una mpenzi wa kiume au wa kike, kuna kitu kibaya katika mtindo wa maisha yako. Sera ya kutenganisha jinsia sio tu kwamba inahakikisha kwamba jaribu la kufanya hivyo linapunguzwa, bali pia inahakikisha kuhifadhiwa kwa heshima na staha kwa wanaume na wanawake. Badala yake, Uislamu unawahimiza watoto wenu waolewe mara tu wanapoweza (yaani wamebalehe). Allah (swt) anasema, "Msiukaribie zinaa (uzinifu), kwani ni tendo la aibu na ovu, na ni njia inayofungua milango ya maovu mengine." [TMQ 17:32].

The media paints an image for youth that if they don’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend, there must be something wrong with them. In Islam, if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, there is something wrong with your lifestyle. The policy of segregation not only ensures that the temptation to do this is minimised, it also guarantees the preservation of dignity and respect for both men and women. Instead, Islam recommends you to get your children married as soon as they are able (i.e. mature). Allah (swt) says, “Do not come near zina (fornication or adultery), for it is a shameful deed and an evil, opening the road to other evils.” [TMQ 17:32].

Bukhari alisimulia kwamba Mtume ﷺ alisema, "Atakayeweza kuoa na aoe, kwa kuwa hilo litamsaidia kuinamisha macho yake na kuhifadhi staha yake."

Bukhari narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, “Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him lower his gaze and guard his modesty.”.

Utii kwa wazazi:

Anorexia, unyogovu na kujiua. Haya ni baadhi tu ya matatizo mengi yanayowapata vijana kama matokeo ya moja kwa moja ya jinsi vyombo vya habari vinavyoonyesha "mwili bora." Kulifikia hili kunazidi uwezo wa watu wa kawaida wengi, lakini vijana wanajikuta wakilazimishwa kujitahidi kuendana na malengo haya yasiyo halisi. Katika Uislamu, msisitizo uko kwenye tabia ya mtu binafsi na taqwa yake, tofauti na sifa za kimwili.

Anorexia, depression and suicide. These are a few among many of the problems which arise in young people as a direct result of the way in which the media portrays the ‘ideal body.’ The achievement of this is beyond most ordinary people, yet young people find themselves forced to strive to conform to these unrealistic goals. In Islam, the emphasis is upon the character of the individual and his or her taqwa, as opposed to physical attributes.

Allah (SWT) anasema, "Enyi watu! Tumewaumba ninyi mwanamume na mwanamke, na tukakufanyeni mataifa na makabila ili mjuane. Hakika mbora wenu mbele ya Allah ni yule aliye mcha Mungu zaidi kati yenu." [TMQ 49:13].

Allah (swt) says, “O mankind! We have created you male and female, and have made you nations and tribes that you may know one another. Lo! the noblest of you in the sight of Allah, is the best in conduct.” [TMQ 49:13].

Mtoto wako anapofikia utu uzima, nafasi zinabadilika kwa kiasi kikubwa, na sasa ni wakati wa mtoto wako kulipa wema na ihsani uliyompa. Magharibi, wazazi wazee huonekana kama mzigo. Hospitali na nyumba za kuwahifadhi wazee zimejaa wazee wapweke wanaolipa gharama ya jamii ya ubinafsi. Katika Uislamu, wajibu wa kukutunza katika uzee wako unawaangukia watoto wako. Allah (SWT) anasema,

When your child achieves adulthood, the roles are effectively reversed, and it is time for your child to repay the kindness and benevolence that you have given them. In the West, aged parents are seen as a nuisance. Hospitals and residential homes are full of old and lonely people who pay the price of an individualistic society. In Islam, the responsibility to look after you in your old age lies on your children. Allah (swt) says,.

"Na watendeeni wema wazazi wenu. Mmoja wao au wote wawili wakifikia uzee mikononi mwenu, usiwaambie 'uff' wala usiwakaripie, bali zungumza nao kwa maneno ya heshima, na wakunjulie kwa unyenyekevu mbawa za huruma yako, useme: 'Mola wangu! Wahurumie kama walivyonilea nikiwa mdogo.'" [TMQ 17:23-24].

“And do good to your parents. Should one of them, or both, attain old age in your care, never say ‘oof’ to them or scold them, but (always) speak to them with reverent speech, and spread over them humbly the wings of your tenderness, and say, “Oh my sustainer! Bestow Your grace upon them, even as they cherished and reared me as a child.” [TMQ 17:23-24].

Kulea watoto wako Magharibi ni mapambano magumu. Kwa jumbe zilizochanganyika wanazopokea, kutoka kwa wazazi wao kwa upande mmoja na jamii nzima inayowazunguka kwa upande mwingine, si ajabu kwamba vijana wetu wengi wanapotea njia. Ufunguo wa tatizo uko katika kupanga upya maadili na mifano ya kuigwa inayoenea duniani inayokuzunguka, ambayo huathiri jinsi mtoto wako anavyokua na kuenenda. Kwa hiyo, ni chini ya uongozi wa Dola ya Kiislamu, na utulivu wa kijamii inaoutoa, ndipo unaweza kuwa na uhakika wa maisha ya familia yenye furaha, utulivu na mafanikio.

Bringing up your children in the West is an uphill struggle. With all the confused messages that they receive, from their parents on the one hand and the rest of the society around them on the other, it is no wonder why so many of our youth are going astray. The key to the problem lies in the reorganisation of the values and role models which are prevalent in the world around you, which affect the way in which your child develops and behaves. Thus, it is only under the guidance of the Islamic State, and the social stability that it offers, that you can be sure of a happy, stable and successful family life.