A cikin Musulunci, tunanin 'yanci yana canzawa zuwa nauyi. Wannan nauyi ba kawai ga kanka da sha'awarka ba ne, a'a nauyi ne ga Allah (SWT) mahaliccinka. Tsarin Zamantakewa na Musulunci, wanda ke magana kan dangantakar maza da mata da matsalolin da ke tasowa a tsakaninsu, yana bayyana ka'idoji bayyanannu don samun tsari mai karko da jituwa a cikin iyali. A kan wannan tushe ne dangantakarka a matsayinka na iyaye da yaronka ke ginuwa, kuma wannan ne ke samar da yanayi a cikin al'umma wanda zai ba ka damar tabbatar da cewa yaronka zai girma ya zama mutumin da za ka yi alfahari da shi.

In Islam, the mentality of freedom is replaced by responsibility. This responsibility is not merely towards yourself and your own desires, rather it is the responsibility to Allah (swt) your creator. The Social System of Islam, which deals with the relationship between men and women and the issues that arise between them, defines clear guidelines for a stable and harmonious family structure. It is upon this basis that your relationship as a parent with your child is built, and it is this that provides the environment in society which can enable you to ensure that your child will grow up to be someone you are proud of.

Babban aikin renon yaro yana wuyan ku a matsayinku na iyaye. Allah (SWT) yana cewa:

The primary duty to bring up your child lies on the neck of you as the parent. Allah (swt) says,.

"Ya ku waɗanda suka yi imani, ku kiyaye kanku da iyalanku daga Wuta, wadda makamashinta mutane ne da duwatsu." {TMQ 66:6}.

“Oh you who believe, save yourselves and your families from the Hellfire, whose fuel is men and stones.” [TMQ 66:6].

Wannan ayar tana bayyana irin burin da ya kamata ka sanya wa ɗanka ko ’yarka. Babban abin damuwarka ya kamata ya zama cewa ya samu Aljanna kuma an tsare shi daga Wuta. Sai bayan haka ne za a iya yin tunani a kan wane irin ilimi ko sana’a ya kamata su bi. Domin idan burinka ga yaronka yana kan ni’imomi da jin daɗin wannan duniya kawai, to ba za ka shirya shi sosai ba don rayuwa ta gaba, wadda ita ce makoma ta ƙarshe ga ku duka.

This ayah defines what your ambitions for your son or daughter should be. Your primary concern should be that he or she attains the Paradise and is saved from the Hellfire. Only after this is it worth considering what kind of education or career they should pursue. After all, if your aims for your child lie solely in the bounties and pleasures of this life, you will give them little in the way of preparation for the life to come, which is the ultimate destination for both of you.

Ainihin abin da ke tabbatar da nasara a wannan aiki shi ne ilimantar da yaronka da fahimtar Musulunci daidai. Dole ne ka koya musu game da gaskiyar imani ga Allah (SWT) da Manzonsa ﷺ, da yadda ya kamata su cika wajibcinsu a matsayinsu na Musulmi. Kuma dole ne ka yi haka ta hanyar da za su kasance da cikakken yakini kan abin da suke yi.

The essence of achieving success in this endeavour lies in education of your child with the correct Islamic understanding. You must teach them about the true belief in Allah (swt) and His Messenger (saw), and how they should fulfil their obligations as a Muslim. And this you must do in such a way that they have complete conviction in what they are doing.

Wannan ya haɗa da koya musu hujjojin hankali na ‘aqeedar Musulunci, sallah, azumi, wajibcin da’wah da jihadi, halayyar Musulmi - a taƙaice, duk abubuwan da suka zama farilla (wajibi) a kansu da abubuwan da suka zama haram a gare su. Domin sai lokacin da mutum ya shiga cikin tunanin biyayya ga umarni da hani na Allah (SWT) ne zai iya fatan samun Aljanna.

This includes teaching them about the rational proofs of the Islamic ‘aqeedah, the prayer, the fasting, the duty of da‘wah and jihad, the conduct of a Muslim - in short, all the things which are fard (obligatory) upon them and haram (forbidden) for them. For it is only when one is inculcated with the mentality of obedience to the commands and prohibitions of Allah (swt) that anyone can hope to attain the Paradise.

Ta yaya za a tabbatar da cewa wannan aiki ya cika? Abu na farko da ya kamata a yi shi ne a duba kanka. Shin kana shirye ka kiyaye kanka daga Wuta? Idan ba ka shirya ba, ta yaya za ka yi fatan hana ɗanka kaiwa ga irin wannan makoma? Idan za ka koyar da ɗanka ilimin addini (watau Musulunci), dole ne ka sani da kanka. Sannan, idan za ka zama abin koyi mai kyau ga ɗanka, dole ne ka aikata Musulunci gaba ɗaya a rayuwarka. Wannan shi ne mataki na farko na cika nauyin da ke kanka a matsayinka na iyaye.

How can you make sure that this duty is fulfilled? The first thing to do is to take a look at yourself. Are you ready to save yourself from the Hellfire? Unless you are, how can you hope to prevent your child from arriving at such a fate? If you are going to educate your child with knowledge of the deen (i.e. Islam), you must know it yourself. And then, if you are to be a good example to your child, you must practice Islam fully in your own life. This is the first stage in fulfilling your responsibility as a parent.

Ibn Majah ya ruwaito cewa Annabi ﷺ ya ce: "Ku koya wa 'ya'yanku, kuma ku koya musu da kyau."

Ibn Majah narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, “Teach your children and teach them properly.”.

Ibn Jurayr ya ruwaito cewa Annabi ﷺ ya ce: "Ku umurci 'ya'yanku su bi dukkan umarnin Allah, kuma su nisanci dukkan abubuwan da aka hana, kuma ta haka za ku kare su daga Wuta."

Ibn Jurayr narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, “Order your children to abide by all the commands of Allah, and to avoid all the prohibitions, and by that you protect them from the Hellfire.”.

Da zarar ka bai wa yaronka fahimta da yaƙini a cikin Musulunci - wannan shi ne shiri na asali kuma mafi muhimmanci da za ka iya ba shi ko ita, to zai kasance cikin shiri don fuskantar duk abin da duniya za ta iya bayarwa.

Once you have equipped your child with an understanding and conviction in Islam - the basic and most vital preparation that you could give, he or she will be ready to face all that the world can offer.