Bu vaqtda haqiqiy muammolar boshlanadi. Farzandingiz o'z fikriga ega bo'la boshlaydi va birinchi marta siz undan so'ramagan ishlarni qila boshlaydi.
This is when the real problems start. Your child develops a mind of his or her own, and for the first time starts to do things that you did not necessarily ask them to do.
Agar G'arbdagi yoshlarni Islomiy ijtimoiy tizim muhitida tarbiyalangan yoshlar bilan solishtirsangiz, qo'rquvlaringizning ko'pchiligi tarqalib ketganini ko'rasiz. Bu yerda ularning o'g'il yoki qiz sifatidagi burchlari yaqqol namoyon bo'ladi:
But if you compare youth in the West to youth who have been cultured by the environment of the Islamic Social System, you will find that most of your fears are allayed. Here their duties as a son or daughter become apparent :
1. Sanalashmaslik (Dating) yo'q:
1. No Dating :
Ommaviy axborot vositalari yoshlar ongiga shunday tasavvur singdiradi: agar sizda sevgilingiz yo‘q bo‘lsa, demak, sizda nimadir noto‘g‘ri. Islomda esa, agar sizda sevgili bo‘lsa, demak, turmush tarzingizda nimadir noto‘g‘ri. Erkaklar va ayollarni ajratish siyosati bunday yo‘lga kirish vasvasasini kamaytiradi, shu bilan birga ham erkaklar, ham ayollarning qadr-qimmati va hurmatini saqlashni kafolatlaydi. Buning o‘rniga Islom farzandlarni balog‘atga yetishi bilanoq, ya’ni voyaga yetganda turmushga berishni tavsiya etadi. Alloh (SWT) shunday deydi: “Zinoga yaqinlashmanglar, chunki u fahshdir va yomon yo‘ldir, boshqa yomonliklarga eshikni ochadi.” [TMQ 17:32].
The media paints an image for youth that if they don’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend, there must be something wrong with them. In Islam, if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, there is something wrong with your lifestyle. The policy of segregation not only ensures that the temptation to do this is minimised, it also guarantees the preservation of dignity and respect for both men and women. Instead, Islam recommends you to get your children married as soon as they are able (i.e. mature). Allah (swt) says, “Do not come near zina (fornication or adultery), for it is a shameful deed and an evil, opening the road to other evils.” [TMQ 17:32].
Buxoriy rivoyat qilishicha, Payg'ambar ﷺ shunday degan: "Kimki nikoh qilishga qodir bo'lsa, nikoh qilsin, chunki bu uning ko'zini pastga tushirishiga va iffatini saqlashiga yordam beradi."
Bukhari narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, “Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him lower his gaze and guard his modesty.”.
Ota-onaga itoat qilish:
Obedience to parents :
Ota-onaga hurmat va itoat qilish barcha musulmonlarga umri davomida farz qilingan. Islom farzandlaringizni sizni haqorat qilishdan, so'kishdan va hatto sizga qattiq ohangda gapirishdan qaytaradi. Alloh (SWT) shunday deydi:
Respect and obedience towards parents is enjoined upon all Muslims throughout their lives. Islam forbids your children to insult, abuse or even speak in a harsh tone towards you. Allah (swt) says,.
“Biz insonga ota-onasiga yaxshilik qilishni buyurdik. Onasi uni zo‘rg‘a-zo‘rg‘a ko‘tarib yurdi va zo‘rg‘a-zo‘rg‘a tug‘di. Uning emizilishi ikki yilda bo‘ldi: (Buyruqni eshiting) Menga va ota-onangizga shukr qiling: Oxirgi manzil Menga tegishlidir. Ammo agar ular seni Men bilan birga, bilmagan narsalarni Menga sherik qilishga majburlashsa, ularga itoat qilma.” [TMQ 31:14-15].
“And we have enjoined upon man to be good to his parents. In travail upon travail did his mother bear him. And in years twain was his weaning : (Hear the command) Show gratitude to Me and your parents : To me is (your final) goal. But if they strive to make you join in worship with me things of that which you have no knowledge, obey them not.” [TMQ 31:14-15].