Bari mu duba yadda abubuwa zasu bambanta a karkashin Musulunci:

Let us look at how things would be different under Islam :

Wannan shi ne lokacin da kake da iko mafi girma a kan rayuwar yaronka. Shi ko ita sun dogara gaba ɗaya a kanka don tallafi da jagora. Musulunci ya ba yaronka haƙƙoƙi a kanka da dole ne ka cika su. Waɗannan sun haɗa da:

This is the period when you find yourself most in control of your child’s life. He or she is entirely dependent upon you for support and guidance. Islam gives your child rights over you that you must fulfil. These include :

Zaɓar uwa/uba nagari :

Choosing a good mother/father :

Ko kafin a samu ciki da 'ya'yanku, aikinku a gare su ya riga ya fara. 'A'isha ta ruwaito cewa Annabi ﷺ ya ce: "Ku zaɓi uwar da ta dace da zuriyarku, kuma ku auri mace mai kyau." Al-Hakim.

Even before your children are conceived, your duty towards them has already begun. ‘A’isha narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, “Choose the correct mother for your seed, and get married to a good woman.” Al-Hakim.

2. Samar da abinci, matsuguni da tufafi:

2. Providing food, shelter and clothing :

Wannan aikinka ne a matsayinka na iyaye. Abu Daud ya ruwaito cewa Annabi ﷺ ya ce: "Ya isa zunubi ga mutum ya yi watsi da waɗanda ke ƙarƙashin kulawarsa."

This is your duty as a parent. Abu Daud narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, “It is enough sin for a person that he ignores those whom he is responsible for.”.

Koyar da su addini:

Teaching them the deen :

Daga Ibn ‘Abbas, ya ce: Manzon Allah ﷺ ya ce: “Ku yi aiki da biyayya ga Allah, ku kuma nisanci abubuwan da Allah ya haramta, ku umarci ‘ya’yanku su bi umarnin Allah, su kuma nisanci abubuwan da Allah ya haramta, ta haka ne za ku kare kanku da su daga Wuta.” Ibn Jurayr ne ya ruwaito shi.

Ibn ‘Abbas narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, “Act upon the obedience to Allah and avoid the prohibitions of Allah, and order your children to abide by the commandments of Allah and to avoid the prohibitions of Allah, and by that you protect yourself and them from the Hellfire.” Ibn Jurayr.

Idan ka kula da waɗannan al'amura, ba wai kawai kana cika haƙƙoƙinka ga ɗanka ba ne, har ma suna zama tushen babban lada a gare ka a rayuwa ta gaba.

When you take care of these issues, you not only fulfil your responsibilities to your child, but they are a source of great reward for you in the life to come.

Wannan shi ne lokacin da matsaloli na gaske ke farawa. Yaronka ya fara samun tunani nasa, kuma a karon farko ya fara yin abubuwan da ba lallai ba ne ka umarce shi da yi ba.

This is when the real problems start. Your child develops a mind of his or her own, and for the first time starts to do things that you did not necessarily ask them to do.

Amma idan ka kwatanta matasa a Yamma da matasan da tsarin zamantakewar Musulunci ya tarbiyyantar, za ka ga yawancin fargabarka za ta kau. A nan ne ake ganin ayyukansu a matsayinsu na ɗa ko 'ya.

But if you compare youth in the West to youth who have been cultured by the environment of the Islamic Social System, you will find that most of your fears are allayed. Here their duties as a son or daughter become apparent :

1. Babu Soyayya Kafin Aure (Dating)

1. No Dating :

Kafofin watsa labarai suna zana wa matasa hoto cewa idan ba su da saurayi ko budurwa, dole ne akwai wani abu ba daidai ba a tare da su. A Musulunci kuwa, idan kana da saurayi ko budurwa, to akwai abin da ba daidai ba a salon rayuwarka. Manufar raba maza da mata ba wai kawai tana rage jarabawar aikata haka ba ne, har ma tana tabbatar da kiyaye mutunci da girmamawa ga maza da mata baki ɗaya. Maimakon haka, Musulunci yana ba da shawarar a aurar da 'ya'yanku da zarar sun iya, watau sun balaga. Allah (SWT) yana cewa: "Kada ku kusanci zina, domin ita alfasha ce kuma mummunar hanya, kuma tana buɗe hanyar wasu munanan ayyuka." [TMQ 17:32].

The media paints an image for youth that if they don’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend, there must be something wrong with them. In Islam, if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, there is something wrong with your lifestyle. The policy of segregation not only ensures that the temptation to do this is minimised, it also guarantees the preservation of dignity and respect for both men and women. Instead, Islam recommends you to get your children married as soon as they are able (i.e. mature). Allah (swt) says, “Do not come near zina (fornication or adultery), for it is a shameful deed and an evil, opening the road to other evils.” [TMQ 17:32].

Bukhari ya ruwaito cewa Annabi ﷺ ya ce: "Duk wanda yake iya yin aure, ya yi aure, domin hakan zai taimaka masa wajen kange idanunsa da kuma kare tsarkinsa."

Bukhari narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, “Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him lower his gaze and guard his modesty.”.

Anorexia, damuwa da kashe kai. Waɗannan na daga cikin matsaloli da dama da ke tasowa a cikin matasa sakamakon yadda kafafen watsa labarai ke nuna "kyakkyawan jiki." Cimma wannan yana fin ƙarfin mafi yawan mutane, duk da haka matasa suna samun kansu da tilasta yin ƙoƙarin dacewa da waɗannan manufofi marasa gaskiya. A Musulunci, abin da ake jaddadawa shi ne halayen mutum da taqwarsa, sabanin siffofin jiki.

Anorexia, depression and suicide. These are a few among many of the problems which arise in young people as a direct result of the way in which the media portrays the ‘ideal body.’ The achievement of this is beyond most ordinary people, yet young people find themselves forced to strive to conform to these unrealistic goals. In Islam, the emphasis is upon the character of the individual and his or her taqwa, as opposed to physical attributes.

Allah (SWT) ya ce, "Ya ku mutane! Mun halicce ku ne daga namiji da mace, kuma mun sanya ku al'umma da kabilu domin ku san juna. Lalle ne mafi daraja a cikinku a wurin Allah shi ne mafi tsoronsa." [TMQ 49:13].

Allah (swt) says, “O mankind! We have created you male and female, and have made you nations and tribes that you may know one another. Lo! the noblest of you in the sight of Allah, is the best in conduct.” [TMQ 49:13].

Lokacin da ɗanka ya kai girma, matsayi yana juyawa a zahiri, kuma lokaci ya yi da ɗanka zai biya alherin da ka yi masa. A Yamma, ana ganin iyaye tsofaffi a matsayin nauyi. Asibitoci da gidajen kula da tsofaffi cike suke da tsofaffi da kaɗaici waɗanda ke biyan farashin al'umma mai kishin kai. A Musulunci, alhakin kula da kai a tsufanka yana kan 'ya'yanka. Allah (SWT) yana cewa:

When your child achieves adulthood, the roles are effectively reversed, and it is time for your child to repay the kindness and benevolence that you have given them. In the West, aged parents are seen as a nuisance. Hospitals and residential homes are full of old and lonely people who pay the price of an individualistic society. In Islam, the responsibility to look after you in your old age lies on your children. Allah (swt) says,.

"Ku kuma ku kyautata wa iyayenku. Idan ɗaya daga cikinsu, ko duka biyun, sun kai tsufa a wurinku, kada ku ce musu 'uf', kada ku tsawata musu, amma ku yi magana da su da kalmomin girmamawa, ku miƙa musu fikafikan tausayinku cikin tawali'u, kuma ku ce: 'Ya Ubangijina! Ka yi musu rahama kamar yadda suka reno ni tun ina ƙarami.'" [TMQ 17:23-24].

“And do good to your parents. Should one of them, or both, attain old age in your care, never say ‘oof’ to them or scold them, but (always) speak to them with reverent speech, and spread over them humbly the wings of your tenderness, and say, “Oh my sustainer! Bestow Your grace upon them, even as they cherished and reared me as a child.” [TMQ 17:23-24].

Renon yara a Yammacin duniya aiki ne mai wuyar gaske. Saboda saƙonnin ruɗani da yara ke karɓa, daga iyayensu a gefe guda da kuma sauran al'ummar da ke kewaye da su a ɗayan gefen, babu mamaki da yawa daga cikin matasanmu suna ɓacewa daga hanya. Mafita ga matsalar tana cikin sake tsara dabi'u da abin koyi da ke yaɗuwa a duniyar da ke kewaye da ku, waɗanda ke shafar yadda yaronku ke girma da halayensa. Don haka, sai dai a ƙarƙashin jagorancin Daular Musulunci, da zaman lafiyar al'umma da take bayarwa, ne za ku iya tabbatar da rayuwar iyali mai farin ciki, mai kwanciyar hankali da nasara.

Bringing up your children in the West is an uphill struggle. With all the confused messages that they receive, from their parents on the one hand and the rest of the society around them on the other, it is no wonder why so many of our youth are going astray. The key to the problem lies in the reorganisation of the values and role models which are prevalent in the world around you, which affect the way in which your child develops and behaves. Thus, it is only under the guidance of the Islamic State, and the social stability that it offers, that you can be sure of a happy, stable and successful family life.