Ва ундан, Абд ар-Раҳмон ибн Ка'б ибн Молик орқали ривоят қилинишича, ўқ уччиларини ясовчи Омир ибн Молик Аллоҳнинг Элчиси ﷺ ҳузурига мушрик бўлган вақтида келиб, унга ҳадя тақдим қилди. Элчи ﷺ айтдилар: "Мен мушрикнинг ҳадясини қабул қилмайман". Ат-Табарoний ривоят қилган. Ушбу ҳадис Пайғамбар ﷺ ҳақида собит бўлган, мушриклардан ҳадя қабул қилганлари ва уни қабул қилишни буюрганлари ҳақидаги гапга зид келади. Али (розияллоҳу анҳу) ривоят қилади: "Кисро (Форс шоҳи) Аллоҳнинг Элчиси ﷺ га ҳадя юборди, у ҳам уни ундан қабул қилди. Қайсар (Рим шоҳи) ҳам унга ҳадя юборди, у ҳам уни ундан қабул қилди ва шоҳлар унга ҳадя юбордилар, у ҳам улардан қабул қилди". Аҳмад ривоят қилган. Яна Омир ибн Абдуллоҳ ибн аз-Зубайр отаси орқали ривоят қилади: Бани Молик ибн Ҳасал қабиласидан бўлган Абдул-Uzzo ибн Абд Асаднинг қизи Қутайла қизи Асмо бинти Абу Бакрга ҳадялар — калтакесаклар, пишлоқ ва ёғ олиб келди. У мушрик эди, шу сабабли Асмо унинг ҳадясини қабул қилишдан ва уни уйига киритишдан бош тортди. Оиша Пайғамбар ﷺ дан сўради, шунда Аллоҳ таоло нозил қилди: "Аллоҳ сизларни дин учун сизлар билан урушмаган, сизларни уйларингиздан чиқармаганлар билан яхшилик қилишингиздан ва адолатли муомала қилишингиздан қайтармайди, зеро Аллоҳ адолатли кишиларни севади" {Мумтаҳана: 8}. Шунда Пайғамбар ﷺ ундан ҳадясини қабул қилишни ва уни уйига киритишни буюрдилар. Аҳмад ривоят қилган. Демак, Элчининг ﷺ мушрикдан ҳадя қабул қилиши ва ундан ҳадя қабул қилishdan бош тортиши ўртасида зиддият кўриниб қолади. Уларни муваффиқлаштириш шундадирки, мушрикнинг ҳадясини рад этиш ҳадя қабул қилишнинг жоиз эканига далолат қилади, на ворижиб ва на мандуб бўлади, чунки Элчи ﷺ жоиз бўлган кўплаб нарсаларни ҳам рад этар эдилар: у ﷺ даб калтакесагини ейишдан бош тортди ва уни ёқтирмаслигини билдирувчи сўз айтди, хуштаклни ҳам ейишдан бош тортди. Shu narsa ham Imom Buxoriy rivoyat qilgan hadisdan: Imonli ayollar hijrat qilib kelganlarida ularga nisbatan Alloh nozil qilgan oyat haqida (Ey iymon keltirganlar, imonli ayollar muhojir bo'lib sizning oldingizga kelsalar, ularni sinovdan o'tkazinglar; Alloh ularning imonini eng yaxshi biladi. Agar ularning haqiqatan mo'min ekanliklarini aniqlasangiz, ularni kofirlarga qaytarmanglar; ular ular uchun halol emas, kofirlar ham ular uchun halol emas…) Urva aytdi: "Oyisha menga aytdi: Allah elchisi ﷺ ularni mana shu oyat bilan sinovdan o'tkazar edilar: (Ey iymon keltirganlar, imonli ayollar muhojir bo'lib sizning oldingizga kelsalar, ularni sinovdan o'tkazinglar… …) to (Alloh kechiruvchi, rahmli zotdir) oyatigacha". Urva aytdi: "Oyisha aytdi: ularning qaysi biri bu shartni qabul qilsa, Allah elchisi ﷺ unga: Men sizning bay'atingizni oldim, deb aytar edilar. Bu so'zni faqat gapi bilan aytar edilar. Allah bilan qasamki, bay'at olishda Allah elchisi ﷺning qo'li hech bir ayolning qo'liga tegmagan, faqat gap bilan bay'at olganlar", deb Imom Buxoriy rivoyat qilgan. Umaymah bint Ruqayqadan rivoyat qilinadi, u aytdi: "Men bir guruh ayollar bilan Allah elchisi ﷺning huzurlariga keldim. Ular Islomga bay'at qilishdi va dedilar: Ey Allah elchisi, biz sizga Allohga hech narsani sherik qilmaslik, o'g'rilik qilmaslik, zino qilmaslik, farzandlarimizni o'ldirmaslik, qo'llarimiz va oyoqlarimiz oldida o'zimiz to'qigan bo'htonni aytmaslik (noqonuniy farzandlarni erlariga nisbat berish) va ma'ruf ishlarda sizga itoat qilmaslikka bay'at qilamiz. Shunda Elchi ﷺ dedilar: Qo'lingizdan kelgan va chidashingiz mumkin bo'lgan narsada. U aytdi: Ular dedilar: Allah va Uning Elchisi bizga o'zimizdan ham mehribondirlar. Ey Allah elchisi, bizga bay'at qiling. Shunda Allah elchisi ﷺ dedilar: Men ayollar bilan qo'l berishmayman. Mening yuz ayolga aytgan gapim bitta ayolga aytgan gapim kabidir", deb Imom Molik rivoyat qilgan. Al-Buxoriy 'Urvadan, u Oishadan (RA) rivoyat qilishicha, u dedi: "Allohning Elchisi (SAV) ning qo'li hech qanday ayolning qo'liga tegmagan, faqat o'zi ega bo'lgan ayolning qo'li bundan mustasno", bas, bu hadislar Al-Buxoriy Umm 'Otiyadan rivoyat qilgan hadis bilan ziddiyatga boradi. U dedi: "Biz Nabiy (SAV) ga bay'at qildik, so'ng u bizga o'qidi: ({...} ular Allohga biror narsani ibodatda sherik qilmasliklari…) va bizga baland ovozda yig'lashni man qildi. Shunda bizning oramizdagi bir ayol qo'lini tortib oldi va dedi: "Falonchi ayol meni xursand qildi, men uning ham hurmatini qaytarmoqchiman", shunda u hech narsa demadi". Bu hadis Elchining ayollarning bay'atini qo'l berish orqali qabul qilganini bildiradi, uning so'zi: "so'ng bizning orkamizdagi bir ayol qo'lini tortib oldi…", ya'ni u bilan birga bo'lgan ayollar qo'llarini tortmagan, demak ular qo'llari bilan, ya'ni qo'l siqish orqali bay'at qilganlar. Umaymaning hadisida esa: "Men ayollar bilan qo'l berishmayman…" deyilgan va: "uning qo'li hech qanday ayolning qo'liga tegmagan…" deyilgan, shu sababli bunda ziddiyat bor, chunki qo'l siqish orqali bay'at qilish haqidagi hadis uning ayollar bilan qo'l berishmaganligi haqidagi hadis bilan ziddiyatga boradi. Ushbu hadis bilan boshqa hadislar o'rtasidagi muvofiqlik shundadirki, Rasulning (SAW) biror ishni qilishdan bosh tortishi taqiq emas, shuning uchun u qo'l berib salomlashishni man qilmagan, balki u mubah bo'lgan narsalardan birini tark etgan. Bu shuni ko'rsatadiki, Rasulning ﷺ ayollardan qo'l berish orqali bay'at olishi vojib ham emas, mandub ham emas, balki mubahdir. Chunki Rasulning ﷺ "u qo'l berib salomlashmaydi" degani uni man qilgani emas, shuning uchun bu, albatta, taqiq emas, balki u ko'p mubah narsalardan qochganidek qochgan bo'lishi mumkin. Masalan, u uyida bir dirham yoki bir dinorni tunab qoldirishdan qochgan, Ibn Umar rivoyat qilgan Nofi' hadisidagi cho'ponning nayini eshitishdan qochgan — cho'ponni man qilmagan va to'xtatmagan, bu uning ma'qullaganidan dalolat beradi, lekin eshitishdan qochgan — va kaltakesak hamda quyonni yeyishdan qochgan.
Shunga ko'ra, Umaymaning hadisi bilan undan oldingi hadis o'rtasida ziddiyat yo'q. Umaymaning hadisidagi e'tibor shunga qaratilishi kerak. Unda ziddiyat shubhasi faqat Ummu Atiyyaning qo'l berib bay'at qilish haqidagi hadisi tufaylidir, chunki u bay'atga xosdir, boshqa hadislar ham bay'atga xosdir, shuning uchun ziddiyat shubhasi paydo bo'ladi.
Ayolni erkak tomonidan qo'l bilan tegizish mubahligiga dalolat qiluvchi dalillarga kelsak, Allohning: "yoki ayollarga tegsangiz..." (An-Nisa, 43-oyat) — boshqa o'qilishda: "yoki ayollarga tegib qo'ygan bo'lsangiz..." — degan so'zi ishora orqali dalolat qiladi. Shuning uchun bu oyat bilan Umaymaning hadisi o'rtasida ziddiyat shubhasi yo'q, chunki bu oyat har qanday tegishga umumiydir, Umaymaning hadisi esa bay'atga xosdir.
And from that is what was narrated from Abd Al-Rahmaan Ibn Ka'b Ibn Maalik that 'Aamir Ibn Maalik the arrowhead player came to the Messenger of Allah (SAW) when he was polytheist and offered him a gift, the Messenger said: I do not accept a polytheist's gift" compiled by Al-Tabaraani. This hadeeth conflicts what is affirmed about the Prophet (SAW) that he accepted the gift from the polytheists and commanded to accept it. From Ali (RAA) that he said: Kisra (the king of Persia sent a gift to the Messenger of Allah (SAW) and he accepted it from him, and Qaysar (the king of the roman) sent a gift to him and he accepted it from him, and kings sent gifts to him and he accepted from them" compiled by Ahmad. And from 'Aamir Bn Abd Allah Bn Al-zubayr from his father that he said: Qutailah Ibnat Abd al-'uzza Ibn Abd As'ad from (the tribe of) Bany Maalik Ibn Hasal came to her daughter Asmaa' Ibnat Abi Bakr with gifts: lizards, cheese and ghee, and she was polytheist, so Asmaa' refused to accept her gift and to let her enter her house. 'Aa'ishah asked the Prophet (SAW), then Allah the Great and Almighty revealed down: Allah forbids you not, with regard to those who fight you not for (your) Faith nor drive you out of your homes, from dealing kindly and justly with them: for Allah loves those who are just). So he commanded her to accept her gift, and to allow her enter her house" compiled by Ahmad. So the conflict appears between the Messenger's acceptance the gift from the polytheist and his refusal the gift from the polytheist. The reconciling between them is that his refusal of the gift from the mushrik is an indication that accepting the gift is permissible, and neither a waajib nor a mandoob, because the Messenger used to refuse many of the permissible, he refused to eat from the dab lizard and said what denotes that he detests it, and he refused to eat the rabbit. From that also is what the Bukhari narrated about the believers migrated said he women When Allah sent down about them: (O you who believe, when believing women come to you as emigrants, examine them; Allah knows best as to their faith, then if you ascertain that they are true believers; do not return them back to the disbelievers, they are not lawful (wives) for the them nor are the disbelievers lawful (husbands) for them …) 'Urwah said: 'Aa'ishah told me: that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) used to examine them by this Aayah, (O you who believe, when believing women come to you as emigrants, examine … (to) Allah is Oft-Forgiving, most Merciful. 'Urwah said: 'Aa'ishah said: so any woman of them acknowledges this condition, the Messenger of Allah (SAW) used to tell her: I have taken your pledge (bai'ah), that is by talking he says it to her, by Allah his hand did not touch the hand of any woman while taking the pledge, he only took it by his talk" compiled by Al-Bukhari. And from Umaimah the daughter of Raqiqah that she said: I came to the Messenger of Allah (SAW) with some women whom gave him the pledge (bai'ah) on Islam, they said: O Messenger of Allah, we give you the pledge that we will not associate anything in worship with Allah, we will not steal, we will not commit unlawful sexual intercourse, we will not kill our children, we will not utter slander that we forge it between our hands and our feet (by claiming that unlawful children belong to their husbands), and we do not disobey you in ma'roof (that which Islam commands), then the Messenger (SAW) said: In that which is possible and bearable for you, she said: they said: Allah and His Messenger are more merciful to us than ourselves, let us give you the bai'ah O Rasoul Allah, then Rasoul Allah said: I do not shake hands with women, my talk to a hundred women is like my talk to one woman" compiled by Maalik. Al-Bukhari narrated from 'Urwah from 'Aa'ishah (RA) she said: And the hand of the Messenger of Allah (SAW) did not touch the hand of any woman except a woman that he possessed", so these ahaadeeth conflict that which Al-Bukhari narrated from Um 'Atiyah that said she We pledged the Prophet (SAW) then he recited to us: (… that they do not associate anything in worship with Allah…) and he forbade the loud weeping for us, then a woman from among us withdrew her hand then said: she so-and-so made me happy, and I want to repay her, then he did not say anything". This hadeeth denotes that the Messenger accepted the women's bai'ah by shaking hands for her saying: "then a woman from among us withdrew her hand …" which means that the women who were with her withdrew not their hands, meaning that they performed the bai'ah by their hands, i.e. by hands shake. And the hadeeth of Umaimah says: " I do not shake hands with women …" and says: َ his hand did not touch the hand of any woman …", so there is conflict in that, because the hadeeth of the bai'ah with the hands shake conflicts with the hadeeth that he did not shake hands with women. The reconciliation between this hadeeth and the other ahaadeeth is that the refusal of the Messenger of doing an action is not a forbiddance, so it denotes not the forbiddance of the hands shake, by it is his abstention from one of the permissible, and it is an indication that his action of taking the bai'ah from the women by the hands shake is not waajib, nor is it mandoob, but it is mubaah, because the saying of the Messenger (SAW) that he does not shake hands means not that he forbade the hands shake, so it is definitely not a forbiddance, but possibly he avoided it as he used to avoid many of the permissible, as he avoided to keep a dirham or a dinar overnight in his house, and as he avoided to hear the shepherd's pipe that is in the hadeeth of Naafi' from Ibn 'Omar, and he did not forbid the shepherd nor did he restrain him, which denotes his approval but he avoided hearing it, and as he avoided eating the lizard and the rabbit and the likes. Accordingly there is no conflict between the hadeeth of Umaimah and the hadeeth before it. The attention in the hadeeth of Umaimah should be drawn to that, the suspicion of the conflict in it is only because of the hadeeth of Um Atiyah about the bai'ah by the hands shake, because it is specific for the bai'ah, and those ahaadeeth are also specific for the bai'ah, therefore there is a conflict suspicion, and as for the evidences that denote the permissibility of touching Aayah the like or you have been in contact with women …" and in a recitation: or you have touched the women …" 43 Surat Al-Nisaa', it denotes by the signal denotation the permissibility of touching the woman by the man, so there is no conflict suspicion between the hadeeth of Umaimah and this Aayah because this is general for every touch, and the hadeeth of Umaimah is specific in the bai'ah.