Oilaviy tuzilmaning bir qismi farzandlarning dunyoga kelishi bilan bog'liq. Er-xotin farzandli bo'lgach, ular o'rtasidagi kuchli oilaviy aloqa va ota-onaning farzand bilan munosabati Shariat bilan belgilanadi va tartibga solinadi. Ham ona, ham ota farzandlari oldida mas'uliyatga ega, farzandlar esa ota-onasi oldida mas'uliyatga ega.

Part of the family structure involves the birth of offspring. Once a married couple have children, the strong familial bond and the relationship they have with their child is defined and regulated according to the Shari‘ah. Both the mother and father have responsibilities to their children, and the children too have responsibilities to their parents.

Xotinning ona sifatidagi roli faqat farzandlarni tarbiyalash va himoya qilish bilan cheklanmaydi, balki ularga haqiqiy dinni o‘rgatishni ham o‘z ichiga oladi.

The role of the wife as a mother not only includes rearing and protecting the children, but also to teach the children the true deen.

Payg'ambar ﷺ shunday dedilar: "Har bir bola fitrat ustida tug'iladi, so'ngra ota-onalari uni yahudiy yoki nasroniy yoki majusiy qilib qo'yadi." Anas rivoyat qiladi: Payg'ambar ﷺ shunday dedilar: "Farzandlaringizga saxiy bo'ling va ularga eng yaxshi odobni o'rgatishda mohir bo'ling." (Ibn Moja)

The Prophet (saw) said, “Every child is born on the fitrah, its parents later on making it a Jew or a Christian or a Pagan.” Anas reported that the Prophet (saw) said, “Be generous to your children, and excel in teaching them the best of conduct.” Ibn Majah.

Onalaning farzandlarini parvarish qilish va tarbiyalash yo'lida ko'targan qurbonliklari hamda sarflagan mehnatlari uchun ajri ulug'dir.

The reward for the mother for the sacrifices she makes and the efforts she spends for the sake of looking after and rearing her children are great.

Anas rivoyat qiladi: Ibrohimning enagasi Salamah Payg'ambar (ﷺ)ga dedi: "Ey Allohning Elchisi, siz erkaklarga xushxabar keltirdingiz, ayollarga esa keltirmadingiz." U zot dedilar: "Sizning ayol do'stlaringiz sizni shu savolni berishga undadimi?" U dedi: "Ha, shunday qilishdi." Payg'ambar (ﷺ) dedilar: "Sizlardan birortangizga yoqmaydimi, agar u erining farzandi bilan homilador bo'lsa va er undan rozi bo'lsa, u Allох yo'lida ro'za tutgan va namoz o'qigan kishining savobini oladi? Tug'ruq og'rig'i kelganda, osmonda ham, yerda ham hech kim uning qornidagi yashiringan narsani, uni xursand qiladigan narsani bilmaydi. Va u tug'ganda, undan bir og'iz sut oqmaydi va bola emadigan bir marta ham bo'lmaydiki, u har bir og'iz va har bir emish uchun bitta yaxshi amal savobini olmasin. Agar bola tufayli tunda uyqusi buzilsa, u Allох yo'lida yetmish qulni ozod qilgan kishining savobini oladi." Tabaroniy rivoyat qilgan.

Anas narrated that Salamah, the nurse of Ibrahim said to the Prophet (saw), “O Messenger of Allah, you brought tidings to men but not to women.” He said, “Did your women friends put you up to asking me this question?” She said, “Yes, they did.” He (saw) said, “Does it not please any of you that if she is pregnant by her husband and he is satisfied with her that she receives the reward of one who fasts and prays for the sake of Allah? And when the labour pains come none in heaven or earth knows what is concealed in her womb to soothe her. And when she delivers, not a mouthful of milk flows from her and not an instance of child’s suck, but that she receives, for every mouthful and every suck, the reward of one good deed. And if she is kept awake by the child at night, she receives the reward of one who frees seventy slaves for the sake of Allah.” Tabarani.

Bu yerda otaning farzandlari oldidagi asosiy vazifasi shuki, ular o'z mablag'ini topa oladigan darajaga yetgunicha, ularga kerakli barcha moddiy ta'minotni berishi lozim. Islom otaning farzandlariga mehribonlik bilan muomala qilishini tavsiya etadi va ular o'rtasida yaxshi munosabatlar saqlanishini targ'ib qiladi.

The emphasis here for the father with regard to his children is that he should provide for them all the material support that they require until they are able to fend for themselves. Islam encourages kind treatment of the children by the father, and recommends good relations be kept between them.

Al-Aqr‘a ibn Habis ﷺ ga tashrif buyurdi va u Payg‘ambar ﷺ nevaralari Hasan va Husaynni o‘payotganini ko‘rib hayron bo‘ldi. U: “Siz farzandlaringizni o‘payapsizmi?” deb so‘radi va o‘zining o‘nta farzandi borligini, lekin ulardan birortasini hech qachon o‘pmaganini qo‘shib qo‘ydi. Payg‘ambar ﷺ javob berdilar: “Bu sizda hech qanday rahm-shafqat va mehribonlik yo‘qligini ko‘rsatadi. Kimki boshqalarga rahm qilmasa, unga Allahning rahmati ko‘rsatilmaydi.”

A man named al-Aqr‘a ibn Habis visited the Prophet (saw) and was surprised to see him kissing his grandsons, Hasan and Husayn. “Do you kiss your children?” he asked, adding that he had ten children and never kissed one of them. The Prophet (saw) replied, “That shows that you have no mercy and tenderness at all. Those who do not show mercy to another will not have Allah’s mercy shown on them.”.

Ibn ‘Abbos rivoyat qilishicha, Payg‘ambar ﷺ shunday degan: “Agar biror musulmonning ikki qizi balog‘atga yetsa-yu, u ularga yaxshilik qilib, ularni o‘z suhbatida yaxshi ko‘rsa, ular uni Jannatga kiritmasdan qoladigan biror sabab bo‘lmaydi.” Ibn Hibbon.

Ibn ‘Abbas narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, “There is no Muslim, whose two daughters reach the age (of maturity), and he is good to them as a companion, and they do not cause him to enter Paradise.” Ibn Hibban.

Islom bolalarga ota-onalariga hurmat bilan munosabatda bo‘lishni va ularga mehr-muruvvat hamda muhabbat bilan yondashishni buyuradi. Bola ota-onasiga itoat qilishi kerak. Bu itoat ikki turga bo‘linadi:

Islam enjoins that children are respectful to their parents and treat them with kindness and affection. The child must obey his or her parents. This obedience falls into two categories:

Ota-onaning huquqi bo'lgan masalalar: Bularga ota-onaning o'zlariga tegishli bo'lgan sohalar kiradi, masalan, ona yoki otaga xizmat qilish. Otasi uning vali (vasiy) bo'lgan ayol uchun uyidan chiqishda otasidan ruxsat so'rashi otaning huquqidir, va u shunga, hamda vali sifatida unga tegishli barcha huquqlarga itoat qilishi kerak. Bularning barcha holatlarida farzandning itoat qilishi farzdir.

Issues which are the right of the parent : These include areas which are of the concern to the parents themselves such as to serve the mother or father. For a woman whose father is her waliy (guardian) it is the father’s right that she seeks his permission to go out of the house, and she must obey this and all the rights he has as her waliy. In all these cases, it is fard (obligatory) for the child to obey.

Bolaning huquqiga oid masalalar: Bularga bolaning o‘zi bilan bog‘liq bo‘lgan sohalar kiradi, masalan, nima yeyishi, kimga uylanishi yoki turmushga chiqishi va hokazo. Bunday hollarda ota-onaga itoat qilish bola uchun mandub (tavsiya etiladigan) hisoblanadi.

Issues which are the right of the child : These include areas which are the concern of the child him or herself, such as what they should eat, who they should marry, etc. In these cases, it is mandub (recommended) for the child to obey the parents.

Xuddi er kishi xotinini buyurganda bo'lgani kabi, agar ota-ona farzandga biror ishda itoat qilishni buyursa, masalan, Allohga (SWT) itoatsizlik bo'lgan ishni qilishni, harom ishni qilishni yoki farzni tark etishni buyursa, u holda farzandga itoat qilish na vojib, na mustahab bo'ladi. Aksincha, bunday hollarda farzandning itoat qilishi haromdir. Alloh (SWT) aytadi: "Biz insonga ota-onasiga yaxshilik qilishni buyurdik. Onasi uni qiyinchilik ustiga qiyinchilik bilan ko'tardi, uni ikki yilda emizdi. Menga va ota-onangga shukr qil! Qaytib boradigan joy Menga bordir. Agar ular seni Men bilan biror narsani sherik qilishga, bilmagan narsangga (sherik qilishga) majbur qilsalar, ularga itoat qilma" (Luqmon, 14-15). [TMQ 31:14-15]

However as is the case when the husband orders his wife, if the parent orders the child to obey them in something that is a disobedience to Allah (swt), like to do something haram or to neglect a fard, then it is neither obligatory nor recommended for the child to obey. Rather, in these cases, it is haram for the child to obey. Allah (swt) says, “And we have enjoined upon man to be good to his parents. In travail upon travail did his mother bear him. And in years twain was his weaning : (Hear the command) Show gratitude to Me and your parents : To Me is (your final) goal. But if they strive to make you join worship with Me things of that which you have no knowledge, obey them not.” [TMQ 31:14-15]